Today I took my children to play in the community and found that most of the people who took my children out to play were grandma or grandma. Few parents take care of their children themselves, because both parents need to go to work and have no time to take care of their children themselves. Therefore, we can only ask parents to help take care of them. However, some behaviors of elderly people taking care of their children must be intervened in a timely manner.
1. If there is a problem, shirk responsibility.
There are many elderly people who fall and cry when taking care of their children. They immediately go forward to comfort the children and blame it for the problem of the road. The child hit the corner of the table and went to hit the table, saying that it was the table's fault. If the child cries with others for toys, he or she will blame the child for not knowing how to share.
This situation will be very unfavorable to the growth of children in the long run. It will make children develop a shirk responsibility thinking. When encountering problems, I always like to find other people’s reasons and will not look for reasons on my own. Develop an irresponsible and selfish personality. As parents, we should teach our children to learn to reflect and take responsibility.
2. The child cries and immediately satisfy
When the child wants something or wants to do something, if he is not satisfied, he will cry. This trick of children may not be very effective in front of parents. Parents generally adhere to principles. But when it comes to grandma or grandma, it's really great. As long as the child cries, he will immediately compromise and be satisfied. Maybe this is what is called , and the next generation, and the other generations are .
When children find that crying is useful, they will become more and more willful. More and more unrestrained. Parents must establish a sense of rules for their children and tell them that they will not solve the problem.
3. Parents criticize, the elderly protect
If the parents are criticizing their children, the elderly look at them and feel distressed, then come out to protect the children. It will make the child feel that he has a backer and that his parents can't do anything to me.
In this case, the children raised cannot listen to other people's criticism and suggestions. Always be self-centered. There is no concept of right and wrong.
4. Always feel that children eat less
Many elderly people take care of their children, and they are always afraid that their children will not be full. When the child said he was full, he would still chase him and feed him. This behavior can easily cause children to damage their spleen and stomach due to overeating.
What we need to do is to let the child do it independently and not chase after him. If you chase after feeding for a long time, the child will lose the fun of eating by himself and form the habit of dependence.
Although there are some disadvantages for elderly people to take care of their children, it is really hard for parents to help take care of their children. We must understand our parents’ efforts and learn to be grateful. If there are really some differences in parenting, we must communicate well, and I believe that the elderly will understand us.
