A certain school conducted such an experiment outside of class, and during the experiment, the praise and curses from the children were recorded.
praises include: "I like you", "I love you", "The flowers you bloom must be very beautiful";
insults include: "You are so ugly", "Hurry up and die", "This burden", etc.
Then, play the two pots of flowers A and B respectively. The two pots of flowers have the same variety, the same size, and the same growth, and they have been played continuously for thirty days.
plays it once every morning, noon and afternoon for 10 minutes every thirty days.
Thirty days later, I went to see these two pots of flowers again, and an incredible scene appeared.
The pot of flowers that listened to good words grew vigorously, the flowers bloomed brightly, and the colors were brightly colored; the pot of flowers that listened to the insults became short and small, with yellow leaves, and sparse buds could not bloom. The power of the language
cannot be underestimated. This is true for plants, especially between people.
The first key to opening the barrier between people is: there is virtue in your mouth.
01 There is virtue in the mouth, and there is blessing in the fate
Unforgettable to remember such a mother.
She attended her son's parent meeting for the first time. The kindergarten teacher said, "Your son has ADHD and can't sit on the bench for even three minutes. You'd better take him to the hospital for a look."
When she got home, looking at her son's expectant eyes, her nose felt sore and she almost burst into tears.
She hesitated for a moment and said to her son loudly: "The teacher praised you, saying that the baby could not sit on the bench for a minute at first, but now he can sit for three minutes. The other mothers are envious because only the baby has improved in the class."
That night, her son ate two bowls of rice for the first time and did not let her feed it.
My son is in elementary school. At a parent-teacher meeting, the teacher said, "There are 50 students in the class. You are the worst in this math exam. We suggest you take him to the hospital for a check."
When she returned home and saw her son doing his homework, she swallowed her tears and said to her son with a smile on her face: "The teacher is full of confidence in you. He said, you are not a stupid child. As long as you are careful, you will surpass your deskmate. This time your deskmate is ranked 21st."
When she said this, she found that her son's dim eyes were suddenly filled with light, and her frustrated face also stretched out.
The child is in junior high school, and another parent-teacher meeting.
However, for the first time, she didn't hear the criticism from the teacher, but instead was not used to it.
After the parent meeting, she timidly asked the teacher if her son was completely helpless.
The teacher told her: "According to your son's current grades, it's a bit dangerous to get into a key high school."
The first time she walked out of the school gate with joy, and suddenly saw her son waiting for her at the school gate.
On the way home, he and his son were shoulder to shoulder, and his son was already taller than her. Looking at her son's silhouette, she felt an indescribable sweetness in her heart.
"The class teacher is very satisfied with you. He said that as long as you work hard, you have a great hope of getting into a key high school." For the first time, she was so confident and so proud, talking to her son loudly.
The college entrance examination is over.
When the first batch of university admission notices were issued, the son came back from the school and handed her an envelope with the Tsinghua University Admissions Office. He suddenly turned around and ran to his room and burst into tears. While crying, he said, "Mom, I know I am not a smart child, but you are the only one in this world who can appreciate me..."
is really a wise mother. She created a son who creates miracles in the most beautiful language.
Someone said: "If you say praise to a cup of water, water will have all kinds of beautiful crystals; if you say criticism to water, water cannot crystallize, or crystallize is ugly."
It turns out that "Getting good words to others is like getting gold, jewelry and jade. If you see people, you are beautiful in poetry and essays. If you listen to people, you are happy to bells, playing the piano and zither."
How many people understand this principle in the past, and how many people can do it?
I remember a few years ago, there was a teacher with a high level of professionalism in our office. In class, he explained clearly and analyzed it well, and his teaching results were always among the best every year.
However, he had no friends around him, and he was always alone.
The reason is very simple. She relied on her own ability, often pointing fingers at people, treating sarcasm as humor; and treating ridicule as aura.
"What is there to say about this person? It's just a vase. "
" What kind of class I took? It was a waste of my time to listen to the class. "
"I don't want to talk to you ordinary people."
From teachers to students, no one wants to talk to him. When you see him, everyone will leave automatically.
does not leave room for others, just not leave room for themselves.
A year later, he left our school.
People who hurt people in their mouths will not treat him well.
No wonder " Golden Lock Notes 》 Cao Qiqiao is despised. Although her family married her to a man suffering from chondrosis for money, although her fate is bumpy, she is sympathetic. But she is also a person with a vicious mouth, but she eliminates the only sympathy that others have left, leaving only her disgust for her.
Because a person's mouth is his best Feng Shui.
02 There is goodness in the heart and light in the eyes
Jianye is a newly graduated college student who works as a staff member in a small company.
Because most of the companies are middle-aged people, with old people above and young people below, once the unit needs someone to go on a business trip, the leader always has a headache.
Since Jianye came to the company, he has almost contracted all the business trips. The last business trip was in Xiamen and he did not come back, and then the next time he went on a business trip. The work of going to Beijing on a business trip is coming again.
