Just saw a short video, a mother accused her child of uncle, saying that her child was disobedient and pushed her. Then the uncle told her not to cook for him or not to pay attention to him. As a result, when the child came back for dinner in the evening, his uncle scolded her son away from the dining table. After the meal, he beat her son up and cried.
Then a group of people in the comments praised this uncle's approach.
After reading this uncle's approach, I could only give two words - haha.
I will ask you, if the husband quarrels with his wife, and my brother-in-law comes to scold her husband, is it said that this husband will be nice to his wife in the future? It is certainly impossible. The biggest possibility is that the husband and his wife have a worse relationship, because the brother-in-law's behavior will only add fuel to the fire.
Do your brother-in-law know the cause of the incident? Just get involved in the matter between other couples? Is it because of this unreasonable and unreasonable wife? And will this wife feel that she has the support of her parents and in the family, she must suppress her husband in everything. Can such a marriage be maintained?
The same is true for educating children. This uncle's behavior will only make the child hate his mother even more.
Uncle gave me advice, saying that I would ignore the child and not cook for the child. I'll ask you: Don't you want this son?
If you don’t want it anymore, it doesn’t matter. You can ignore him and ignore him. But may I ask if the mother is willing to break off the relationship? Can you insist on ignoring your child, insist on not cooking for your child, and ignore watching your child starve to death? Don’t you care if your child runs away from home?
is obviously impossible. In terms of the relationship between parents and children, parents are weak, so children can use suicide, jumping off buildings and other methods to threaten their parents. Needless to say, you ignore your children or cook for them. If your children ignore you and don’t eat the food you cook, you will eventually see who is anxious.
So this method has no executability at all. It is completely annoying. It has no positive effect except aggravating the contradictions.
Of course, it is definitely wrong for the child to fight with his parents, so the uncle can warn him or even hit him. But this warning or beating is based on the fact that the child's mother is his sister. Anyone who touches his sister will protect his sister, instead of beating him deliberately because he is a son. The uncle should let the child know that his mother is his sister and he needs to maintain his sister's safety.
Don’t say that you beat him up just to educate him. Your uncle is not qualified to educate him. The problem between mother and child requires mother and child’s own sister, and it’s not your uncle’s turn to get involved. Of course, my uncle can give advice, but don’t directly participate in education.
And mothers should also reflect on their behavior.
In fact, in most cases, parents often act too much, which ultimately forces their children to take action. Don’t always blame your child for being wrong. Why don’t your mother reflect on whether she is doing too much? Without the stimulation of being a mother like you, the child would not have the corresponding behavior.
If you have any problems, then apologize to the child and seek forgiveness from the child. At the same time, point out the child’s wrongness and let the child apologize to himself. Everyone respects each other and corrects their problems so that similar problems will not arise in the future. Otherwise, if your parents just ask their children to correct the problem, they will not change at all, but will become more and more powerful. It would be strange if the children do not resist.
Remember, only a mother can have a filial son. If you are a mother, why should you respect you if you ask your child to respect you?
