Some children think that when parents appear in front of teachers and classmates, or in front of others or in other occasions, they embarrass themselves.
The reason is nothing more than that, parents seem shabby, parents seem ignorant, and parents seem poor and humble... What does this mean?
When a child is born, he looks like a blank piece of paper. Why do he start to dislike parents day by day and start to feel that parents are embarrassed by themselves?
First of all, if there are many such situations in a region, it must mean that the social atmosphere in this region is very bad. Vanity, comparison and luxury are flooding this area. After dinner, everyone is talking about whose house has a big house, whose car is luxurious, whose family has a wide range of connections...
What about the children? Unconsciously, it was affected by the bad atmosphere in this area.
Secondly, this shows that the child’s school’s ideological and moral education is not in place and the specific measures are not perfect.
Schools should often find opportunities to cultivate their children's gratitude to their parents, and they can tell their children that "the son does not dislike the mother's ugly, and the dog does not dislike the family's poverty"; they should remind their children not to be too vain and over-comparison. They can tell their children that they should compare and compare learning, contribution, and honor.
Schools should also take practical measures to reduce vanity and meaningless comparisons.
Take the matter of driving the child to school as an example.
The primary and junior high schools where my daughter is studying are all in the alleys, and the car cannot get in at all. No one can see whether the parents are driving the children, nor can they see what cars the parents drive.
My daughter's high school has a spacious front door and can park, but the school stipulates that parents should park a long distance away for their children.
Some people say, isn’t this just to prevent random parking and disorderly order? In fact, there is another meaning!
Not every family has a car, not every family with a car has Mercedes-Benz and BMW . They all stopped far away, and the students didn't know how they came to school, so they avoided sending their children to "see the leopard in the face of their own eyes and see it a little."
But I have indeed seen another situation. Some parents want to block the "luxury car" at the school gate, and they also want to greet the teachers and parents passing by, fearing that the people in the world don't know that they have "luxury car" and use "luxury car" to send their children to school.
My daughter's high school requires students to wear school uniforms and keep hair of suitable lengths and shorts. All students treat each other equally. The students do not know each other's family situation and family background, which makes students not ashamed of themselves and do not make students from good families arrogant.
When the school notifies the parent-teacher meeting, it requires parents to be generous and decent when coming, and not to be shiny and virtuous. It also requires students to avoid it when holding parent-teacher meetings.
I think my daughter’s high school spirit is very positive...
Again, even parents should reflect on themselves.
Did you give all your love to your child without leaving any space for yourself to love yourself?
So that in the eyes of others, a child looks like a prince or a princess, and whether he looks like a child’s slave in terms of appearance, behavior, and dress?
Is it all my life for my children? So much so that parents lose their own pursuits and their own style?
Is it the best thing for children? But parents have never been willing to buy themselves a decent watch, a belt, a pair of leather shoes, or a suit?
Sometimes, for children, they don’t just give it to them, but how to give it scientifically, and leave some love and good things for themselves. Who would cherish what is easily obtained by
? This is not a child's problem, it is a problem for humanity as a whole.
Did parents not grow up with them in the years when their children grew up? So much so ignorant and so "low".
If this is true, the child looks down on his parents a little and thinks that the parents are embarrassing themselves, so there is a little reason.
Dear parents
Chinese people are very proud of their face, and children are the face of their parents, and parents are sometimes also the face of their children. Children think that parents have lost their face, which is a bit sad, as if the dog they raise has bit themselves. However, on this issue, society should reflect on whether it is too vain and too flashy? Schools should also reflect on whether there is something missing in the education of students?
The most important thing to reflect on is the parents themselves, and they should cultivate their children into children who despise them day by day, year by year. Shouldn’t this be reflected on? Reflect on whether you gave everything to the child, whether you were too sloppy, whether you were too ignorant, and whether you should have changed a little...