Jianye is busy and never stops his pace, but he never complains.
Once, the business trip in Shenzhen ended and was about to return to Shanghai. On the way to the airport, he encountered a car accident. The taxi he took was loaded with the private car in front, and the driver was seriously injured.
Jianye immediately called the police and accompanied the driver to the hospital. He learned that the driver was from another place and no one was taking care of him. Jian The industry changed its air ticket and took the initiative to stay and take care of him.
returned to Shanghai the next day. Because it violated the company's regulations, the air ticket could not be reimbursed, so Jianye could only pay it out of his own pocket.
It's a coincidence that the taxi driver rear-ended the car, the manager of the company that Jianye went to Shenzhen to negotiate this time, heard about him, and signed the big order without saying a word.
Not only that, the manager and Jianye became Friends, I have introduced many people related to his business and know him.
Jianye's career is booming with the help of these friends and soon became the backbone of the company.
A small help, this kindness from the heart, gave him a wider connection and made his career successful!
People who do good deeds without asking for rewards often get unexpected feedback, which is the value of goodness.
American writer Mark. Twain said that kindness is a common language in the world, which can make blind people "see" and deaf people "hear".
Deeply agree with it, a kind heart, like the sun, warms the cold heart; like nectar, nourishes the thirsty heart.
" Big Test ", Zhou Meiren went to the street to sell melon seeds because of life. But he had never done this before, and he squatted on the ground and couldn't speak anymore. The uncle who sold popcorn next to
taught him to shout and demonstrate to him, never considering that someone delayed his business because he bought melon seeds.
When Zhou Meiren still couldn't speak, the uncle simply used a small speaker to record a good voice and handed the speaker to Zhou Meiren. When he saw Zhou Meiren's grateful look, he smiled happily.
In poverty days, with a smile, there is happiness; with happiness, there is hope to support it.
Someone said: "Kindness is a rare pearl in history, and kind people are almost superior to great people."
03 There is virtue in the mouth and good in the heart
There is a saying in my hometown that "a knife mouth is sour and sturdy in the heart", which means that a person's words are not listened to, but the heart is good.
In today's rapid development era, the "knife mouth" is like a ragged clothes worn by a person. Even if this person is beautiful, no one has the time and patience to explore your "tofu heart" through ragged clothes.
What's more, when you say these words with a knife, it's like a scratch on a person's body. The scar can be healed, but the inner harm cannot be eliminated.
There is no virtue in your mouth. Even if you have good hearts and goodness in others cannot see them, your life will have shortcomings. A child cannot control his emotions and often loses his temper for no reason. One day, his father gave him a large bag of nails, and he used an iron hammer to nail a nail on the fence of his backyard every time he got angry.
A few weeks later, the little boy gradually learned to control his anger, and at this time, the backyard fence was full of nails. At this time, the little boy became disgusted with losing his temper.
He told his father about his transformation. His father also advised him: "If you can persist all day without losing your temper, pull a nail from the fence." After a while, the little boy finally pulled out all the nails on the fence.
The father took his hand to the fence and said to the little boy, "Son, you did a good job. But, look at the many small holes left by the nails on the fence, the fence will never be what it was again."
How vivid it is, your bad words are like these nails, leaving scars in people's hearts. No matter how many times you say 'sorry', no matter how kind your heart is, the wound will always exist. In fact, the harm caused to people verbally is no different from hurting people's physical body.
"The mouth is the gateway to the heart." There is virtue in the mouth, which comes from the goodness in the heart.
Every time I walk past the overpass, I always see someone sitting on the overpass begging.
Many people have become accustomed to it and always look at it sideways without stopping.
Once, my mother and I passed by here together.
A person who pulls erhu with his eyes closed, I know that the voice is released from the speaker in his clothes, and I also know that his eyes are not blind.
But my mother stopped and was about to pay for it, but she found that there was no money around her.
So she turned to look at me.
I quickly explained to her that this person is here every day and is not really invisible.
But my mother didn't say anything and didn't leave.
I took out my phone, scan the code, and paid ten yuan.
"It's too little, I can give it a little more. What if it's really difficult?" My mother was a little full of her and muttered in a low voice.
I don’t blame me, because my mother has been so kind all her life, and even if she is deceived, she never changes.
She often says: "The kindness of each of us is like the candlelight in the dark. It may be weak, but the glimmer can attract glimmer. The glimmer can illuminate the glimmer and then shine together, which can bring light to the people in the dark."
, the mother of the teacher's life, said this and did the same. She used her glimmer to illuminate many people and became new glimmers to illuminate more people.
This is the value of the mother’s life! She deeply influenced me. It was she who made me understand:
There is something in the world that is the most powerful, that is kindness. It can resolve strong ice; it can eliminate hatred; it can warm people's hearts!
A person lives alone and has various ways of living. I choose to be a person who has virtue in his mouth and good in his heart! Let me share with you!
