There is an old saying in China: "A tiger father has no dog son." Indeed, a father who is successful in dealing with people in all aspects can easily educate and cultivate an excellent child, while an incompetent father can easily lead to the child's future loss in wrong understanding.
Our neighbor has such a father who usually read novels and plays games. His mother wants to talk about his children's education issues. His father always says one thing: You have always taken care of the child, but now let me take care of it? I can't control it.
Such a father who likes to shirk responsibility is really a large number of people in life.
What other incompetent fathers, giant baby fathers, are the biggest harm to children.
In fact, the best Feng Shui in a family is parents. If the child's father is an opinionated, capable and loving person, then most children are like this, and they will have more strength in their hearts. If the child's mother is a principled person who loves the child and his father very much, then his child will most likely have a sense of security and a relatively peaceful temperament.
In the family, dad should remember to say less of such words. Regardless of whether you are qualified as a dad, you should not say these three sentences at least.
1. I can’t control it. If you go to mom,
, such a father is incompetent and irresponsible. Raising and educating children is all the mother’s business, and you are just working and making money, and everything else has nothing to do with me. This is the cause of this mentality, so that the father will leave all the responsibility for parenting to the mother alone. But this irresponsible attitude is very unfavorable to the growth of children. If she is a girl, she will have inferiority complex because of having such a father, which will lower her future mate selection standards. If the family is a boy, then this man will be quite weak and will show that I am submissive, lack of decisiveness and courage in life.
2. You are the sister, there is no reason not to care about your younger brother
If you are macho, if the eldest is a girl and the second is a boy in your family, I hope that I have never said this from your mouth. As a father, commanding your daughter in this way is to lay the hidden danger of inferiority in your daughter's heart.
You should know that your son is your own, and your daughter is also your own. As your own bloodline and relative, your daughter’s future development will also affect your heart.
. Simply favoring boys over girls will definitely make your daughter feel heartbroken, and at the same time, it will make your son who should be a responsible person become dependent on others, rather than relying on your own efforts to strive to achieve happiness.
3. I knew that you would do such stupid things
Where is a child who will not make mistakes in the day? But if you say that his behavior is stupid, stupid, stupid, and stupid because of his mistakes. You have known for a long time that it is equivalent to planting a seed in the heart of the child. In this way, it will be difficult for the child to make a counterattack in the face of difficulties and become a powerful life force. On the contrary, when a child makes a mistake, we must guide the child to dare to face failure, cheer him up, and encourage him to try again.
Especially fathers, if you do this, you will be the backbone of your child. The child will have the courage to face adventures, and dare to innovate in the future and help the child build confidence to have foresight and allow the child to compete successfully in the future living environment.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
