Family is the soil for children's growth, and parents are the cultivators of their children. The better the family atmosphere and the more concerned parents can bear the fruits of this kind of child.
Author | Tomato Mom
A senior class teacher friend once said to me:
After so many years of being a class teacher, I have gained an experience. Basically, you go to the student’s home to visit. Whether the child has a future prospect is almost clear.
Really, all excellent children must have traces to follow.
Yes, home is a place where you live, and it is also a place where every child blooms, sprouts and grows.
What is the future of a child? Just look at his home and you will know.
Clean and tidy home
Self-disciplined child
Best friend used to complain to me that his 8-year-old son Dongdong was particularly unconscious.
Every day, you have to urge and ask for three or four requests to complete your homework. You often forget to bring your textbooks and homework at school, and often doze off in class.
Until last week I went to her house to be a guest and was stunned by the scene in the living room.
The coffee table is filled with leftover takeaway boxes and cans . You can even see the soup dripping along the edge of the table to the ground, and the sofa is full of dirty clothes...
Look at the child's study again. It's almost the same. The corners are filled with express delivery and snack bags, and the desk is also messy, with homework and toys piled up in scattered spaces.
Only then did I understand the root cause of Dongdong’s undisciplinedness.
Living in such a messy home, children will naturally follow suit and it is difficult to establish a sense of inner order.
In the long run, it was not only difficult to manage yourself well, but also difficult to establish good study habits.
The tidyness of a home represents the family's attitude towards life.
Behind the messy, it often represents laziness, depravity, and randomness...
. Behind the cleanliness, there are often positive energy that is self-disciplined, positive and upward.
Last year, a father who accompanied his three sons to study became popular.
Every night, this father reads books on the sofa, while the three children are consciously and proactively doing their homework.
But what is more noteworthy is that every child’s desktop is clean and tidy, the books are placed meticulously, and there are no messy items, and even the certificates are neatly pasted.
A clean and comfortable home is like a magnetic field, creating an orderly and positive living environment.
Therefore, parents should be diligent and self-disciplined, and strive to create a clean and orderly environment so that children will develop good habits under the influence and become self-disciplined people.
Book-scented home
Book-scented child
Book-scented child
I have studied the family backgrounds of many academic masters in recent years and was surprised to find that they all have one thing in common-
House is full of books.
A top student from Hunan, He Runqi, who was admitted to Tsinghua with 707 points, was from a poor family.
His father He Zeming is an ordinary worker and set off for the construction site at four or five in the morning.
Although it is not easy to make money, He Runqi's father is never stingy about buying books for his children, with everything from popular science, history and literature.
Not only do you love buying books for your son, He Zeming also loves reading books. After reading, he did not forget to discuss with his son and tell some historical stories.
Under the influence of his father, He Runqi has liked reading since she was a child and has also dabbled in many extracurricular books.
Walk into the home of Tsinghua talented woman Wu Yishu, you will find books everywhere from the living room, study room, bedroom, children's room, and bathroom.
And everything from historical philosophy, social science and culture, to fable picture books...
It is precisely because of the long-term immersion in the fragrance of books that the classical girl with orchid temperament and lotus mouth in " Chinese Poetry Conference ".
Reading can not only broaden children's horizons and increase their knowledge, but also make children independent in their minds and stable in their minds, and cultivate a unique bookish temperament.
I remembered a pair of parents from Renmin University on the Internet. In order to create a reading atmosphere for their children, they built their home into a small library with a collection of more than 30,000 books.
Every weekend, the father and daughter will occupy a corner of the room, or sit opposite each other, quietly immersing in the ocean of books.
From the video, it can be seen that my daughter Yiyi is calm and calm at a young age, has a strong desire to explore and has strong concentration.
The greatest wealth given to parents is never a school district house, nor a car or money, but a "study room" at home.
Children who grew up in the fragrance of books must be self-proclaimed and have a curiosity and desire for knowledge about the world.
In the future, no matter what you encounter on the road of life, you can find the answers to life through the knowledge in the book.
A quiet, focused and bookish family atmosphere is the "magic medicine" to cultivate children.
Fireworks home
Happy and warm children
If the most advanced atmosphere of a home is the fragrance of books in the room; then the most top sense of ceremony must be the fireworks of the world.
I remember when I was watching the TV series " In the Name of Family ", I was envious of the fireworks at the Li Jianjian 's family.
The sharp-speaking father opened a small noodle restaurant. He lived alone with his daughter, got up early and went to bed late every day, and life was difficult.
But no matter how busy or tired my father is, he will never forget to cook every meal for his daughter seriously.
Every day is a combination of meat and vegetables, rich in nutrition, such as braised pork , fried pork steak , salt shrimp , sweet and sour pork steak ... Made in different ways.
