came back from school today, and it seemed very wrong for Momo to enter the door. You know, as usual, she is always the first child to rush in and hug the teacher.
asked her what was wrong, but she didn't say anything, asked a few more questions, and even started crying.
later found out that he was "bullied" in school.
"Momo, if you feel wronged, you must speak up bravely..." I tried to encourage her to express herself.
So I did this experiment with her. I took out the walnut kernels and asked her to take pictures. She didn't understand why, but she did it and it broke in just a few seconds.
Then I took out the walnut shell and asked her to take a photo, and
"don't" her refused.
"Why?"
"Because the shell of walnuts is hard, it will hurt when you pat it." She replied.
took the opportunity to guide her with Momo's words: "So, if you are walnut kernels, you will be bullied, but if you are walnut shells and can do the opposite, then you will not be bullied because you know how to fight back bravely."
Yes, as parents, we must give our daughter the upbringing to not bully people, and also have the aura of not being bullied.
is like a thorny rose, living beautifully and hard to mess with.
writer sanmao once wrote about an experience of studying abroad. Before going out, her parents repeatedly reminded her:
"You must be educated by Chinese when dealing with people, be tolerant of everything, and taking losses is taking advantage of them. If you have a dispute with others, take a step back and make a big difference."
Sanmao remembers it in her heart. She is humble and polite, treats everyone gently, and often rushes to do things. However, docile made Sanmao become her roommate’s maid, making the bed, wiping the table, washing the floor, and cleaning the waste paper all became her tasks. Sanmao endured it again and again, silently contracted all the chores, but his mood became more and more depressed. Until one day, the roommates drank alcohol and were drunk on her bed, which completely angered her. She grabbed the broom and swept her roommate wildly. She was about to hit her. She slapped her backhand and slapped her leg again...
Since then, no one dared to bully Sanmao again, and even took the initiative to show kindness to her.
psychologist Wu Zhihong said:
After all, a person's malice often only vents on a rabbit, not on a lion.
Therefore, parents should tell their daughter as soon as possible: When their rights are infringed, they should dare to speak out, and their voices become louder and their tone are harder, so that their momentum can rise. When encountering excessive people and things, you must dare to fight back, release your aggressiveness, and become stronger, and bad people dare not act rashly.
So, girls, please be more ruthless and give yourself the temperament of being "not easy to mess with"!
