Nowadays, children seem to be very busy and need to be trained in various specialties at a young age. Parents are also busy. In addition to working and dealing with family problems, they also have to help their children manage their time.
So is the time of a child a must-do project for parents? How can parents let go and let their children manage their time by themselves?
Children's time management education should be based on the child's situation and use appropriate methods to "prescribe the right medicine"
Nana is 3 years old this year and has just entered kindergarten. Every morning, my child is particularly procrastinating, so he is always late. The teacher talked to Nana's mother about this issue. The child is late every day, which has a great impact on Nana's integration into collective life.
Mom is also worried. Nana's 4th birthday is coming, and the kindergarten is okay, but the child is about to reach school age. If he is late every day, it will be bad.
Mom and the teacher studied it. On the birthday, the mother solemnly said to Nana: "If you can be quicker every morning and not late for kindergarten, your mother will celebrate your birthday."
Nana quickly understood what my mother said, if she was late for kindergarten, she would not celebrate her birthday. Nana quickly changed the bad habit of being procrastinated in the morning.
Let children be aware of the problem of "learning to manage time by themselves", cultivate children's self-discipline awareness
If you want children to do something, you must first cultivate children's awareness of this matter . For example, when it comes to getting up, most parents wake up their children manually and shout loudly. "I'm almost late to kindergarten!"
. As for the child, his parents almost didn't lift his quilt, and the sky fell and couldn't wake up. But if the cartoon he loved to watch was about to start, he would have gotten up early.
Children do not have an accurate concept of time, so why adults think that time passes quickly. A university professor in Japan related fields once explained this reason:
001 was one-tenth of a 10-year-old child since he was born, and in the eyes of 50-year-old people, it was one-fifty.
For children, the present is more meaningful than the "past" and "future", so they often pass the time meaninglessly. This behavior is a waste of time in the eyes of adults.
This kind of meaningless and "waste of time" in the eyes of adults is essential in the process of children's growth. Because children grow up through groping.
So when children procrastinate and disobedient, parents might as well review their childhood. is not difficult to find that is constantly preparing for adulthood in childhood.
Let the child understand the consequences of getting up late, so the child will get up by himself without the parents' urging. Children should start to gradually develop self-management ability from the age of 3, including management time .
The reason why the child who overslept in the morning blamed his parents for not waking him is because the child felt that the matter of his wake up was the matter of his parents, and he did not realize it was his own problem.
This requires the child to understand whose responsibility it is, and tell the child calmly that it is not the responsibility of others when he wakes up, but his own business.
You should know that roaring has no effect. He will consider what to do so that he will not oversleep. As long as the child understands what the consequences will be if he does not obey time, the child will consciously abide by time.
Let children learn to experience it, which is very important for children's growth
Self-management time is also a matter of time in the children's daily life, and they should gradually let them try it, and cultivate their children's ability to be independent little by little, and they should not be too hasty. Through time management, children can develop good life patterns.
Let children realize the passage of time: Children’s work and rest time cannot be the same as adults. The peach blossoms are blooming, spring is here; the leaves of the ginkgo trees on the roadside are yellow, autumn is here. The changes of seasons make us feel the passage of time.
Spring Festival, Children's Day, Mid-Autumn Festival, National Day and family members' birthdays, etc., some days worth celebrating can add color to life and let children feel the passage of time.
People can always think of the past and think of what it was last year, which is the nodes of time.
Put seasonal flowers in the vase, make some seasonal furnishings, put vegetables on the dining table, and things with seasonal colors. To these details can bring changes to our daily lives and nourish our souls. Let your children participate in seasonal activities more to make their childhood more fulfilling.
teaches children to understand the clock and time, and connect time and action: "It's about ××." Or, "When the shorter hour hand goes to the number ×, it's the time to eat." "We have to go out to play at 9 o'clock, and we have to be prepared." ...
links " moment " and " action " to help children naturally understand the concept of moments from life.
It is recommended to place a clock in every room. Let the child understand the concept of moment and feel the time: will not let the child look at the clock for now, let him guess what time it is now.
consciously introduces the concept of time to create a game atmosphere during chatting with children.
When going out, use simple conversations to compete with your children to guess the time. Ask your child what time it is, "The sun is above your head now, is it almost 12 noon?"
Many clues, such as the sun, shadow, moon, etc., can help children understand the changes in time and the changes in people and things around them.
list, and there is a clear time benchmark for division: time cannot be seen and cannot be divided consciously, so it will slip away without realizing it.
When children watch their favorite cartoons and play happily, they will feel that time is fast. And when you are bored and waiting for the red light, you will feel that time is slow. This psychological difference causes a person to feel differently about the length of time.
is also 1 minute. Waiting for traffic lights will make people feel slow, while watching cartoons will pass quickly for children.
preset “from what time and what to do” to let children know what time is now and develop the good habit of dividing time.
"Now is the time to play." "Now is the time to rest." When parents tell their children what to do, they should clearly inform their children of specific goals.
Agree with the child to end before the child starts to take action. Make it clear what is "must be done" and what is "wanted to do".
and then help the child list these two items separately. This habit of being able to order things before taking action will make the child achieve twice the result with half the effort.
Before parents give orders, the child will think about
Before the words "Go and do it!" are expressed, the child should be trained to think about "what should be done" and then take the initiative to do it.
For example, prepare tomorrow's things before going to bed, say "good night" to your parents, and then go to bed on time.
Many parents think that it seems impossible to let their children do this. That's too much underestimation of the child, and children can do this.
If parents guide them reasonably, children will develop good habits of thinking from an early age and know how to arrange their time. Instead of giving orders or chatting about children, they will do it.
When you grow up, you become a punctual, trustworthy, planned and organized person. This is a habit that you should develop since childhood.
When guiding children, parents should pay attention to their words and tone. Instead of making children obedient, it is better to understand their children’s ideas more, encourage them to ask questions actively, and let them spontaneously act .
Parents should not think that their children are still young. Punctuality is the basic behavior of integrity. Complete the agreed tasks within the specified time is also a guarantee of efficiency.
Wait until he grows up and teaches him again, but "Tomorrow and tomorrow, how many tomorrows are tomorrow?" After so many "tomorrows" are accumulated together, the child will grow up unknowingly.
Candy Mom’s thoughts:
Poor time management is almost a "common problem" for most children. Parents usually arrange their time for their children, but they can’t do everything well yesterday. Suddenly, parents tell their children to manage their time themselves, and the children might think they have made some mistakes.
Sometimes, in the eyes of parents, it is an insignificant event and a top priority for children. Be sure to listen patiently to your child’s reasons. Let children reflect on themselves through communication.
Therefore, when making plans, combining stressful and relaxed things will help improve efficiency.
[Today’s Topic]
When educating children, what good methods do you have to share?