Every day, the happiest time for father and daughter. Seeing their daughter eating happily, their father was also happy.
In contrast, Ling Xiao has never cooked for him since he was a child, and when he was hungry, he could only eat instant noodles to satisfy his hunger.
So, he became more and more taciturn and became melancholy and sensitive;
And Li Jianjian, although born in a single-parent family, was still innocent and cheerful under the careful care of his father, like a little sun full of energy, infecting the people around him.
Children who have been influenced by fireworks since childhood are always surrounded by layers of love. They are as bright as spring, with self-esteem and self-love, warm and firm.
A netizen named @Yixin on the Internet once revealed that he had only had meals with his parents in 15 years.
His parents opened three rice noodle shops, and they were busy from morning to night every day, and they had no time to care whether he was full and well-dressed.
In the second year of junior high school, he visited a friend's house and saw his friend's family sitting around the dining table , smiling and smiling, the atmosphere was particularly warm, and I was so envious.
When he returned home, he asked his parents to go home for dinner one day a week, but was scolded by his parents for being ignorant.
Later, he taught himself to cook and cooked 4 dishes on his 14th birthday. He was looking forward to his parents going home and having a wonderful time like his classmates.
What can be waited for is that the parents don’t care at all, and they also told him that boys shouldn’t care about these things.
In the end, he was completely disappointed with his parents, felt that life was boring, and his academic performance plummeted.
He began to degenerate himself, smoking, contradicting the teacher, going to Internet cafes to play games, asking for money from his parents in different ways, and even choosing to live in the school, without wanting to see his parents at all.
If the kitchen of a family is always deserted, how can there be warmth and love in the child's heart?
So, no matter how busy you are, don’t forget to prepare meals for your children. The whole family talks at the dining table and cares about each other’s daily life.
Use warmth to replace the cold kitchen, allowing the steaming fireworks to soak the child's childhood and warm his life.
Home with laughter
Optimistic and cheerful child
The class teacher friend talked about an unforgettable home visit experience:
She has a student named Xiaochuan, who is usually taciturn, has almost no friends, and his grades are also hesitant.
After a long time, my friend was a little worried that he was too withdrawn, so he decided to go to the boy's house to take a look.
As soon as I entered the house, my friend was changing his shoes, when I heard the mother of Ogawa next to me start nagging: Look at this child, everything is slow, and even changing shoes is so ink...
Later, Ogawa's father came back. The couple started to quarrel over a small matter without saying a few words, and Ogawa looked accustomed to it.
At the dinner table, Ogawa's mother chattered and kept scolding her husband and son...
Ogawa's father was angry because of his friend's presence and replied a few times. Ogawa did not refute a word, and kept his head down and eating, the atmosphere was particularly depressing.
My friend felt embarrassed and couldn't swallow it. He hurriedly said goodbye after dinner.
Finally, a friend sighed that such a family atmosphere is simply poison, no wonder Ogawa has a inferior and introverted personality.
Yes, a home should not be like this, it should be a palace of love, joy and laughter.
Do you still remember the three groups of families in the TV series " Little Happy "?
Song Qian has divorced her husband and has placed all her hopes on her daughter. The atmosphere at home is always very heavy, which leads to Qiao Yingzi who ended up suffering from depression and almost committed suicide by jumping into the sea;
Ji Shengli is the district mayor, and has power and power, but he and his wife are busy with work and have no time to take care of his son.
causes the son to become more and more rebellious. Every time he sees his father at home, the atmosphere is tense and the whole family is in chaos;
, Fangyuan and Tong Wenjie , the family is the most ordinary, but the happiest family.
After Fang Yuan lost his job, Tong Wenjie did not complain, but was encouragement and comfort; her son liked to sing and dance, and her parents were willing to support him.
The family always tolerate and understand each other, and the family is full of laughter and joy.
. Although Fang Yifan has poor grades, he is positive and optimistic, has a sunny and cheerful personality, knows how to be considerate of others, and finally got into the school he likes with his specialties.
Zhou Guoping once said:
Children can spend their childhood in an atmosphere of love and happiness, and their life will have a warm and bright background, which can ensure mental health and good emotional intelligence.
Parents create a warm and relaxed family atmosphere. They can not only be comfortable and happy, but also gain a child with love in their hearts, light in their eyes, and optimistic and positive.
Writer Moore has a famous saying:
"A man has traveled all over the world to seek what he needs. When he returned home, he found it." The same is true for education.
As a parent, instead of trying to create good educational conditions for their children, it is better to build a warm and tidy home first, half of the fragrance of books and half of the fireworks.
Because every space in the family has its own magnetic field, it not only influences the child's mental outlook, personality, and future, but also affects the happiness index of a family.
Click "Like" . I believe that this warm little home will be a safe haven for the child throughout his life, accompanying him to ride the wind and waves.
