people are the product of the environment, children are the product of the family environment, What kind of family environment will create?
At 4:30 this morning, as a parent, I realized for the first time the huge shaping nature of the family environment to a child.
Let me first talk about where my consciousness comes from?
Intermittent continuous efforts, and continuous eating and waiting for death. This is a golden sentence that once became popular on the Internet. I believe everyone understands the meaning.
To be honest, I haven't felt this way for two years, but recently I found myself falling into this vicious circle again, feeling that I can't break through myself when I grow to a stage.
However, one day when I jumped out of myself and looked at my entire family and surrounding environment from the perspective of a bystander, I found that I ignored the big factor of the environment.
For me, I am an adult, I have stubborn habit patterns and various collective subconsciousness, and I am now the original family of my child, which contains the old patterns and collective subconsciousness from my husband.
Even if I know clearly what I need to change, changing is like "going to the sea to catch turtles" with bare hands, and it is difficult.
In other words, I can’t change the environment, I will be shaped by the environment, and so will my children.
Why is it difficult for poor families to have noble children? The lowest reason for
is nothing more than the huge power of the environment.
The so-called poor family is poor! Parents have no culture, no money, no resources, no resources, and even a decent family environment, and this is even more so in the surrounding environment.
The child was born in such a poor family environment, how can he become a noble son?
After thinking about it, there is no other way except to study and take the exam.
Reading is another environment, an environment that is completely different from the previous environment. In this environment, children can go to a bigger place when they meet famous teachers, gain knowledge and open their horizons.
However, if a child wants to break out of the original environment and reach a better environment, needs to work several times more than others , which can also be said to be extremely difficult.
This is the huge power of the environment, either you defeat it or boil you in warm water. The characteristic of the
environment is that it is extremely difficult to change, or even unchangeable.
Environment shapes people, parents shape their children
I remember a book I once read - " My Career is Father ".
The author of this book Cai Xiaowan is a father. He takes being a good father and educating children as his career. He raised 6 children and trained each child to become a talent.
has 5 doctoral students and one master student. is all from Cai Xiaowan's example and a family environment carefully created for his children.
One of my particularly strong memories is the scene where Cai Xiaowan reads with his children every night.
At that time, Cai Xiaowan, a family of eight lived in a rental house of 16 square meters.
When everyone around me thinks that studying is useless and only focuses on making money, Cai Xiaowan's first thing after coming back from get off work every day after having dinner is to accompany his children to study.
Cai Xiaowan sat at the table first, and then the children sat together to study and study. Cai Xiaowan had been with such company for more than ten years.
In order to help the child develop a good habit of getting up by himself, Cai Xiaowan will pull erhu every morning after getting up, and the child will wake up naturally after hearing this.
After the child woke up, Cai Xiaowan played in English to broadcast . This approach not only solved the child’s problem of getting up, but also made the child interested in English.
In addition, on the walls of the home, Cai Xiaowan hung many famous quotes.
In addition to studying, Cai Xiaowan often takes his children out for traveling . Reading thousands of books and traveling thousands of miles, Cai Xiaowan took the children and did not leave any of them.
When the fourth child in the family entered puberty and became rebellious, he had the idea of learning martial arts. Although Cai Xiaowan disagreed, he still chose to respect and support his children. let the children take responsibility for their choices.
The fourth brother who learned martial arts experienced two months of martial arts life. He felt that he didn't like it very much and could not stand that kind of life. After admitting his mistake, he returned home and studied harder than before.
There are many things like this, in a word!
Cai Xiaowan's child's success, was created by Cai Xiaowan and his wife, and the family is the trial ground for the children.
written at the end
What kind of family environment is it, what kind of children are created?
On the other hand, parents can create the environment they want.
Learning success rate with people with results is higher, Cai Xiaowan's family education experience is worth learning from by his parents, and his book "My Career is a Father" is more worth buying by parents and reading it.
