As the saying goes, a small tree does not slip straight without being repaired.
According to the scientific parenting theory, parents must always be patient online. Even if the child makes a huge mistake, they cannot use violence, because it is likely that the child has been irreversibly hurt.
But even if parents understand this truth, how many people can really do it? When the emotions come, rationality cannot control it!
The era of "filial sons appearing under the stick" has passed.
How many people have this traditional education method affected? Whether it is the family education that I have experienced since childhood, or when facing my own children, I will use this method, just like it is engraved in DNA, and it bursts out immediately.
Some people even joked that their lifestyle since childhood was to be scared every day. Maybe when, because of what I did or said, I was beaten and kicked by my parents. At first, I was scared, but after I hit too much, I felt nothing.
, and, according to relevant statistics, among the post-80s and post-90s, there are almost no people who have never been beaten since childhood. This is something that many children dare not think about. Children who have not been beaten should be more sensible and obedient! After all, many times the reason for being beaten is that my parents are in a bad mood. Why doesn't it work now? The reason is not difficult to think about
Violence is also skilled. We must pay attention to methods and
Violence is not favored in science education theory and is not promoted and encouraged unless it is absolutely necessary, but it has to be said that under special circumstances and settings, the effect of appropriate use of violence is the most obvious.
For example, when a child is immersed in his own emotions and is about to take any dangerous actions that may hurt his life, parents still insist on the so-called "spokenness" and "touching" will not work at all, just make a quick decision and slap him.
This is the so-called special treatment for special circumstances. But it is because of this special situation that has encouraged many parents to do whatever they want. Beating and scolding children without any restraint, and gradually they will go from effective to indifferent. The less the child responds, the more angry the parents make them worse.
So, in fact, it is not that stick education is not working or working, but that parents who do not know how to use this method correctly. In the end, they can only let the education method take the blame, saying that it is abandoned by the development of the times, etc.
Children are more mature than the previous children
. I believe every parent has already felt this and has realized how smart and "premature" children are from all the small details of life. At a young age, we can understand the truth that we only understood a long time later.
This situation occurs because the child is more technological and advanced in the environment, and the daily exposure to the eyes and ears will be greatly affected and changed. Just like children nowadays who can’t speak will play Ipads. If it were children from 20 years ago, there would be Ipads for them to play!
, on the other hand, it is due to their imitation ability. When they are awake, their little eyes are observing everything, the behavior of their parents, the behavior of their elders, and even the behavior of characters in cartoons are within the scope of learning. If you learn more, you will naturally get more.
In this way, children will know more about their minds. When they face their parents, their methods and states will be different. How can it work if they use the "outdated" educational methods and interaction mode to interact?
Even sometimes, in the eyes of children, parents' behavior is extremely naive, and they do not want to respond or feedback at all, which will make parents have an illusion, why is the children so difficult to take care of and complain about how hard they work every day.
is written later:
Education itself is something that parents need to learn for life. As their children grow up, they must constantly learn and grow together with them. If they just blindly stick to their own opinions, do not know how to keep pace with the times, and study humbly, they will sooner or later be eliminated by society. By the time I realize the problem is happening, it’s too late.
Today’s summary:
Can you still use sticks to educate? Is it effective in your family? Welcome to share your thoughts with us!
