Some men have never been encouraged by him once in their lifetime!
--The tough salted fish
Every old man comes from his son, but he can't do what he wanted as a father as a child. This is a question worth thinking about.
Recently, I saw a topic on Weibo: Why are Chinese-style father and son difficult to get along with?
When it comes to the difficulty of getting along with the father and son, we may ask back: Is it more difficult than the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
is not the case. Compared with excessive "communication" between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, most of the nearly zero communication between father and son is the cancer of interpersonal relationships.
Before the main text begins, we will evaluate a passage.
"Wind and frost and distress have gradually made the father who is running away have a strict face. When he comes home, the child's ignorance and laziness have given him an impatient heart. How can we let the child understand how rugged and long road is placed in front of them. How can we let the child know how limited and short the father's care is. However, children do not want to understand, nor do they want to know. They like to throw themselves into the soft and warm embrace of their mothers and enjoy that infinite indulgence and love.
In Chinese family relationships, fathers often play the role of family principles and authority,
and male It comes with a gene that expresses rough emotions. In addition, it is more about struggling for the family to get out of the father, which has caused the lack of the position of the father. The father simply and roughly instills his own good social experience into his next generation.
And in the eyes of his son, the father is the most trustworthy shoulder, but sometimes the two are at a strife.
worship, fear, dependence, and confrontation and reconciliation, and becomes the most complex memory of a boy for his father.
In China, every man cannot escape the problem of the relationship between father and son in this generation. How can he avoid this traditional father-son relationship?
The following red lines about the relationship between father and son, I hope you can think about it!
Fathers often play a principled role and are a ruler to restrain their son's behavior in the family.
In daily life, when faced with children's unruly actions, many fathers will first criticize indiscriminately.
Excessive and unreasonable accusations are actually using the method of "accelerating children's negative psychological feelings" to achieve the purpose of restraining children.
Excessive and unreasonable accusations are actually the method of "accelerating children's negative psychological feelings" to achieve the purpose of restraining children.
Excessive and unreasonable accusations are actually the method of "acceling children's negative psychological feelings" to achieve the purpose of restraining children.
Excessive and unreasonable accusations are actually the method of "acceling children's negative psychological feelings" to achieve the purpose of restraining children.
And although this method is effective, it has a powerful destructive effect on children's psychology.
Years of accusations make them sensitive and suspicious, and they will be timid in doing anything. Children who grow up under pressure cannot form a strong heart, and the future growth path is destined to be like walking on thin ice.
Some people live in the shadow of childhood all their lives
" Good communication between father and son is an emotional need, and it is also a need for growth. "
However, in reality, "three good words cannot beat a good thing" is a true portrayal of many fathers and sons.
Many fathers speak out, but children refute more fallacies than you. They are laborious and laborious, and the children only feel nagging and impatient. Then they can't help giving their children a "love education".
has no empathy, does not pay attention to wording, and only cares about venting their feelings when communicating, and does not pay attention to the child's emotions.
Please ask yourself, what will you do when you encounter this situation? I guess you have to roll up your sleeves and prepare to start working.
first deal with your mood, then deal with things, listen first, think, and then speak.
adversarial communication will only make the relationship between father and son become more and more rigid. Over time, the child's heart gradually closed.
A good word warms up in winter, and a bad word hurts people in June
"Why can't you see your dad every day?" "Why do you always play with your phone when you go home?"
Many fathers have intentionally or unintentionally missed their children's growth due to their own and work reasons.
As the saying goes, "If you have a father, you will have a son."
Many children are at an important moment when forming a social outlook and personality. The absence of their fathers leads to the lack of children's due teaching and imitation objects.
children who have no guidance grow wildly on their own. Perhaps they will learn to correct themselves while struggling, or they may lose their direction in their growth.
Father's love should not become a luxury.
The tough salted fish is almost thirty, and I have never been encouraged by me once. You may be even more miserable when you read the article, and you have never seen it once in your life.
I dare not speak loudly in public. As long as I speak in public, it is a torture for me. This is not a fabrication for typing.
I know clearly that this is not good. I have given myself a chance to start over many times, but I just can't turn it around! This is the most serious sequelae caused by lack of drums in childhood!
If people are under the shackles of inferiority, they will hardly have a chance to make a comeback. They are like being scolded, and they are all weak and breathless in everything they do.
When you were a child, did you expect your father’s encouragement? Do you often encourage your children now?
Your child is actually not your child, they are the children born from their desire for themselves.
They came to this world through you, but they did not come because of you, and they were by your side but did not belong to you.
people have the need to love and be loved. Only children can make you give full love. This object of love is irreplaceable by other relationships.
" Raising a child is not to prevent old age". He inherits your eyes, hands and legs, continues to walk in this world, and continues to feel the world.
Finally I was thinking: If a child has the right to choose his parents, it is estimated that 80% of people in this world will have to lose their children and grandchildren...
