A good dad has won 100 good teachers.
Dads, please remember: on the road of education, your warmth and companionship, care and guidance are the greatest pride and glory of your children in their lives.
Author | Xigua Mom
The famous psychologist Gerdi once said:
"The father is a unique existence and has a special power in cultivating children."
This power not only affects the child's personality and attitude, but also affects the direction and height of the child's life.
The father is the ceiling of the child, which determines the child's lifelong achievements.
As the pillar and dominant force of the family, what role does a father play and what kind of personality does he have have have have have have so much to do with his children's growth.
Father gentle and rational
Children kind and firm
Kids and firm
The research association of the University of Cambridge in the UK once conducted a study, and the results showed that:
Fathers and fathers who love to praise their children will be more optimistic and stronger.
An emotionally peaceful father is like a lighthouse on the way forward of his children, which can always bring light and strength to children.
Writer Wang Zengqi , such a gentle, rational and emotionally stable father.
During the Cultural Revolution, he was labeled as a rightist three times and accepted labor reform. Although the conditions were difficult, he never complained. He hummed a little song every day and turned his life into a poem;
He was easy-going and had no airs. His family, including his granddaughter, called him "old man" "no big or small", and he was not angry at all;
The children's friends came to visit the house, and he could quickly get along with them like his family, with no sense of distance at all;
The most important thing is to educate children, he always was not impatient, yelled or scolded, and introduced his children into the right path in the way of spring breeze and rain.
The youngest daughter Wang Chao once recalled her father like this:
My father’s cultural heritage and literary cultivation are beyond our reach, but his peaceful mind, equal treatment of others, not happy with things, and not sad with oneself, affects my life throughout his life.
It was under this influence that all three children were gentle, virtuous, dignified and polite, and eventually became pillars of society.
Whether a child can become a talent or not, 80% of the decision is in the hands of the father.
A good-tempered father can really determine a child's life direction, personality qualities and attitude towards life.
"Devil Coach" Liu Genghong , which was popular all over the Internet some time ago.
In the face of life’s discomfort, he can always survive in a desperate situation, take it calmly, and encourage his children to persevere.
When participating in the program " Where to Go, Dad, ", once Xiaopuff had to complete a crab shell turn task independently, but it failed repeatedly.
Little Puff, who could not stand the blow, was a little emotionally broken and began to cry loudly. His father did not criticize or scold him after seeing it. He squatted down and said patiently:
"Sometimes, challenges do not have to be very fun, but Puff, you must try your best to do this, okay?"
With the gentle guidance and encouragement of his father, Xiao Puff regained his courage and overcome the difficulties.
Netizens praised Xiao Paofu as kind, sensible and strong, but they didn't know that the gentle father behind her was her confidence and role model.
I remembered Li Meijin Professor Li once mentioned a point: We used to say "strict father and kind mother", but in fact the best education should be "strict mother and kind father".
Only when the father is gentle and rational and is a good "stabilizing needle" for a family can the child take firm steps and walk out of his own path step by step under the gentle gaze.
Father optimistic and interesting
Children's sunny and confident
One of the few children in CCTV's popular drama "The Big Test", Wu Jiajun is undoubtedly one of the happiest ones.
The parents have a good relationship and stable family conditions. The most important thing is that he has a humorous, witty, optimistic and open-minded "third brother", that is, his father Wu Guangsheng.
When he and his mother are tense and argue endlessly because of the art exam, the father can end the war with a few words;
When he is in a bad mood and wants to eat fried chicken, the father can accompany him to eat junk food with his mother like a "brother";
When he wants to stay at his grandma's house for a few days, the father will also help him "out of advice" and play "circumcision tactics" with him.
So, even when facing a strong mother, Wu Jiajun is still full of sunshine and confidence.
Finally, under the influence of the father, the mother also made changes and the mother-son relationship reconciled.
Maybe a serious father can better establish prestige, but an interesting father is the "lubricant" of family relationships and the "preservative" for children's confidence and happiness.
The days when you joke with your father and the wild ideas that you have will become the warm background of children's childhood and will also become the turning point in their transformation.
I once read a short story shared by a netizen, which is very interesting.
He has a son who is very naughty and is often invited to his parents.
Every time he goes to school, he has to accept a complaint from his teacher and class teacher about his son. Facing the unrepentant child, he thought of an interesting way.
He adapted the troubles his son made into interesting lyrics, and then edited the cheerful music and sang it to the child as an alarm clock every day.
and tell the child that from today on, if you cause less trouble, you will reduce one day. If you make more trouble, you will add one more day. Whether you want to sleep in depends on yourself.
After two weeks later, my son ran over to him and said, "Dad, spare me. In order not to listen to your life-threatening song, I will definitely change my past."
Finally, under the torture of "love", my son really restrained himself.
Educator Spencer said:
His education should make people happy and make all education fun.
Instead of being a harsh and boring father, it is better to let go of blame and beating and scolding and change him in an interesting atmosphere.
Only when the family atmosphere is relaxed can children be confident and sunny; only a humorous and funny father can children be born towards the sun.
Father is tough and diligent
Children are independent and motivated
New Oriental anchor Dong Yuhui once said in a live broadcast:
If there is something worth referring to in my life, it is diligence, optimism, solidity, and self-confidence.
If you carefully ponder the stories he told, you will find that these qualities of his father are all the shadow of his father.
When I was a child, my father had to work in the fields during the day and had been busy all day, but he was not idle when he got home at night and often read books in the middle of the night.
No matter how hard you are, you never complain, and no matter how tired you are, you never stop your enthusiasm for reading.
Later, he entered work. No matter how difficult or difficult it was, as long as he thought of his father, he felt full of strength. No matter how busy he was in his work, he would never forget to read it.
The father's attitude towards life is hidden in the prototype of the child's personality.
Fathers are diligent, tenacious, responsible, and their children are naturally self-disciplined; fathers are lazy and let themselves go, and it is difficult for children to learn to be motivated.
There is a college classmate around you, which is a typical example.
has been working for five or six years. Every day, he either stumbles on fish or cuts corners in different ways. His colleagues who joined him were all promoted and raised their salary, but he was still the same.
The leader talked to him and said that you should be more motivated. But he said, "This is good, I don't want to be too tired."
colleagues were shocked. Later, they learned that his father was a frivolous man who was living in the company. His father told him since he was a child that laziness and leisure should be the main tone of life.
says: "The son inherits the father's business."
A father with a plan and aspiration can teach children with goals and ambitions.
If the father is not doing his job all day long, is lazy and sloppy, and either watch videos or play games when he gets home, how can he convince his children and work hard?
Although the child is young, he will see every word and action.
If your child wants to be independent and responsible, the father should stand up like a man, become a model and role model for the child, and lead the child to the journey of life with firm belief.
Psychological expert Hu Shenzhi said:
The architecture of the family is like the framework of a house. If the father did not perform his father's functions, then a part of the house would definitely collapse.
Dad is not only a title, but also a responsibility and responsibility.
No matter how omnipotent a mother is, she cannot replace her father's role.
Only when the father assumes the "father's position" and forms a joint force with the mother can the child guide him to continue to grow and make continuous progress.
If you make excuses to slack off today, you will only accept the failure of your children tomorrow.
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