In fact, whether children are smart or not has little to do with them themselves, which is closely related to our educational philosophy. Because if we adopt the wrong way of education, then it is easy to kill their clever nature, and it is difficult to make up for this problem. Therefore, parents should still control their behavior and never make any wrong educational methods to their children.
These wrong educational methods will make children unsmart
Some parents always do something wrong in their lives, that is that parents are very strong, and they always forcefully decide what their children should do and cannot do anything. Although children don’t have to kneel down now, they have not achieved democracy in their current family life. For example, parents have never solicited their children’s opinions on matters involving their children’s interests.
Especially when it comes to internal disputes, Whether it is reasonable or not, parents like to use the simplest and most crude methods to solve their children's problems clearly. They always feel that doing this is for the children's good, so they cut off their children's sense of democracy with one knife. Let them feel that only through power can they overcome everything, then such a child will not be smart.
Furthermore, there are some parents who are not concerned about their own affairs. When we break up with our brothers in order to raise our elderly parents, or when we make great efforts with our brothers for those inheritance, children will show a very fear. When we see robbers prying the door of a neighbor's house, we will pull the child away in a hurry, but we never see the real situation of the child.
or if the faucet at home is broken, we will call the property immediately and we will tell the child not to meddle in other people's business. If anything has nothing to do with us, we will stop the child with our eyes. Our approach is incorrect in itself because we cut off the child's love one by one, which will make the child a very selfish person.
If a child really becomes selfish, then they will not become a smart person at all, because smart children are never selfish.
If a child understands that lying can be avoided being beaten or scolded, then they are likely to become a lying expert. The reason why children lie is forced out. If you can get favors to the truth, then who is willing to lie? And many children will show a confusion, that is, why can children not lie, and adults lie?
And when they think about this problem, they will learn that adults often lie. The most important thing about is that when we lie, we always feel that this is just a lie with good intentions, but for children, whether it is good intentions or malicious, it is a lie. So don’t let your child become a person who lies, as such a child will not become smart.
The so-called intelligence is closely related to the educational philosophy of parents. If we always use the wrong educational methods to face children, then the smart nature of children will be constantly strangled, and and it will be difficult to become a smart person in the future. Therefore, when facing this problem, we still need to pay more attention.
