Author: Zhao Xiaoming Editor: Yang Liyun
Xiaoming Quotes
Don’t try to change the child’s personality through parental guidance and family education , because the child’s personality first comes from the genetic inheritance of both parents. In other words, the parent’s personality traits are innate. If the child is influenced by parents, the result will only strengthen the genetic performance and make the child more like himself.
Today we will continue to talk about " Social Cognitive Psychology " . Rotter attaches more importance to the impact of expectation in human motivation . He found in a scale that a person's attributive when he completes something, he can only use when he is .
If is attributed to good luck or the influencing factors given by the outside world , strengthening will be useless.
01 Where does the motivation for learning come from?
The theory is applied to children's learning motivation today. We can find that if a child associates the success of in school with his own efforts , then he will be willing to accept .
If the parents are given to him or The outside world rewards and stimulates him, he will not have the motivation to learn and may even form a low-desire state.
If can achieve a task through hard work, I will think that hard work is my inner driving force of . It is useful to get an external reward at this time.
difficulty exceeds My efforts, for example, I worked hard this semester and made up a lot of classes, but the grades did not change significantly. In this case, the encouragement and rewards given to him by the outside world are useless.
Now, the children are caused by inclination , and the result of excessive effort of is that the children's efforts seem insignificant and the returns are not obvious. Some parents told their children that as long as they don’t learn to die, they will learn to die. No matter how hard he works and is naturally smart, under the influence of these external factors, his success in cannot be attributed to .
In this case, people are unwilling to accept the stimulation and encouragement given by the outside world, so that they can continue to move towards the task. In other words, the task of is too heavy, so I no longer want to work hard on .
02 Why do children like to stay in the game world to gain a sense of accomplishment?
game attracts children to continue playing . The first level will definitely give you a sense of accomplishment in to simply complete tasks , and then you will encounter more difficult tasks, the more you go up, the harder it will be. But as long as you keep doing something inside, you will get points; if you spend more time, you will get points.
and the sense of accomplishment of learning to overcome the levels is that our children’s learning tasks are too heavy . Only a few children will find it not difficult to complete the learning tasks. Most children will feel that completing study and homework tasks is too difficult than ranking.
Foreign children graded learning tasks can decide which grade of mathematics to learn based on their current ability level, so that they can always choose a task that can be completed and the sense of accomplishment obtained.
This is also the reason why double reduction policy China requires that grades are not allowed to be announced to children. But in reality, children will still know their ranking in school. So for a period of time, children will still lose motivation slowly , and they won’t care about the rewards given to them by the outside world.
03 Social control theory
and the behaviorist conditional stimulation theory and Freud survival and sexual drive theory are different. It cares more about the driving force that people expect to give themselves, and it just gives us the third option of in the middle .
In addition to simple conditioned reflexes, it also removes the subconscious psychological mechanism of psychoanalysis research, giving us a theory that combines the idea of cross-combination between through certain conditioned reflexes and certain brain cognitive expectations.
Rotter's theory also found that if a person suddenly falls from the peak of success into the abyss of failure, he will almost no longer have any hope and will not be willing to work harder.
Why? Because people will feel that no matter how hard I try, I can't achieve the achievement I achieved at that time, and they will think that the factors controlled by my efforts have been used up. At this time, people will no longer accept the reflex effect given to them by conditional stimulation .
So you can see that some people go gambling at this time and choose to play games with some children. Because through gambling and games, it seems that they can control a little bit and satisfy their idea of wanting to verify their luck.
Video game is a frustrated alternative , which replaces inner achievement motivation that a person can control . If the child can get the hope that he can still succeed through his own efforts, then will extend the deadline for finally giving up his efforts .
04 The goal of cultivating a person
internal control determines the final result of a thing , regenerating driving force and striving should become the goal of education and training.
instead of making a person feel that things are not under my control. The outside world has the final say and the luck has the final say. What such a person loses is a kind of motivation for achieving .
Chinese Ancients learned Zhouyi What is the purpose of? Why is it called Zhouyi? is easy to change the meaning of . It is not to surrender to fate, but to discover the laws of fate through , to avoid misfortune, to manipulate and control part of the destiny of , and to obtain the improvement of the quality of your own destiny.
"The Book of Changes" is a very positive philosophy of life . The most important thing is Qian Gua , that is, gentlemen should strive for self-improvement .
And the philosophy in children's minds is that is not positive enough , or even negative . This once again explains to everyone why children gradually become hyponecological syndrome .
Xiao Ming Quotes
What we can change is to provide children with a environment for companionship and natural growth, which is the starting point. Add some guidance and education to them for understanding social classes and social truth, so that children can answer their own confusion in growth. This is a healthy way for children to grow up.
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