When I was attending the school entrance banquet for relatives’ children, I saw my cousin’s wife whom I haven’t seen for a long time and took her 5-year-old son. My cousin's wife said to the child, "Hurry up and say hello to my aunt." Unexpectedly, the child hurriedly hid behind her mother in and hugged her cousin's thighs." No matter how the old mother guides her, the child will not speak .
cousin sighed and said, "This child is introverted and timid and stage frightened." I rarely play with other children. Even though he had been instructed many times at home that he had to say hello when he went out to see someone, he always lowered his head and didn't say anything. Introverted children are often labeled as: is rude and timid, and they are even said to be is unprosperous and .
In daily life, many children will meet strangers like their cousin's children, don't like to say hello, hide in the corner, play alone .
There are three reasons why children are introverted and don’t like to talk
Reason 1: Genetic
Children do not like to say hello to strangers, which has nothing to do with whether the child is brave or not. It is normal to not like to talk to strangers. Children may lack a sense of security and feel that talking to unfamiliar people in a strange environment is a very difficult thing.
No parent likes to see their children hide behind and say hello. Their children are timid, which may be due to congenital factors. Dad and mother are introverted and do not like to interact with others. Children may inherit their parents' personality. Children will be shy and have a tendency to be unfavorable to communicate with others. When they are nervous, they will hug adults' legs and hide back.
Reason 2: Environment
There are also environmental factors . Nowadays, children live in high-rise buildings. Unlike when we were young, we were in the countryside, and we could go out to play with the kids of neighbors every day.
Nowadays, children may not even know their neighbors. On weekdays, they can only stay at home to watch TV and play mobile games, which is also the reason for their lonely personality.
Reason 3: Overprotect
Some parents are overprotected, parents often tell their children that if you make noise again, a police uncle will come to arrest you. Some children will obey their parents' instructions, not talk to strangers, safety first, etc. These are the reasons why children are timid and stage frightened.
Children are too shy, how should parents guide them correctly?
Yang Zhenwu said that parents must be responsible for the physical development of their children and the psychological development of their babies.
First, understand the child’s inner thoughts.
The child doesn’t want to say hello when he sees a stranger. Is it because of what kind of psychology does ? Parents should find the right time and environment to sit down and chat slowly with their children and listen to their baby’s inner thoughts. Only by knowing what they are thinking can we find a way to solve the problem of and .
For example, the child saw the neighbor saying hello on his own initiative, but the neighbor was busy calling but did not respond, which made the child feel very disappointed and would gradually lose the enthusiasm of saying hello to others.
Parents can explain to their children that the uncles and aunts of the neighbors may be busy answering the phone and have not heard you speak. You can make it louder next time.
Second, parents should give patient guidance.
Parents should not be anxious to achieve success. They should give their children patient guidance and tell their children that socializing is actually a thing that makes them happy physically and mentally. They muster up the courage to enter the crowd and play with children of similar age. They are very happy.
If you still don’t know how to say it, you can show your children “Children’s Social Ability Development Class” like me. There are 28 humorous social stories in this book, which can help children learn:
1) Be civilized and polite;
2) How to make friends;
3) How to talk to children;
4) Tips for social interaction;
5) Measures to solve social problems.
content not only contains text, but also cute pictures, as well as questions and quizzes after each chapter, allowing children to practice while reading and invisibly improve their social skills.
Preschool children like to listen to stories and use the form of stories to let children understand various social scenes in advance and provide more solutions to social problems. In the future, when children encounter such a thing, they can solve it themselves calmly, and their social skills will naturally improve.
When my child first went to kindergarten, he didn't like to talk. The teacher said that the child was very introverted and did not play with the children. He spent 2 weeks and had no good friend.
Later, I read the story in this book to him and did the "Test for the first exam" . Unexpectedly, when I came back from school the next day, the child told me that he had a good friend and shared with me what interesting things are in kindergarten!
Third, let children participate in group activities more often.
Parents can take their children to socialize and play with children of similar age. If you sign up for your children with an interest class, you can sign up for them with a music class. If you like to dance, you can sign up for them with a dance class. Together with like-minded friends, you will have a common language.
Children have their favorite hobbies and have developed into specialties. In the process of communicating with friends, slowly building self-confidence can enhance your sense of self-worth. In this way, the child will gradually feel the joy of interacting with others and will no longer be timid when facing strangers.
Fourth, let go moderately and encourage children more.
Children are introverted because they lack the opportunity to communicate with the outside world. They can let their children do things within their ability. They can assign simple small tasks in daily life, such as letting their children go to a nearby supermarket to buy things alone.
This allows children to learn to face the crowd alone and improve their introverted personality. Parents should let go moderately and create more opportunities for their children to contact, communicate and communicate with people from the outside world alone.
Conclusion:
Children are introverted. Parents should use four correct way to guide and educate, communicate with their children patiently, and lead them to people in occasions to increase their children's ability to adapt to society. Encourage children more to give them enough self-confidence, communicate with others in a strange environment, and slowly becomes a social expert.
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