The safety broadcast lines on the plane are the same: When you encounter an emergency and need to wear an oxygen hood, please wear your equipment first to help your child. The information in
is very clear - if you can’t even take good care of yourself, how can you take good care of your children? Of course, this principle can not only be applied in critical moments on the plane, but is actually particularly practical in daily life.
Compared with our parents and grandparents, we are more aware of the impact of parents' mental health on children. For example, the mental health of new mothers is now one of the aspects that medical staff will pay attention to after the mother gives birth. We care not only about the baby, but also about the physical and mental health of the mother. " Postpartum depression " is no longer a strange word, we have more information and knowledge on prevention and detection.
During the growth process of a child, parents will face different challenges at every different stage. Often, we think we have a good grasp of the current situation, but the child has entered another stage. Therefore, the strategies that worked before no longer worked. Although change is the only unchanging norm in life, constantly catching up with changes will also exhaust our patience and resilience.
Now I often hear parents around me say that they need some "self-time", that is, time that belongs entirely to themselves and has no time to bother with their partners and children. They believe that only these protected solitude periods can restore balance in their lives and be energetic to continue.
However, for some parents, this is luxury and out of reach. Even if you cannot reach the state of "self-time", it is more important to identify your own spiritual pillar and actively send out a signal of help when needed.
Your spiritual pillar may be your partner. When you are about to be driven crazy by your child, you can ask him to vent his anger, and even let him take over the baton and discipline him. Or maybe your spiritual pillar is a chat group of friends, and they can listen to your complaints at any time, giving you a platform to complain.
The most important step to take care of yourself is to know when you need help and take the initiative to find help. If we cannot sort out our emotions, it will directly affect our children's development, or when we discipline our children, we will make actions and behaviors that may regret in the future.
Take care of yourself and let us start by ourselves!
