Xiaolan's son Junjun was always very obedient and sensible when he was a child, and often made Xiaolan feel very lucky as a mother.
But since Junjun entered junior high school, he seemed to have become a different person, and his recent performance has caused Xiaolan, a mother, to have a headache.
Junjun became obsessed with online games and began to learn without intention. What made Xiaolan even more embarrassed was that Junjun seemed to listen to anyone, including her parents and teachers.
Because he is addicted to playing games, Junjun has not completed his homework many times. The teacher asked Junjun to write a review letter, but Junjun ignored it.
In the end, Xiaolan could only let Junjun reflect at home and stop going to school. Her child is in a state of "a dead pig is not afraid of boiling water", so she stays at home without going to school.
In the end, Xiaolan could only use her "super trick" to cut off food for Junjun, so that he could not eat without writing a good review letter. In the end, Junjun still did his own thing and counterattacked him whenever he wanted. If he doesn't eat during the day, he secretly goes through the refrigerator to find food to fill his stomach at night.
Faced with such a rebellious son, Xiaolan has no choice but to worry. In just a few days, a few white hairs appeared on Xiaolan's head, and the hair loss was also very serious. She is a highly educated talent, but she has no idea about educating her children.
In fact, many parents face the same problem as Xiaolan. When their children reach a certain period of time, their personalities suddenly change greatly, becoming unaware of their parents and becoming unable to withstand their parents.
Countless parents like Xiaolan are eager to know the answer to a question, that is: How can cultivate an excellent child?
Some children were very "obedient and sensible" when they were young, but after a certain stage, they began to go downhill.
Although some children have always been excellent, their ability to resist setbacks is very poor and they always "seek death and die."
And some children have been trapped in the quagmire and cannot extricate themselves and have never felt the taste of excellence.
If you see a microcosm of your own children from these descriptions, then as a parent, there may be something wrong with your education in . If you want to educate excellent children, parents need to keep in mind the principle of "3 not accustomed to 2 not accustomed to
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▶ "3 not accustomed to" let children understand: without rules, it cannot be square meter
not accustomed to children's over-the-clock behavior
0 Parents who often take their children to children's playground to play should be particularly bored with a kind of "naughty kids". They only care about starting on their own during the play, completely ignoring the feelings of other children.
They may have spread the sand in the sand pool everywhere for the sake of happiness, causing other children to suffer deeply. They may forcibly snatch toys with other children in order to have fun, and even use "violence".
These children are very unresponsive to the rules. The child's performance when he grows up has a lot to do with his childhood experience.
When I was a child, children had no sense of rules and often had behaviors that exceeded the rules, which was related to parents' undiscipline.
As parents, when their children do not abide by the rules, they must come out to stop them. Otherwise, the children will do unruly behaviors that are difficult for parents to accept in the future. At that time, it was too late for parents to come to solve the problem.
I don’t like children’s laziness
College roommates always can’t help but sigh when talking about their “little princess” daughter. "She is so lazy that even if her beloved toys fall to the ground, she needs her grandparents to help pick them up."
Nowadays, many children are very happy when they grow up. They "porn a lot" and live a generous life.
But parents should also be clear that if you want to raise an excellent child, the least you should be abusive is the laziness of your children.
Let me ask, which industry elite and leading industry leaders do not have the advantage of diligence? If you want to ruin your child, try your best to spoil your child and make it lazy. Once a child develops the bad habit of being too lazy, he will become further and further away from the trait of excellence.
Therefore, even if the child is born with a golden spoon in his mouth, parents should not be spoiled by their children's laziness. What the child should do must be done by the child themselves.
disgusted with children's "unreasonable trouble"
There was once a news report that hurt the hearts of many parents. A boy beat his mother because his mother was unwilling to buy him a mobile phone.
Everyone understands the principle of "the tiger is poisonous and does not eat the child", but what about it? Why do children fight their mothers with a cell phone regardless of the relationship between mother and son?
In fact, to put it bluntly, the boy has become like this now, and his parents' family education must have problems.
If you want your child to become excellent, one thing is to let your child learn to respect his elders and be a filial child.
If your child wants to have such excellent traits, parents must not spoil their children during their growth, that is, their children's "unreasonable trouble".
For example, parents must not satisfy their children's desire to buy a certain product just because of their children's "tantrums". This will make the child feel that he can use "unreasonable" to get the results he wants.
▶“Two no matter”: Children with a certain degree of freedom will be better
One without matter: Setbacks in growth allow children to experience it themselves
Parents always hope to protect their children for the rest of their lives. But this wish is actually unrealistic. After all, parents only accompany their children for a long time, and the children have to walk the next road themselves.
Although some children are excellent, they are "pseudo-excellent". They cannot withstand the storm and can't think of it at any time and seek life and death. If you want your child to have a certain resistance to setbacks, parents don’t care about the setbacks that their children must undergo in their growth.
2 No matter what: the challenges in growth allow children to accept them by themselves
If the children grow up, parents should let go of their "control desire", and some challenges need to be accepted by their children themselves. Parents’ blessings for their children are only temporary.
If your child is excellent, parents need to give their children a certain degree of freedom and let their children welcome the storm and rainbow in their lives by themselves.
Conclusion
Children’s education should be early, and parents need to keep it in mind the principle of “3 not accustomed to 2”. It is too late to reflect on your family education when your child grows up.
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