Author: Five-layer
In real life, 99% of the contradictions about parenting are caused by mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Because men generally don’t care about their housekeepers, especially their mother-in-law taking care of their children, they won’t interfere rashly.
But colleague Xiaohui is different. Some time ago, because of something I don’t think is a matter, the people made a big fuss.
Things will start from when Xiaohui's child goes to kindergarten. At that time, Xiaohui suddenly discovered why his son was at home, and he always called him mother-in-law and grandma.
Moreover, every time the child calls, the mother-in-law will agree immediately. Not only does she feel no problem at all, but she also smiles happier.
In Xiaohui's opinion, this is just wrong. So he told his wife privately and asked her to correct her. After all, now I call my grandmother grandmother, and then when I see my grandmother in the future, what is the name?
But his wife thinks that Xiaohui meddled with other people's business, and grandma is just a name, and they call it whatever they like! Children don’t understand when they are young, but they will naturally know when they are old.
Seeing that his wife ignored her, Xiaohui could only go on his own. When the child called his mother-in-law and grandma again, he interrupted the child directly and solemnly told him that it was wrong for you to call him that. You should call me grandma, do you understand?
After saying that, Xiaohui turned to look at her mother-in-law again, telling her not to teach her children in the future! If you don’t even know the basic title, you will be laughed at.
, but my mother-in-law replied: What does it mean to teach children blindly? It’s not what I teach. He learned from others outside, but he just came back and called me, but I didn't correct it.
wasn't you taught? How can kindergarten teach blindly? You are always taking him on weekdays, so you should be careful. Sometimes, small names can also cause big problems?
After hearing Xiaohui's words, my mother-in-law immediately retorted: Oh! I don’t know how to teach, then you will teach in the future! I think I'll just stop caring about the children and let you care about them in the future!
Xiaohui felt very wronged. He was not accusing his mother-in-law of having problems raising the child, but he just hoped to remind her to pay attention in the future and not teach her some wrong ideas.
I didn't want to, but my mother-in-law didn't give him a good face. She even mocked him inside and out, saying that she didn't do anything, but liked to pick others' sting.
After this, my mother-in-law did not change. Several times Xiaohui still heard her son call her mother-in-law and grandma. It made him feel like he was a son-in-law. After thinking about it, he always felt that there was something wrong.
Other mother-in-law will not teach their grandchildren like this. Why does his mother-in-law just want the child to call him grandma?
Could it be that she wants Li Daitao Zombie? Because I have no male offspring, I subtly cultivate my son to make the child recognize that he is from my mother-in-law's family. Will I change my surname in the future? Really become her grandson!
Xiaohui told his wife what he thought. Ask her: You won’t really plan like this! Otherwise, I am not a son-in-law, why do you always ask your children to call them mother-in-law and grandma?
The wife once again disagreed with it and thought Xiaohui was thinking too much. But Xiaohui felt that there was a conspiracy in it! He decided to make the child right by himself, and what should be called? Don't do something misleading.
But I really think Xiaohui is a little too sensitive, and he is too tiny. Isn’t this just because I can’t stand my mother-in-law raising her children and want to find fault? Although, there are very few grandmothers who will let their children call themselves grandmas. But maybe the children really learned it outside, maybe they were all taken care of by their grandmother?
If you really don’t like it, just call your mother. Then everything will be resolved easily, and the conflict between you and your mother-in-law will be gone. But the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may come out again.
Living under the same roof, you still have to think about the benefits of people. After all, it’s all a family, why bother to plot against you?
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