When a child is disobedient, it also makes adults very troublesome. Every parent wants to communicate well with his children, but he may do things that are unreasonable when he is angry. How should children be educated when they are disobedient? Parents should first calm down their mood, communicate calmly with their children, understand the reasons for their children's disobedience, and then slowly enlighten and educate them. It's very good
First of all, we need to find out the reasons why the child is disobedient
If you don't have children, you will always be obedient. Children also have their own emotions and their own judgment and decision-making power. So what is the reason why the child and parents do the opposite?
1. Parents ignore their children's feelings
Sometimes, parents always feel that their children are too young and don't know anything. Letting them make their own decisions will take a detour. Therefore, they never listen to their children's opinions before making decisions and act arbitrary. In this way, the children will feel that they are not valued, and they will develop a rebellious mentality in the long run. Therefore, parents should be equal when getting along with their children, give their children more opportunities to express their opinions and opinions, and discuss issues with their children. When the opinions they put forward are adopted, they will be more willing to participate and do things more attentively.
2. Don’t give children the right to choose
As children continue to grow, their self-awareness is also constantly improving, and they will gradually form their own independent opinions and interests. We always teach our children how to do things, but when we were young, we were unwilling to listen to our parents. Many people have the idea that they have, and they will unconsciously do a lot of things for their children, plan everything for them, and do not give their children the right to choose. As this continues, children will only become less and less obedient. Therefore, what parents need to do is not only respect their children's choices, but also control themselves and not help their children make decisions at will
What should we do when our children are disobedient?
1. When a child loses his temper or cheats, if the parent tries to stop him by beating and scolding at this time, it will usually make the child more excited. Parents should be more calm when their children are emotionally unstable. Don't persuade him as soon as possible. Let him stay alone in the room for a while. In a short while, he will slowly calm down. Only then will he be willing to accept it when he reasoned with him.
2. When the child is doing things wrong, adults will stop it, and the child may lose his temper. In fact, if parents think about the problem from their children's perspective, it will be easy to solve, because children can only understand it after trying it themselves. As the saying goes, practice is the only criterion for testing the truth . If this matter is not dangerous, you might as well let the child experience and explore it on his own, so that he can get his own answer. When you encounter problems and ask for help, you will understand and accept more.
3. During the growth of a child, he will encounter big and small things, and it is inevitable that he will make mistakes. If parents only blame their children, they will only make their children more resistant and become less willing to be obedient. Therefore, when a child does something wrong, the primary thing for parents is not to blame the child, but to understand the child and patiently ask him why he did this. For example, when the child was sprinkling all the water cup, you first blame him for spilling out the water, and later you realized that he just wanted to bring you a glass of water to drink. Do you feel guilty in your heart? When a child does something wrong, we must first understand the causes and consequences of the matter, and then help him analyze the consequences of doing so, let him realize the seriousness of the matter, learn how to do it in the future, and regulate his emotions.
