I got angry when tutoring my child in the morning when I was writing essays.
At the beginning, I told him that before writing an essay, I had to think about the topic and ideas, and then write it. He always drafted it directly, which caused me to write it over and over again. I felt a little distressed and a little anxious, and I got angry and asked him why he didn't do it according to the method I taught?
Who knew that he had a tense face and stared at me.
Seeing him like this, I became even more popular and started to scold him, but he burst into tears. While crying, I said that I always criticize him and always compare him with others.
Seeing him crying so sadly, I couldn't help feeling sad and guilty, and even regretted that I shouldn't have gotten angry, and even scolded him.
Every time I get angry, I feel extremely regretful.
I feel like a mother who is prone to conflict
I remembered a sentence that Yang Lan once said, "A successful education is to let the child leave you independently, rather than to have a thorough control of the child."
Every time the child teaches his homework, he thinks that it is because he does not do his own way.
always thinks about letting children do things in their own way, and feels that they are slowly controlling their children invisibly and competing with them. Thinking about these things makes them scary, why did they become like this?
The more control the parents are, the more rebellious the children are
In the popular drama "In the Name of Family", Qi Mingyue's mother has always been strict with her daughter. In her eyes, unless her daughter does everything best, she is not excellent in her eyes. So she will exaggerate her daughter's problems.
Negative her when ordering food, deny her when wearing clothes, deny her when working and dating
Finally one day, the child broke out in this depressing environment.
Qi Mingyue deliberately filled out a question sheet during the college entrance examination. She wanted to be a reporter, wanted to leave that suppressed home, and no longer wanted to be controlled by her mother.
How many parents in front of the screen can’t help but feel worried about the rebelliousness of this "good girl".
How many of our parents’ loves are like this, and they go astray without realizing it.
We are all suppressing our children with the authority of our parents, forcing them to listen to their own things, and always controlling them in our own way.
instead of proper respect and guidance for children
ultimately leads to the child not only failing to follow his own pace, but even pushing the child farther and farther.
gives children space to grow and create a harmonious parent-child relationship
raising children. We cannot always teach in our own way. We must listen to children’s ideas more. We cannot block the light of children and suppress their personality. Instead, we must give children some space to explore.
more avoid tit-for-tat. Not only will parents be relaxed and happy, but children can also gain more energy and grow upward.
Many times when we are tutoring homework, because of different positions, parents and children often have different ideas when facing the same question. At this time, we cannot suppress children from the perspective of our parents, but should be patient with children, listen to their true thoughts, and let them finish their words.
Educating children is really not a matter of one day or one night. No matter what, in the process of accompanying children in the future, you must learn to control your emotions, especially when tutoring children with homework, you must maintain a harmonious atmosphere, relax each other, and be relaxed.
