Parents with anxious personality tend to get angry or even beat and scold when their children perform less as expected, making them prone to frustration, lack of self-confidence or even shrink during the learning process; Over-protecting children's safety can easily lead to excessive dependence and low abilities of children.
Parents are the most direct imitation learning object for children. If parents do not understand their own personality, it is difficult to avoid some problems.
Parents love anxiety, so their children are prone to being unconfident. Therefore, parents may wish to examine their emotional development to avoid affecting their children's learning and physical and mental development.
High anxiety parents often lead to unconfident children. This situation occurs mainly in the absence of quality parent-child communication and interaction between parents and children. In the process of cultivating children's self-confidence, some parents often pay too much attention to their children's grades or skills, and ignore the necessity and importance of helping children build self-confidence in daily life.
What is more needed is the guidance, encouragement and recognition of parents.
There is no problem choosing to participate in some training classes during holidays. The problem is that some parents often care too much about their children and often regard their children's performance as their own "report card".
Even if the child performs well, parents will still be very anxious and always feel that the child is not doing well enough. The result is often that high anxiety parents lead to high anxiety children, which leads to unconfident children. Therefore, if you want your children to be confident, parents should first have a good attitude and don’t be too hasty.
The following behaviors can easily cause children to be unconfidence
01 Too high expectations for children
The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment. In order not to disappoint yourself, you can only put constant pressure on your children. In this case, the child will cater to parents, teachers, and even social evaluation to become an "excellent" child! Such excellence often ignores the needs of the children themselves.
02 Always compare your own children with others
This is a common problem for all parents. When you give the shackles of "comparison", the child will never be happy.
03 It is not
Parents are most willing to scold their children and teach them! Teaching is something that every parent is particularly passionate about. Some people feel their majesty from teaching, while others feel the pleasure of conquest. What criticizes children is not the reason for losing confidence or losing self-esteem.
04 When a child does not satisfy himself, he is derogatory and punishes him.
In fact, when a child cannot satisfy his parents, he is already very guilty. At this time, the company, assistance and support from his parents' love is most needed.
05 Make a choice on behalf of children
Parents always use their "his own mind" to manipulate their children, but ignore the process of substitution is the process of depriving children of growth. If you deprive your child of a certain aspect of growth, the child will lose his ability.
06 Don’t believe in children
The root cause of not believing in children is that parents don’t believe in themselves. When the child says to his mother: It’s okay, I’m doing my homework alone at home, you can go and do your business! As soon as my mother closed the door, she thought that the child must be playing with the computer at home! Such a reaction will make the child feel that his parents do not trust me, do not like me, and do not respect me! Not believing in children is destroying their self-esteem.
