Have you ever tried being picked on your nose, eyes, and faces by your baby? He often pulls your hair and slaps you at the same time? Which one is not a handful of pain and tears? I believe there are many mothers who have experienced this.
Dong Mom clearly remembers that her child is about 1 year old and likes to "stingy" people. If he wakes up first in the morning, he will definitely sniff in your face until you are completely awake with a shiver.
Before going to bed at night, he was clearly stopped from scattering and digging randomly, and finally got to coax him to fall asleep. When he turned over, he found that his hair was tightly pulled in his hand and sometimes stuffed into his mouth. It was so helpless!
While I was experiencing these, a mother online spoke out video, "I cut off the seventh layer of your abdomen, but you made me become a 'one-eyed'!' scumbag', but I still love you." It turned out that this mother was caught by the baby because she woke up early than the baby, which caused her eyeball and cornea to be injured.
So, Wan Mom here to remind all mothers: There are risks in raising children, and be cautious when raising children . By the way, why do babies always “treat” against their own mothers?
"I love you so much, but you hurt me so deeply." It turns out that it is a period of touch sensitivity
If your child is at the age of 1, maybe you are experiencing a similar scenario. However, don’t blame your baby for being “violent”. On the contrary, parents should be happy because your baby’s growth has entered a new level - Tactile sensitivity period .
As we all know, the human body has five senses - vision, hearing, smell, taste, and touch. Each perceptual has a very important effect on the brain, especially tactile stimulation can directly promote brain development.
Children's Tactile sensitivity period is about 1-3 years old. At this stage, they will more actively explore and understand the world through the tactile system . Their little hands will never be idle, or simply pick up the things and put them in their mouths.
In addition to touching, snucking, scrambling, scratching and other actions, babies in this period may also have destructive behaviors such as tearing, pulling, hitting, and smashing . For example, if you read a picture book to him, if nothing unexpected happens, the picture book will either be tear or bite it in his hands, and no one will be spared!
In fact, most of the time, the baby does not know what impact his behavior will "harm" his mother or cause. He was just discovering and exploring, happy that he unlocked new moves, and was also very curious about his mother's reaction, that's all.
Tactile sensitive period, parents use 5 methods to help their babies better transition to
Babies in the tactile sensitive period. We cannot stop their exploratory behavior, but it is indeed easy to "harm innocent". So how should we guide them?
- gentle stop, guiding the baby to perceive the world in the correct way
There is not much right or wrong in the baby's eyes. When it is found that the child's behavior may cause bad consequences, you should express your attitude clearly.
For example, if the baby digs the mother's face, the mother can hold the baby's hand and say gently: "Does the baby want to touch the mother? But if you do this, the mother feels a little painful. You can open your hands and put them flat and touch your mother like this. Mom likes the baby to touch it like this."
Take the baby's hand, gently touch the face, rub the nose, rub the mouth, etc., and practice it repeatedly several times, and the baby will know that this is the correct way to express love to the mother, and you will not use "brute force" again next time.
If the baby wants to tear the book, it is better to give him an tissue box , so that he can tear it to his heart's content, and encourage him to tear it as much as possible. This will not only satisfy the sensitivity of his hand touch, but also exercise fine movements, making his hands more and more flexible.
- did not respond, and diluted the baby's behavior
A mother described: When my baby was happy, she twisted my face, and I pinched the flesh on his neck. I was twisted and screamed. He shrank his neck and smiled at me screaming...
This will make the baby feel that this is a fun game and will never tire of it. If the mother does not want to encourage the baby's behavior, then she should not respond to him in this way, otherwise it will only strengthen his behavior.
After the baby first try to pick people or hit people, whether the adult smiles or responds painfully, it is very interesting for the baby. The best way to is to not respond to . When the baby finds it boring and loses interest, he will slowly fade this behavior.
- Teach the baby the correct "hands-on" method
The baby's beating at a certain age is just one of the characteristics of his growth. Parents don't have to worry too much. It has nothing to do with violence. He is just curious or a way to express emotions.
If the baby does like "eering" interaction methods, such as beating, pushing, catching, etc. Then mothers must tell their children seriously: it is wrong to hit people. They cannot hit mothers or children. They can play balls, water, or drums.
In short, Don’t let the child associate the object of "beating" with people, you can connect it with suitable items . In this way, the child's energy and emotions can be released without hurting others, and he will kill two birds with one stone.
- More skin contact with babies
A study in the Journal of Pediatrics showed that 3 hours of skin contact can reduce the crying of babies by 43%, make them easier to fall asleep, sleep longer, and allow mothers to get more rest and further reduce stress.
A baby is born, and after the doctor and nurse clean it up, they will carry him to the mother's chest and contact his skin. After that, parents need to have close contact with their babies from time to time during infancy.
In addition to hug the baby more , you can also often touch the baby, give the baby more massage and other . This can enhance the baby's sense of security, make the baby's mood more stable, and sleep better...there are so many benefits.
- More companionship, don’t ignore the needs of your baby
Behind the baby's behavior, there must be some meaning or need hidden. For example, every time he cries, he may be telling his parents: I am hungry, thirsty, cold, hot, sleepy, uncomfortable, etc.
When the baby often beats, stings, and pinches his mother, in addition to being curious, he may also want to gain the attention and company of his mother. Only by understanding the baby’s needs and responding in a timely manner can we make the baby feel dependent and not stick to the mother all the time.
Conclusion
Raising a child is a long and arduous project. If we can master some rules of baby growth and development, you will find that every baby has the potential to be an angel baby. Only by taking care of yourself can you accompany your children to grow up healthily and happily!
Follow the health manager/family education instructor [Wanjia Mom] to raise children scientifically and raise children wisely.
