This is the real story of my friend:
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Do you know in which year my mother officially entered menopause?
When I knew this answer, my mother was diagnosed with thyroid cancer . That year she was 48 years old, the second year of menopause.
The whole family was very confused. She was in good health last year, but why did she become cancer this year?
Doctor said: It may be related to changes in menopause hormones. Isn’t sleep good this year?
Dad was very angry: Yes, I couldn’t sleep well, and I still watch Douyin every day and don’t sleep, so no one can persuade me! After the operation, the whole family carried out a mobile phone supervision battle. The phone was confiscated on time at 10 o'clock in the evening and rushed her to bed.
In the morning, I asked my mother: "When did you fall asleep last night? Are you asleep?"
She stammered and said she didn't know.
I don't understand. Douyin , is that attractive? Can't sleep without it? Even if you have just had a cancer surgery, you can't help it?
Until one afternoon, when my mother was recording a lip-syncing video, she excitedly shouted to me: "Come on, let's record together!"
I refused.
She curled her lips:
"Like your father, he would not say he would; I put on makeup and recorded videos, and he thought I was embarrassed to show off."
I was shocked and found out the crux of the problem.
Mom is so lonely.
Before retirement, she was a strong woman in career, but now she often stays alone at home. The hormone disorder during menopause made her insomnia, night sweats and irritability.
This gap between the body and the environment made her lose control.
However, no one noticed this, and she was also ashamed to tell. Only Douyin can save her.
Mother's body is lying on the hospital bed in her hometown, her soul holding the white tiger and wading alone in the sea. It’s sad to think of this.
Menopause mothers are not understood or seen.
I think I'm not alone. So, the editorial room collected some readers and colleagues' stories.
Mom’s 50 years old should be seen.
1. For menopause, the uterus will fall out
Menopause is prone to Uterine prolapse ! ! ! This disease is really shameful, and my mother would not tell her family until she had no choice.
I am so glad that I usually like to read popular science.
The first two months ago saw a video of uterine prolapse, saying that the uterus will fall out of the vagina and cannot be inserted. Walking in this way will be painful, prone to urine leakage and infection.
I suddenly thought of my mother. Because she has been menopause for more than two years, I found that there were sanitary pads in the trash can some time ago. If it's not what I use, it's what my mother uses.
So I immediately asked her if there was a problem with urethra recently, is it because of prolapse of the uterus? The result is true! !
My mother said something really fell out, and she was affected by walking and going to the toilet and even sleeping, so she was very diligent in changing her underwear this year because she always smelled a strange smell on her body.
I'm really crying! ! I have hemorrhoids , prolapse , it hangs outside, and I never tell my family. I was in my twenties and felt embarrassed to even prolapse my anus, let alone my mother.
is simply unimaginable. She just held a uterine ball and endured the odor all over her body. More than a year passed. If it weren't for me, the condition would have been worse! !
I just took my mother to see a doctor and am ready for surgery.
Everyone must take the initiative to ask your mother! People with prolapsed uterus are embarrassed to say it. If you don’t ask, your mother can only endure the torture of this disease until she dies.
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Uterine prolapse is a disease that is not fatal but very "deadly". Among them, 3/5 are elderly female patients after menopause , and about 1/4 of women over 60 have varying degrees of uterine prolapse.
You should avoid standing or squatting for a long time, avoid heavy physical labor, and rest appropriately and exercise appropriately.
After discovering uterine prolapse, see a doctor immediately. If the symptoms are mild, you can relieve it through exercise, or place pessary in the body; if it is severe, surgery is required to shorten the loose main ligament.
2. I know the secret of my mother changing clothes.
One day, my dad called me and complained that my mother changed clothes several times a day, washed the bed sheets every day, and she had torn several sets of them. I don’t know where the cleanliness came from.
I was speechless and advised my mother: "No need, you take a break."
She suddenly collapsed and said, "Do you think I think? I haven't had a good sleep for several months. Last time I asked you to check for sleeping pills, don't you know if you ask me? I'm hot! Do you know how hot it is? The bed sheets have been wet several times a night. Can you not wash it? I don't wash it and send it to you to wash it?"
I realized that my mother often sweated for no reason since she started half a year ago, and she really couldn't bear the smell.
Menopause is not three words, but the trivial torture piled up by countless details of diseases.
No woman can tolerate sweating all over her body. We are in our twenties, and we are not even mothers in our fifties.
Mom is really not messing around, she is probably sick! I hope everyone can pay more attention to their menopause relatives and friends around them! ! !
