Writer Bi Shumin said:
There are too many people who think that love is speechless in the depths. In fact, love is a kind of emotion that is difficult to describe and needs to be expressed and conveyed in detail.
In China, especially those born in the 1960s and 1970s, they are very traditional. They basically do not express love, and are even more ashamed to say the three words "I love you".
But in fact, in a family, you must always be good at expressing love.
A family that is good at expressing and conveying love must have an atmosphere of harmony and friendship, and the relationship between family members will be more harmonious.
Then, naturally, if a child grows up in such a family, his mentality, personality and other aspects will be very positive, which will have a positive impact on the child's life.
In 2015, a study by Notre Dame University showed that children who are caring for their parents will be happier when they become adults! More than 600 adults were surveyed on growth, and the report showed that people who were cared for more parents in childhood showed less depression and anxiety, and were emotionally happier and more compassionate.
So, how do you need to express love? Just saying "I love you"?
obviously not.
's expression of children's love should mainly start from the following five aspects.
Talk to your children equally, don’t use command tone
Many parents treat their children with a high tone and attitude, so tough that "you must listen to me today."
In fact, the most important thing in talking to children is to let them know that they are very important to you.
So when parents talk to their children, they must put themselves in the right position, respect their children, ask their thoughts more in a gentle tone, and answer their questions patiently.
let them know that you are interested in their topic.
If conditions permit, spend 15-20 minutes a day to have a conversation, during which time, put down your phone and chat with them with all concentration.
We often teach children not to be addicted to mobile phones, but the best education is actually to set an example. Only when adults no longer addicted to mobile phones can children make corresponding changes.
33 Make more time and play with your children
Always remember this sentence: Every great parent is also a naughty parent!
As parents, don’t just focus on your children’s academic performance. You should also take time to play with them in normal times. Only in this way can you enter their world, become their friends, and your children can open your heart to you.
Playing together is the best way to connect with your children and show them that you value them enough.
Playing with children is the most important way to express love to children.
believes that if you do this for a long time, you can feel that your child and your parent-child relationship will become closer and closer, and your child will trust you more and more.
hug them more and say "I love you"
Many parents in life often take a very indifferent approach when their children cry, throw their children aside, meaning that they will just wait for them to cry enough.
In fact, at this time, children need comfort the most and need a big hug from you to tell them, "Mom and Dad love you, it doesn't matter."
Don't underestimate the power of saying "I love you" to your child, nor underestimate the power of physical contact strengthening the bond of love with your child.
Hug the child before or after get off work every day and tell him "I love you" so that the child can feel love at all times and will feel full of security.
Create a special sense of ritual
This kind of ritual does not have to be so complicated or expensive, such as bringing back a small gift every time you go on a business trip; holding a small party on your birthday;
Or do handicrafts with your children on weekends, praise them and hit a high-five when the children are doing well...
No matter what it is, do it regularly and regularly to let the children know that this unique ceremony is for them.
Children will also feel that they are very important to their parents and will feel strong love.
Try to let children participate in more decisions
For example, what to eat for dinner? Where to go on weekends? How long have you watched a cartoon? What clothes do you wear today, how to match them, etc.
Ask your children more about their opinions and respect their opinions to implement them. This will let the children know that their opinions are important and increase their sense of belonging and security.
I remember when I was a child, when my parents asked me what to do about something, I suddenly felt like "being the boss". The feeling was wonderful, and I felt recognized and respected.
Don't ignore children's opinions, as this can also cultivate children's ability to think independently.
Children need to feel "love" and can only focus on other things, such as learning and creation, only when they feel safe and loved.
So, spend more time with your child and express love, so that he can know how much you love him.
This is a compulsory course that every parent should do.
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