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- , which are the rules that must be followed.
- Some people don’t like it, they are disliked from the bottom of their hearts.
- Some people don’t like it because the child has encountered temporary difficulties.
Brother Yuzi has a kindergarten classmate named Ding Ding, who is a famous naughty king. He likes to wander around. No matter what other students are doing, he will always be the one outside the situation.
is better in the classroom. It is just that big in total, so it won’t be too dangerous for him to walk around, at most it will affect other children.
When encountering an outdoor activity in the kindergarten, a teacher had to watch him specifically. Once the teacher didn't keep an eye on him, he walked into the kitchen and almost cooked himself.
Kindergarten has talked with his parents many times, and parents insist on giving their children freedom and respecting their children's choices. The kindergarten said that there was no way to ensure the safety of the child in the kindergarten and advised him to drop out of school.
When I arrived at elementary school, Ding Ding still did his own thing and didn’t do anything. He made trouble in class and fought after class. He hid and sought out the physical education teacher in physical education. He couldn’t persuade him to leave in compulsory education, and he had no success in talking to parents.
Parents still insist on waiting for the flowers to bloom and do not want to force their children to do things they don’t want to.
Once, I picked up Yuzi after school, and Ding Ding pointed at Yuzi and told his mother that this is my good friend.
Brother Yuzi secretly told me that I am not Dingding’s good friend. No one wants to play with him. He always makes trouble, and the teacher doesn’t like him either.
Looking at Dingding's lonely back, I think he is quite pitiful.
He goes to kindergarten and school like other children every day. He should have played happily with his peers, but he always makes trouble alone. He has no friends or companions, but he just exists as a negative teaching material.
I don’t know when Dingding’s parents can wait until the flowers bloom, I just think Dingding could have become better.
If the child doesn’t like it, don’t force him. It sounds like respecting the child, but in fact it is a manifestation of irresponsibility of parents.
pushes the parental responsibility to the children. There are very similar examples in
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, for example, children learn some musical instruments, learn a sports event, and have been in a few classes and have passed the novelty.
Parents seem to say democratically that you don’t go to the game by yourself, but I don’t want you to go to it. Don’t blame me when you grow up.
The child has grown up and sees others proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and they have no strengths. Parents can continue to blame their children with high esteem. was something you didn’t want to learn when you were a child, and it’s not bad for me!
For children, they choose to play between playing and studying, just like letting adults choose between work and games. Who doesn’t want to play easily and happily?
Faced with temptation, adults have basic judgments and understand what things must be done, even if they are unwilling to do.
But it is difficult for a child to have such judgment. He doesn't know that the words he doesn't want to practice at the age of 6 will make him unable to even pass the high school entrance exam; he doesn't know that the mathematics he doesn't want to learn at the age of 10 will hinder him from entering the university...
He only knows that he is having fun and unhappy in studying. If parents insist on not forcing their children, the children will really become Sun Wukong that pops up from the cracks of the stone. It depends on their own luck to become immortals and demons.
There is a joke saying, is it still time for me to learn piano now? The answer is too late, because your mother can no longer beat you.
Jay Chou said in "Speaking" that if my mother hadn't been forced to learn the piano with a rattan, she wouldn't have been the same person she is now. He is grateful to his mother for her forced efforts back then, so that he can live proudly now.
If my mother is not holding the rattan, will there still Jay Chou besides playing the piano and shining in the music now?
The music superstars can’t learn the piano completely by relying on their own consciousness, and they need their mother’s forced.Where do we get the confidence that says, "If the child doesn't like it, don't force him?" and then do nothing and wait for the flowers to bloom?
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If the child doesn't like it, it is an irresponsible manifestation. But this does not mean that the child must force the child to do it regardless of whether the child likes it or not. It requires the specific analysis of the specific problems of .
I think, whether to force the child to do it depends on how the child doesn’t like it. Some of them don’t like
People are naturally free, and children are no exception. But sometimes, things that children don’t like to do are exactly the rules that must be followed.
For example, children do not like to abide by traffic rules, do not like to sit in safety seats, do not like to wear seat belts, do not like classroom discipline, do not like to stay quiet in public places...
If you don't like these, you still have to "force it", otherwise it will affect your safety and you will also like to be honored as "naughty kids" and "bear parents".
For example, some children don’t like to eat green peppers, some children don’t like to eat fish and shrimps, they feel disgusted when they see it, and vomit when they eat it. Force the child at this time, it is simply inhumane!
For example, if parents want their children to learn some kind of extracurricular classes, their children are forced from the beginning and have never experienced the joy of learning. No matter how much parents force their children, they will ask for trouble.
For example, when you learn a certain stage of musical instruments, the child is in a irritable mood and doesn’t want to learn, but he has a lot of reluctance in his heart. If you don’t like
, it is worth pushing to help your child overcome the current difficulties and overcome the difficulties. The temporary "dislike" of
requires parents to "force" with quality and quantity, mobilize parents' authority, and find ways to tap their children's interests and motivation. From "forced" to "no need to force", the real purpose is.
Waiting for flowers to bloom does not mean that you do nothing after sowing the seeds, but providing the seeds with the sunshine, moisture and nutrients needed for their growth, helping them remove insects and prune branches, and only after doing these tasks can you deserve the four words "waiting for flowers to bloom"!
