As the saying goes: Raise children in poverty and raise children in wealth and raise children in wealth . Most people believe in this sentence in their hearts, which is also their usual parenting method.
However, most people mainly only start from the economic and material level and do not really understand the meaning of this sentence, which leads to a deviation between "poor cultivation" and "rich cultivation".
Especially when the family is a son, give the child a simple meal, Occasionally the child wants to have a " Economic sanctions ", making the child always think that his family is living a life of not having the next meal.
sometimes does have a certain incentive effect, but sometimes it backfires.
You must use the right method to support poverty, otherwise it may cause new problems
A few days ago, and his son did something sad and funny.
Two days ago, the child said he would not go to school no matter what. When asked why, he couldn't tell me why.
Although I went to school under the coercion and temptation of my best friend, the teacher reported that the child looked unintended.
This situation lasted for two or three days, and my best friend realized something was wrong. After asking carefully, she found a ridiculous answer.
It turned out that the teacher told me about the new school uniform in the class, and the child felt that his family had no money and was embarrassed to go to school.
In fact, this has something to do with the best friend’s education method. Best friend believes that his son must be raised in poverty. Every time the child wants to spend money to buy toys, best friend says Balabala said that the family has no money.
Usually everyone else’s old clothes come, which does not give the children the illusion of being poor at home.
discussed with my best friend. It would be impossible to raise a child in poverty. It is still unknown whether the child can become a talent in the future. If you develop a weak and cowardly personality from an early age, it will not be worth the loss.
Why do people think boys should be raised in poverty?
is afraid that children are not aggressive, There is a boy in the family, and what they are afraid of is that children are not aggressive.
Because in most hearts, boys have a heavier social responsibility and will have to bear the heavy responsibility of supporting their family in the future. The generous living conditions may develop their unimprovemental character.
To a certain extent, it is not about raising but about constraints. So "raising poverty" is to inspire boys' ambitions, to stimulate their pioneering spirit, and to be enterprising.
I am afraid that my children will not know what responsibility is. There are fewer and fewer children at home now, and most of them live a life of clothes that can reach out to eat and open their mouths.
Many parents have taken on the responsibilities that their children should have. In the long run, their children become irresponsible.
Tolstoy once said: "If a person does not have enthusiasm, he will accomplish nothing, and the basis of enthusiasm is responsibility."
So "raising poverty" is to make him understand responsibility, dare to take responsibility, and be a man who stands tall and upright.
In fact, whether in ancient times or modern times, sons must be raised in poverty and wealth, and do not tend to be in either direction. The rich and nourishment here does not mean material things, but more spiritual things.
To raise wealth from these aspects, boys are more promising
To be "rich" in education Only when a person receives education can he understand the truth and understand the worldly sense.
Now many parents have entered a misunderstanding when raising their children, enrolling girls in the "piano, poetry, calligraphy and painting" class, and boys are free to stock. This approach is somewhat extreme.
The education of boys cannot be ignored. You must know that the social responsibilities that men bear when entering society are facing greater social pressure and competition. Investment in education is to lay the foundation for children in the future.
Don’t be reluctant to invest in education. You should know that your efforts today are laying the foundation for their tomorrow.
emotional "rich" In fact, the relationship between boys and parents in Chinese families is completely opposite to the relationship between girls and parents, especially the relationship between father and son.
Chinese people are more restrained in their emotional expression, especially their fathers, and their emotions are often expressed by actions. The older the child is, the more distant the parent-child relationship is.
In fact, the emotions between the family also need to be expressed. The father can also say "love" loudly, and boys should also be surrounded by love.
Teaching children to not suppress their emotions and express them loudly when they encounter something that makes them dissatisfied.
Family is an important place to cultivate children's emotions. Parents should not express their love for their children in a stingy manner. When the child is wrong, they should also be calm and well-regarded and correct him clearly.
Emotionally rich boys are more tolerant in their hearts and will be more confident and self-reliant when facing setbacks in the future.
Hope is "rich" Now many families are only children, and several adults in the family are around one child, and they care too much about the children.
Boy can’t live in a greenhouse anymore. They have to go out, communicate with people outside their families, and see more of the outside world.
A person’s vision is not something that can be read, it is to come out.
Every place has its own characteristics, and don’t be limited to one acre and three-point land at home.
You will find that taking your children out often will make them more confident, more careful, and good at discovering changes around you.
does not need to go around the world if conditions do not allow it, go around when you are fine.
If conditions permit, you can go to a farther place, just don’t keep your child at home anyway.
Conclusion:
The material conditions are now good, don’t blindly pursue a poor son who is frugal.
Children who are not materially scarce are more confident, so they must grasp the same degree as both poor and rich.
Today’s topic:
What other issues should parents pay attention to when raising boys?
