My mother has been nagging about the fact that I was accompanying my child to a special school and was unable to go to work, which made me very upset. Did I make the choice wrong?
My child is developing stunted and attends special schools. Because most children in special schools are ignorant and may have some conflicts, parents need to accompany them to study.
My mother-in-law had meniscus surgery and it has been three months since she was still not recovering well, and her legs are weak, and she still hurts after walking too much. That day she went to my partner's aunt's house, and I paid special attention. I also needed to use my hands to pull my body up to go upstairs. So if she accompanied her children to school, I felt it was very difficult, which might aggravate her leg injury. The more than 70,000 yuan she spent at that time might have been wasted. So although she emphasized that she could accompany her children to school, I was still worried.
In the special school, you need to go upstairs and downstairs. When you run exercises during the big break, the child’s grandmother will definitely not be able to follow him. If she chooses not to follow her downstairs and let other parents watch their children, what if there are other aggressive children hitting my children? Who are you blaming?
Once in a physical education class on the playground, a boy was beaten by another girl. The child Beibei and I were just not far from him. The boy cried at me in grievance, so I went over to comfort him: "Don't cry or not." I comforted him kindly, but unexpectedly, in a moment, the boy walked around me from behind, grabbed my child's back with one hand, and scratched my child's face with the other hand. Fortunately, my child was shaking his head left and right, so he didn't scratch his face and eyes. What if you get scratched? At that time, I only told the boy's mother about her child's arrest on the back, but I didn't expect that it might scratch the eyes. When I came back to my taste, the next day I told the boy's mother that I was scared to death. He grabbed me like that, what if I scratched my child's eyes blinded. I mean to let her teach her that her children must not catch people's faces. I thought the boy's mother would apologize first and then tell her the child not to scratch the face. Unexpectedly, the boy's mother asked me angrily: "I can't control him, what do you think I will do?! What do you think I will do?!" I was stunned for a moment, and I didn't expect her to react like this. Afterwards, I talked about her reaction to others to solve my confusion - why did she do this? Others say that if you have any questions, you should make it clear on the first time, and don’t mention them again the next day, otherwise people will think you are looking for trouble. And don’t exaggerate what hasn’t happened, and don’t say “what to do if you catch it blindly”. I was still a little puzzled: "I didn't say it all at the time, so I added it the next day. I said what to do if I get blind, and I just expressed my concerns, so that they can realize the possible consequences and prevent problems before they happen." Others said: "Anyway, if you have something to say it clearly, just don't add it after you haven't explained it clearly." Well, I'll remember this last sentence.
Based on this incident, I was worried about the child's grandma's legs and might not be able to accompany her better, so I decided to accompany my child to school, not work, no salary, no insurance, and stay with her full-time. When I made this decision, I felt that my heart was finally no longer being torn. I finally didn’t have to go to class to consider the child. Everything was natural.
But my mother was not happy. She said, "You don't go to work and don't have a salary. Your partner looks down on you. What should I do if I divorce you? What should I do if I don't have a pension when I get old? If I divorce, the house is not yours at all! Your mother-in-law can set up a stall to sell clothes, so can't she accompany her children to school?"
Such nagging was said over and over again, frowning and anxious tone repeated in front of my eyes and ears. I was so annoyed: "You love your daughter, and I love my daughter too! I am with her now, and I hope her ability will be improved. Even if I can earn 700 or 800 yuan to support myself and live independently in the future, then I will be satisfied! Some people spend money to hire people to accompany their children to school, but I don't have the ability; some people spend a lot of money to let their children go to rehabilitation institutions to train, but I don't have the ability. I don't have to hire people to watch their children now, and special schools don't have to pay tuition fees. I just don't go to work. What are you anxious about? The grandmother of the child is willing to set up a stall, but I don't make her tired.But I feel that it is a fact that she can’t accompany her children. She can’t force her to accompany her children to school for the sake of my work! Put yourself in your shoes, what would happen if I was my mother-in-law and my wife forced me to look at the child in order to go to work for myself? "
My mother and I always parted with each other over the question of whether to go to work or not. I don't want to argue with my mother. She is 78 years old and is very old. Her back is slightly hunched, and she is also considering her daughter's future. But if I go to work now, I really feel like I'm in Cao Ying! It's not good to work like this, and the children won't get better company.
Facing my mother's anxious expression, facing my slow-moving daughter, and facing my mother-in-law's legs and feet, I'm really embarrassed. Am I not going to work and my choice to accompany my child to school? What do you think? Give me some guidance, I hope I can see the sun. Thank you very much!