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Hot flashes, sweating, cold and heat feeling failure is one of the most typical and painful symptoms of menopause. This symptom can even last for several years, and 63% of menopause women endure it silently.
When the symptoms have affected the quality of life, hormones or traditional Chinese medicine can be used under the advice of the doctor.
3. My mother got endometrial cancer
A year ago, my mother took a bag of sanitary napkins for me and said she didn't need it anymore. I congratulate her on never having to suffer from dysmenorrhea again.
During the Chinese New Year this year, I found that she often had stomachache, which was very similar to her previous dysmenorrhea. When she asked her, she said she was here again, there was not much quantity, and there was no big problem.
But my intuition tells me that something is wrong, who will bleed again after menopause?
took my mother to the hospital, register, check, diagnose, and endometrial cancer. Immediately remove uterine . Fortunately, the operation was very successful, and the pathological symptoms were stage 1A. There was no need for chemotherapy, and regular follow-up examinations were done.
Fortunately, I discovered it early, but fortunately I insisted on going to the hospital, otherwise I would really have no mother...
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In recent years, the incidence of endometrial cancer has been increasing, and the mortality rate has even increased by 2 times. It is the second largest female malignant tumor after cervical cancer .
The main manifestation is abnormal vaginal bleeding.
Be sure to be alert to abnormal vaginal bleeding and relapse after menopause. Go to the hospital for examination as soon as possible to eliminate hidden dangers.
4. Mom has thought about jumping off the building
Everyone says that their mother's temper becomes worse after entering menopause and becomes more and more irritable. I envy you, at least they are still normal.
My mother was diagnosed with moderate depression one year after retirement. She started with insomnia, but later she woke up and screamed every night, and finally became panic and dizzy.
She became more and more anxious and began to stare blankly every day, no longer responding to the outside world. One time we even found her sitting by the window and trying to jump down!
I started to be scared after the suicide storm ended, so I moved home to accompany her.
Don’t get up like a child’s clothes. If I don’t eat or take medicine, I will hold the bowl and coax it slowly. If I don’t want to go out, I will talk to her at home.
Gradually, my mother began to cooperate with the treatment and occasionally chatted with me for a walk, and the expressions on her face also increased.
Now think about my mother who has been busy for most of her life, and her life suddenly stagnates after retirement will definitely be uncomfortable.
If I could have been home often, even if I made a few more calls, which made her less lonely, wouldn’t she have suffered these tortures again?
So we must pay more attention to our mothers in daily life, and have more companionship, support and understanding, doctors’ help and family’s companionship and encouragement are all important! !
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Menopause has become a high incidence of depression in women. A survey of 1,062 menopause women in Shanghai found that 25.99% of people have a tendency to depression [12].
You must see a doctor in time after you find that you or your family have insomnia and depression.
Menopause mother, with empty hands and tiredness and anger in her mouth. Her temper is so common that it seems to be no different from the past.
But only my mother knows that she is sick.
The female body is very mysterious. From the beginning of puberty to the end of menopause, a hormone dance repeats itself in the female body.
During this period of menopause, sex hormone levels dropped sharply.
Changes in hormone levels for women via: Homemade
Up to 80% of women will experience different degrees of menopause symptoms: menstrual disorders, hot flashes and night sweats, mood swings, dizziness tinnitus , anxiety and depression, sleep disorders , memory loss, muscle and joint pain, and repeated urogenital tract infections.
Korean writer Shin Kyung-sook wrote in "Please take good care of my mother": You quietly look at your mother's face, as if you are staring at a stranger you have never met before.
Don’t be strangers to your mother—like the protagonist of the novel, after your mother disappeared, you can’t even find a recent photo of the missing person notice.
Mom does not need to be alone in the ocean, nor can she lie alone on the hospital bed in her hometown.
Menopause is a necessary stage for women. As children, we should accept changes calmly. Be more patient, more support and more companionship, which is very important for alleviating menopause symptoms!
If the symptoms have reached the point where they affect life, you must see a doctor in time and don’t wait until it cannot be saved before regretting it!
Today is World Menopause Care Day . I hope that all mothers can go through menopause smoothly and start a new stage of life smoothly.
Special reminder: The content of this issue has been reviewed by professional doctors.The above popular science content is only for experience exchange. Considering individual differences, if you feel uncomfortable, you can consult a professional doctor online; if you have acute illness, please go to the offline hospital for treatment immediately!
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