In daily life, you will find that children sometimes suddenly feel nervous and afraid of a certain place, someone or something.
In fact, each of us will encounter some things that are scared in childhood, and some people will slowly heal themselves as they grow up.
But some fears have not been released during the occurrence, which will leave us with physiological fear from then on, and may even develop into pathological fear.
How to discover children’s fear? It can be done through the child's behavior, expression, and words. But there are some that will be hidden and difficult to detect, or as parents, we do not discover the situation at that time in time. How do we identify children's fear?
Italian psychologist and educator Evi Crotti and Alberto Magni's book "Children's Fear Psychology" allows us to understand children through graffiti, let children express their fear through their tender brushstrokes, thus discovering the root cause, providing appropriate guidance, and allowing children to get out of the troubles of fear.
"Children's Fear Psychology; Understanding Children's Fear Emotions from Graffiti" not only introduces how terror emotions occur, but also introduces the psychological types and different fear emotions displayed by children of different age groups. It also lists 34 most common causes of children's fear emotions, the age group, and what are the specific manifestations.
What I want to share is that the author introduces different emotions and corresponds to the style of graffiti one by one, so as parents or education professionals, we have a good reference material to learn to see the mentality and emotions of each child from graffiti.
There is an old Chinese saying: The characters are like human figures, which means that the characters written by a person can show some of the person's personalities.
In fact, the same is true for painting (graffiti). The book introduces that graffiti under powerful movements and graffiti under weak movements. The line comparison is one that is coherent and uniform, and the other that is intermittent.
Have you noticed a detail? If when a person is angry and uses a pen to doodle on the paper, it is "forced through the back of the paper". Each stroke exudes a breath of nowhere to vent, profound and powerful, as if the paper is the enemy that hurts him.
is the soft and soft "weak".
Strong and powerful graffiti also shows that children are energetic and impulsive. If they restrain them at this time, it will backfire. If they are asked to go to the sports field to sweat and exercise, they will be well guided. In the future, children can also learn to control their emotions correctly when they are angry. This is why we will see that some people with stable emotions are often those who keep exercising.
Children who are weak need more care, encouragement and companionship so that they can feel the love of their parents and the friendship of the people around them, and build their self-confidence.
There is another example. In today's society, more and more couples are in disagreement. Perhaps the parents have not said it, but at this time the children's graffiti may draw two different houses, or a house with two doors in different directions, or they may only draw one of the parents, no longer have three people. From such a picture, you can feel the child's worry, fear of the parents being separated, and fear that he will not know where to go.
Will you take a look at your child’s graffiti carefully when you see these sharings?
From his graffiti, did you think that you caused a lot of fear to your children?
I once saw a child's graffiti. This child was a second-grade elementary school student. His parents were divorced. His mother took him to reorganize a family. The child drew a picture one day. On the picture, there was a woman holding a knife in her hand. She was facing a child. There was a long, winding passage at the exit of the passage. A man stood.
When I gave this painting to the child's mother, the mother burst into tears on the spot, saying that she was just worried that the child would not be good at studying and scolded him every day. Unexpectedly, in the child's heart, the mother's words were a knife.
From then on, this mother never scolded her child again and often let her child play with his father.
Later, this little boy grew up smoothly and became a sunny boy praised by many people.
A graffiti originally made the child feel wronged in words, which made the mother wake up in time, thus avoiding the tragedy of a family. And even more fortunately, there was a life that was not delayed.
" Parents are the primary responsible persons in the process of building children's personality. They should provide them with everything they need to grow up, not just food and substance, but also include spending time with them, paying attention to their needs and giving them love, rather than hasty kisses or excessive protection. "
Children need parents' guidance and need "stable" and reliable figures (i.e. role models from their birth to adolescence) to make themselves feel at ease. Only adults who are aware of their prestige can help children gain a sense of security, self-confidence, and consciously and appropriately handle the autonomy of living experiences to protect themselves from psychological violence.
So, if we want to help children overcome their fear, we can distinguish children's fear through graffiti and understand the source of children's fear, so as to prescribe the right medicine, use appropriate methods to let children release their fears, improve their self-confidence, and allow children to grow up healthily and happily.
Every life deserves respect and love, and this burden is a test paper given to mothers by God.
