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In the right environment, children's performance is often amazing. They are not as naughty as adults usually see. They are quiet and focused on their work and disdain to too many toys. Why is this? It turns out that it is the adult's condescending attitude, sense of power and inappropriate interference that has caused the children to be suppressed for a long time, which hinders the children from developing positive qualities. Now let’s talk about Montessori’s reflection: the suppression of children by adults.
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- 1. Don’t treat children as personal belongings
Adults also have a wrong attitude, that is, they think that children are "your own items", as if children are just private property. They ignore that children are an independent individual different from adults, and they also have to have their own independent ideas. Adults think that a comfortable place to live is the children's home. They arrange daily life for their children, but never care about their children's opinions.
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- 2. Adults’ authoritative attitude towards children
Authoritative discipline methods are still very popular. Adults always hope that children can adapt to the adult world as soon as possible and cooperate with adult life. It is difficult for weak children to break through this strong pressure. They expect someone to listen to their ideas, but they always run into walls. Over time, they become more rebellious and become disregardless of themselves.
A child who grew up in an environment controlled by adults cannot meet many of his needs. This is not only a physiological need, but also a psychological need. Whether the psychological need is met will affect the development of the child's future intelligence and moral spirit.
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- 3, Conflict between adults and children
Many parents think Montessori's statement is alarmist. For example, you know that conflicts between adults and children are not uncommon: babies seem to be born to love mud. When they see the wet and soft mud, they are very excited. They like to grab them all and they are happy. But in your eyes, mud is synonymous with dirty things. You can't stand his interest in mud, and if you force him to walk away, he will start crying and making a fuss. This is how adults use self-righteous understanding to explain their children's behavior and treat them in a self-right manner, which leads to a conflict state that is opposite to the children.
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This conflict is often terminated by the complete surrender of the child, and no longer express his own opinions or do what he wants to do.
We often say that children have problems, but we didn’t expect that the initiator of these problems was ourselves. When facing children’s problems, adults should reflect on themselves.
When children are disobedient, they should adopt gentle methods to educate their children:
If adults often talk to their children with angry and high-pitched voices, over time, the children will become accustomed to the "yelling" of adults. If adults do not raise their voices or shout repeatedly in the future, it will be difficult for children to receive instructions. Moreover, once children are accustomed to high-pitched and rough voices, they will gradually adopt a "disobedience" attitude towards gentle and civilized educational methods. The same is true for
punishment. Bad or frequent punishment will only make the child feel pain, discomfort or will be suppressed physically and mentally, and it is difficult to help the child recognize the mistakes he has made. And willing to cooperate sincerely.
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Childhood Children's Language, a practitioner of high-quality childcare services, a cultivator of professional international teachers, and an advocate of scientific family raising!
Childhood Childhood Language is a childcare center created by many infant and young teachers at home and abroad. It is committed to creating a professional environment suitable for development for infants and young children and supporting the healthy growth of their physical and mental health. Provide regular lectures for parents and disseminate scientific parenting concepts and methods.At the same time, this is also a teaching demonstration and teacher internship base, with the purpose of providing high-quality educational and teaching demonstration and teacher training to more community daycare. We have devoted ourselves to creating a multi-level and mature teacher training system, and we have particularly emphasized the practical work ability of teachers. Childhood Children's Language Since its establishment in September 2016, there are 4 physical kindergartens in Beijing, covering community childcare, corporate childcare, commercial physical childcare, and kindergarten childcare integrated models.
Children's Heart and Childhood Language Demonstration Day Care is a Montessori demonstration day care created by infant and young teachers. It is a demonstration day care of the AMS Montessori Association Teacher Certification Training Center and an AMS member school. The childlike child language demonstration day care adopts Montessori teaching, which is children-centered, respects children's nature and primitive power, and the environment is clean, safe, friendly and tolerant. No matter which class type, it has a sense of beauty, design and order. In the environment prepared by teachers, children choose their work independently, explore freely, and learn spontaneously.
Children's Childhood Language The goal of cultivating children is to cultivate the inside and the outside, and to cultivate the inside: cultivate children to become the best self, not only have a good cognitive level, but also have valuable non-intellectual qualities such as optimism, independence, self-confidence, studious, perseverance and problem-solving ability; exercising: cultivate children to become beneficial members of society, learn politeness, empathy, cooperation and behavioral norms, so that children can happily integrate into society, and become a positive social person.
