For mother Tingting, the one she least wants to recall is the "dark" time during the confinement period of . Tingting's confinement period is served by her mother-in-law. She is a rural person and works quickly, but she does not pay attention to details and speaks straightforwardly.
And Tingting happens to be a "special person" and has a bit of a cleanliness obsession. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lived together and almost never stopped, and they often had a big fuss. During the entire confinement period, Tingting couldn't eat well and couldn't sleep well. She lost weight all over and felt so little milk.
Many mothers have similar experiences in confinement as Tingting. Many people have formed an irreconcilable "confinement hatred" with their mother-in-law because of confinement.
A mother in Changchun, Jilin is relatively lucky. She doesn’t have to worry about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during her confinement period, and her mother-in-law is the "source of happiness" during her confinement period.
What magical magic does this mother-in-law have that makes her daughter-in-law smile from ear to ear?
It turned out that because she had no time to serve her daughter-in-law during confinement, she specially asked her son to give her daughter-in-law a "big gift" to express her apologies. This gift is , a big gold bar weighing four kilograms .
When her husband mentioned that her mother-in-law gave her a gift, the mother was not concerned about the gift at first, and she lay on the bed and played with her mobile phone calmly.
But when she knew that this gift was a "heavy" gold bar, her whole body changed and she became radiant. She took the two big gold bars given by her mother-in-law and looked at them over and over again, her face full of surprise.
This "fairy" mother-in-law caused a lot of sensation on the Internet. Some netizens estimated the value of these two gold bars based on the current gold price. I don’t know. It’s really shocking to calculate. The combined value of the two gold bars of is nearly 800,000!
Because I couldn’t serve my daughter-in-law during confinement, I gave me 800,000 gold bars. This mother-in-law was so “rendered”!
Looking at the smile on the face of the daughter-in-law, I believe that the so-called conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not exist in such a family. Some netizens said: Is there any problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that cannot be solved by a gold bar? If so, then let’s have another gold bar. Some netizens even joked: Where can I find a mother-in-law like ? Please give me a dozen.
No matter how much jokes are, no matter how much envy is. After all, mother-in-law who has such "superpower" and is generous is a minority and "rare".
For ordinary pregnant mothers in ordinary families, there is a realistic problem that needs to be thought of in advance, that is: for ordinary pregnant mothers, how can take a comfortable confinement period? After all, no one is willing to form a "deep hatred" with their mother-in-law, and even never interact with each other when they die.
There is an idiom in China called "be prepared for any trouble". If you want to have a good confinement, pregnant mothers also need to prepare in advance.
If you want to have a comfortable confinement period, pregnant mothers need to prepare for these aspects
① confinement meal meal preparation
Many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are related to confinement meals. The same is true for her mother Tingting. Her has always been lighter in taste . Sometimes she will eat some and eat lightly to reduce the burden on her body.
, and Tingting's , mother-in-law is a rural woman who has always done physical work and prefers foods that are heavy in taste, salt and oil in terms of diet.
When the mother-in-law carefully prepared a sumptuous confinement meal for Tingting, but Tingting frowned and could not move her chopsticks, misunderstandings and conflicts between the two also arose.
Therefore, if you want to have a good confinement period, the first thing pregnant mothers need to consider is their confinement meal.After all, everyone has different tastes. Even the best chef, is difficult to make dishes that satisfy everyone.
If you want to eat comfortably on your own, pregnant mothers should consider two issues during pregnancy. The first is who will make the confinement meal? The second is the recipe arrangement for confinement meals. After considering these two problems of
, the main problems of pregnant mothers during the subsequent confinement period will be solved. The mother eats comfortably and feels happy. is not only conducive to the secretion of milk, but also conducive to the harmony of the family.
②Learning of parenting knowledge
The reason why the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is prone to break out during confinement is related to the arrival of new family members. The two generations are particularly prone to differences in parenting concepts. Sometimes a very small point, such as , should the child wear socks, which can make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel.
In order to avoid differences in parenting between the two generations during confinement, pregnant mothers need to do their homework in advance and learn scientific parenting methods during pregnancy.
Moreover, learning alone is not enough, because the main person responsible for taking care of children during confinement is not the mother. It is best for pregnant mothers to hold their husbands to study together during pregnancy.
At that time, even if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have differences, because after learning scientific parenting knowledge in advance, the mother will be more confident and will be more likely to obtain support from family members.
③Determine in advance who will take care of the confinement period
In traditional concepts, mother-in-law is often the main candidate for serving the confinement period. But in fact, mother-in-law is not the best candidate.
If pregnant mothers want to have a comfortable confinement period, is best to choose and let their mother or husband serve them in confinement period.
Of course, if the family's financial conditions allow, you can also hire a confinement nanny , or go to the confinement center to take the confinement , which can give the mother a better experience.
Because the mother is prone to being in a bad mood during the confinement period, if she is by her side, the person who is closer to her is to take care of her, which is more conducive to the mother's postpartum recovery.
Don’t think that men cannot serve confinement. When under pressure, men can still become excellent "dads". If you want to have a good confinement period, Pregnant mothers should think in advance about where they will take the confinement period and who will take the confinement period.
Parenting Message
"Immortal" mother-in-law is hard to come by. If you want to have a good confinement period, instead of putting your expectations on your mother-in-law, pregnant mothers should prepare themselves in advance.
Pregnant mothers should consider the possible situations they may encounter after giving birth and prepare carefully in all aspects, so it is not difficult to have a comfortable confinement period.
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