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I want to say, what is the most collapse of children at home?
Of course, it is a messy environment at home.
On the bed, on the sofa, on the table, on the ground... Wherever you look, are children's toys and picture books, and there are also scumbags that can be eaten from snacks.
is the degree of myocardial infarction when you look at the top and then look at it.
If there is anything more crashing than this, it is: said it and didn't clean up!
You said, you shouted, you yelled, and you yelled, and he remained motionless.
is in a mess further and takes a step back and cleans up yourself. Is there any solution to
?
does have it!
I believe that most mothers have a heart that allows children to develop storage habits, but usually, says "Hurry up and put away all your things", but in his hands, he picks up all the toys scattered everywhere.
is required to collect it, and it is more costly to mothers. It’s better to clean up yourself.
However, Mom C still wants to say that this matter should not be saved, even if it is a little harder, Mom.
Because packing up toys and learning to store them, not only makes the items back and the home become tidy, but also has a more profound impact on children.
Whether children can regulate their emotions well and maintain focused learning is actually very related to the neatness of the room.
If you get home, you will see picture books, toys, and school supplies all over the floor at home. Are you in a bad mood now? The same is true for children.
If the child lives in a messy environment every day, he will feel stressed, and is likely to produce negative energy. emotions are difficult to control and may explode at any time.
The out-of-control order is easy to raise out-of-control children, and is actually the reason.
And the messy environment will also destroy the child's concentration.
Children's concentration is already very short and is easily disturbed by external interference.
- There are a bunch of toys on the desk. Do you want your child to do his homework? Can the child concentrate? The teacher arranged for handmade work. If you need scissors, you can’t find the scissors, and you can’t find the glue. Can the child do it calmly?
A child who can't find the item he wants every time, either shouting to adults, or can't find a child who loses his temper, or gives up directly, carrying out any activity is a wall-to-wave journey. Children like
are not only prone to irritability, but also prone to emotional excitement and are more likely to give up trying.
On the contrary, a child who can find the items he wants is proactive and smooth for any activity.
says this is an underlying capability, which is not an exaggeration.
You have done it for you. Not only do you exhaust yourself, but you also deprive your children of the opportunity to obtain basic skills in disguise.
Such a thankless errand, can you take less or less?
You should know that the reason why children are unwilling to pack up toys is that they are too lazy to move. This is because of this: is too "hard" for children .
is fun to play, and after playing, I was stunned.
When the brain receives the task that has no way to start, it is basically in a "smash" state and can only drag it for a while.
So, the first thing that wants children to take the initiative to store is to make storage simple.
The first thing to do is to put away most of the toys/items in the house first!
Too many toys/items will not only be churned out when playing, leaving behind a larger chaotic scene, but will also cause certain interference to the child, causing him to be unable to concentrate.
Psychology professor Claire Lerner once said: Give children too many toys or inappropriate toys will damage their cognitive abilities. Because children will appear at a loss in front of too many toys, so they cannot concentrate on playing with one of them, nor can they learn knowledge from playing.
While playing, I couldn't help but look at something else. When I saw it, I couldn't help but put down the one in my hand and play with another one. This will greatly reduce the child's ability to explore and play with a single toy in depth. (of course this is even more so when doing homework)
Toys, picture books, stationery, and school supplies are all classified in advance. each category selects one or two that the child is interested in recently, and all the rest is temporarily stored in . (put it in a place where the child cannot see it)
Then rotate a batch according to the degree of interest for 2-3 weeks.
(In this process, you can also effectively filter out what your child does not need or does not like completely, and deal with it in time to avoid piles up more and more)
Moreover, is very important, and the toys you see each other every once in a while are the same as new.
and my regular reading bookshelf are the same.
CC The batch I read now are these:
△Biology, geography, history, current affairs, stories, popular science
She is getting bigger and bigger, and we have a lot of books, fixed updates, which is very convenient for me to grasp whether she has "partial food" (always reading stories) , and she has limited choices, so she is less entangled.
not only looks cleaner, but also makes it more convenient to use. The same is true for the bookshelf of
We complain about the child every time, and I don’t know how to put it back in place after .
In fact, most children do not have the concept of storage.
In the early stage, parents need to be patient and guided.
The fixed location of common items in our home will definitely notify the children very formally to ensure that they are clear. instead of relying on countless times to find out them themselves. For example, when DD starts to do handicrafts at the age of 2, he will clearly tell him: scissors, glue and other handicrafts are placed on the first floor of the drawer; brushes and paints are placed on the second floor of the drawer.
Before the child forms a habit, he supervises and reminds him to put it back every time instead of doing it for him!
Let the child experience the process of taking it out and putting it back until a habit is formed.
If you do it on your behalf, it will always be the adult's business, not his.
, especially items that the whole family will share. If you don’t find them when you need them, you will go crazy.
What is handy?
, easy to get
storage rack, picture book rack, height and height, children can get it at your fingertips, easy to get.
is preferably open and transparent.
Children basically have right-brain thinking, what you see is what you get.
The things that are invisible are basically nothing, so it is basically to pack things randomly, so the donkey dung balls are shining outside and there is no sense of storage at all.
and transparent or translucent storage box is a very friendly choice for children , especially younger children.
If there is no transparent at home, then print some pictures or photos to stick them in conspicuous places , so that children know where to put them without thinking.
. Clarification is clear
The clearer the classification, the lower the threshold for storage.
Think about "Put the magnetic sheet with " and "Put the magnetic sheet into this red box ".
Which one is simpler and clearer to process the brain?
must be the latter! The child will show where the item should be placed in one second.
The less you need to use your brain during storage, the lower the cost you pay, the more willing the child to do .
can be classified according to the specific situation of the child. The older the age, the more types it is, the more detailed the division will be. Different toys in have different storage locations:
After the child plays, just install it in.
This way, it will also help children break down the big goal of "tidying up toys" into small tasks, such as collecting picture books, finding puzzles, picking up building blocks, etc., and you can understand it with a glance.
has a clear idea, so storage becomes a simpler thing.
At this stage when I don’t like to clean up, is the effective way to reduce the “labor” cost of , which is also applicable to me, a “lazy mom”.
Anyone or anything, learn to respect the differences, You will master the password for harmonious parent-child relationship and even husband-wife relationship!
For example, CC folds clothes and puts them in the cabinet with wrinkles.
Do you subconsciously want to say, "What kind of mess you stacked? Is this called stacking done?" .
In fact, at her age, she may think that it is okay to fold clothes like this, but adults think there is something wrong.
This is the standard difference between us and our children.
If you want your child to do what you ask, you cannot use this tone of accusation and command, but should put down your expectations and say your needs!
"This time I folded the clothes much better than last time! Look at the two square and neat pieces below, and you can see which one is!"
Only positive reinforcement can stimulate internal driving force!
Children cannot be at the level of adults in one step, and never try to use your standards to control others, even if they are family members.
Last and most important point, there is no need to be too exaggerated, you can give up the money appropriately.
After all, the children are not mature, so it is normal to be lazy and show off.
in our home, we will not criticize at this moment, but we will not do it for you.
is placed directly in an idle place or box. You can drag it, but this matter is yours in the end. Next time you can't find it, you will be bothered.
Give the child a buffer and set a period for the child, either in a while or in the next day.
In short, this matter is not an easy thing that can be solved immediately by talking. It requires gradual progress and cooperation with the whole family.
What are the good methods do you have? Leave a message to tell us!
