Children have a sense of security, which actually means that the child has a healthy attachment relationship with the people around him. So how do you know if your child feels safe? What does a child with a sense of security look like?
For children, they prefer to get along with their parents, which is a manifestation of a healthy attachment relationship between parents and children. For example, when children go to kindergarten, they can get along well with others, and there will be no too much anxiety during the process of getting along. But they prefer to be with their mom and dad. Therefore, children’s liking to “stick” their parents is not equated with insecure.
The children's sense of security is actually very simple: parents' unreserved trust and love. If a child can continuously obtain these two things from his parents, he will have a sufficient sense of security and his heart will be strong and stable. No matter how big the matter is, he will not be afraid, because he knows that no matter when, his parents are his strong backing.
When children trust their parents, they believe that their parents are the people they know themselves best and are most worthy of relying on. Therefore, when they encounter difficulties and feel scared, they will think of their parents the first time. They believe that as long as they need it, their parents will be there. Therefore, children seeking comfort from their parents is a manifestation of their trust in their parents and feeling safe from them.
Children can get along with other children more peacefully and naturally, and will not feel anxious or worried because of the presence of other children. In addition, children's behaviors such as sharing, giving, and accepting that conform to their age characteristics are also a reflection of their children's social ability. Of course, children of different ages have different social characteristics, and we need to respect the growth and development rules of our children.
A healthy attachment relationship not only promotes trust between children and parents or others, but also makes children more confident and independent. Confident and independent children are more willing to explore the world around them. For example, they are willing to know the people or things around them and will not reject all new people or things because of fear.
The process of raising children is hard and complicated; and raising children is very difficult. Parents should work hard to give their children enough and high-quality company, give their children unreserved trust and love, and convey to their children the strength and confidence that "no matter what the situation is, I will stand with you."
