Father is a great name. When people talk about father, their solid arms and majestic figures will appear in their minds.
However, not all fathers are like this, because those "physiological" fathers may not be qualified fathers. They may be legal and biological fathers, but they do not assume the responsibilities that they should have as fathers.
It is not that easy to become a qualified father.
When I was a father, I was actually very "ignorant" and felt that I didn't know what was going on.
When I saw the child born, I didn’t realize that it was my child, but I was touched in my heart, but I didn’t know how to face this little life.
The first month of the child's newborn , I didn't even dare to hug , and I didn't know how to hug it, and I didn't even sleep with the child at night.
The child was born in the first year . I am still the one with a "child mentality". I don't know that I have to take care of the child, I don't know that I have to take care of the child with care. I am still like before, so I have always been the mother of the child and the elderly at home.
The child was born The second year . I was far away from my hometown because of work reasons and only went home during the Chinese New Year.
Later, when my child was in kindergarten, I was transferred back to work, but even at this time, I still did not have the awareness of being a father, and only knew how to do my own things every day.
However, as time goes by, I gradually felt the responsibility of being a father, and the mother of the child also felt that I should be a real father, so she gave me the key tasks of taking care of the child.
At this time, I realized that to be a father, it is not enough to have children. There is so much that a father needs to know.
How to become a qualified father? It is the answer that many dads want to know.
What exactly is a qualified father like? People's Daily gave us the answer
Know what to say and what to do
As a father, you should practice the rules and tell the rules and know what you should say and what you should do.
Father's language influence is great, and his father generally speaks more "directly", so he often says direct but negative things like "Don't ask so much", "I'm busy", "You are so stupid", "You can do whatever you want".
These words will seriously affect the child's psychological development. Therefore, fathers should know how to say positive words and encourage words, and use praise and affirmation to "open the way" for their children, and the child will definitely be excellent.
Fathers have a great influence, so some things that fathers must do, such as things that seem to be "only mothers are suitable" to do, such as telling stories to children, doing handicrafts with children, taking children to visit, etc. A father is not a machine that only knows how to make money, but a father of a child.
Know how to accompany and respect children
I remember one time I got drunk and called a designated driver. I learned that his daughter had always wanted him to accompany him to the amusement park, but he dragged it on again and again.
The real reason is: the tickets to the amusement park are 2300 yuan, and you can earn 2300 yuan a day. If you go there once, you will need to "lose" five or six hundred yuan. These five or six hundred yuan are their family's weekly catering expenses. Therefore, he had to "absent" his child's life, and dragged it again and again with "kind lie".
I have to say that this is a respectable father, but he does not understand the true meaning of his father.If a child wants to grow up healthily, his father is indispensable. A truly qualified father should not miss his child's life .
Because only with sound parents can children have a sound personality and correct development. At the same time, some "kind lies" that have "long-term significance" in the eyes of adults may not be "kind" to children, and children also need respect. Please do not regard children as "children". They should respect their wishes. Even "kind lies" are deceptions.
Be understanding and humble and self-pardon
As the saying goes, "Long live understanding". As a father, you should understand your children, lower your attitude, and treat your children from an equal perspective and an equal height.
I still remember when my child first came to puberty, rebellious and willful, which made me crazy . However, I was not angry because I knew how my child showed during adolescence, so I increased my companionship with my children and thought from the perspective of everything, and thought deeply about my children's thinking and concepts, so as to understand my children's true thoughts.
Finally, my low attitude made the child feel my sincerity. Although he still had some impulses occasionally, he did not "common with his parents" like other children, but instead spent his adolescence gently and got into an ideal key university.
Children are the shadow of parents. If you are humble, they will not be so rebellious.
Having a sense of responsibility, distinguishing right from wrong
A sense of responsibility is an important trait that every child must possess. Understanding right and wrong is the basis for ensuring a correct sense of responsibility.
When I was a father, I had the embarrassment of "missing". Once, I saw my child taking a tablet while doing homework. I thought the child was playing games, so I scolded the child for taking it for granted. But I found that the child was not playing with the tablet, but looking at the homework details in the class group. In an instant, I felt my old face turned red.
However, I did not "maintain my dignity", but admitted my mistake to my child with integrity. This is a manifestation of distinguishing right from wrong and a sense of responsibility.
Sometimes, things that seem "hard" will be easy to do as long as you have a sense of responsibility.
pursues continuous progress and is full of exploration
Fathers are knowledgeable and have super abilities compared to their children. Therefore, many fathers feel that there is no need to "progress" in front of their children, because children will never reach their "height".
But in fact, on the way to accompany your children, as a father, not only should he know how to learn new things, but he also needs to constantly strengthen his abilities.
Because what you think is "unnecessary" is actually "very necessary". Everyone has their own shortcomings and deficiencies. A qualified father knows to constantly discover his own shortcomings and correct his own shortcomings.
You should know that as a father, continuous progress and exploration is not only a way to improve his own parenting methods, but also an important part of his father's endless learning spirit, which is also a child's need to learn.
Conclusion
A good father is the guiding light for his child’s life, a warm harbor for his child’s confusing period, and a solid backing for his child’s development history.
No matter how busy the work or the hard life is, please don’t forget to be a qualified and good father and be a good guide for your children. I hope you can encourage each other.
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