What should I do if my parents have my second child on my back?
My parents have a second child in their 20s on their backs. The birth of the child causes your mentality to collapse. So what reason does your mentality need to collapse. Is it the feeling that they have a child secretly, or that they shouldn't have a child but have a child, which makes your mentality collapse. For different reasons, Yan Zi will do some analysis here and will give some suggestions.
Can parents have a second child? After understanding this problem, you need to adjust your mentality
It is obvious that the country now advocates having a second child. Parents having a second child are in response to the national call, which is a legal and reasonable thing; in addition, parents have the right to choose to have children and not choose to have children, and this right is not interfered by anyone.
Therefore, there is no problem with parents having a second child. As children, they can have their own ideas, but it is really unfair to interfere and affect the harmony of the family. Such children also seem ignorant. If you can figure this out, your mentality will probably be able to slowly adjust.
Have a second child and will make you happier families
Why do parents have children secretly? Their difficulties need to be understood
The reason why parents choose to have children secretly is nothing more than two reasons: one is that you may have opposed it many times before, but they really have no choice, so they can only avoid you having children secretly to reduce the resistance to having children; the other is that they may not want you to know from the beginning, because they are afraid that you will affect you, so they did not tell you. So no matter what the reason is, they may have their difficulties, which need to be understood by children.
In addition, there is a reason for parents to have a second child. For example, the first child is a daughter, the second child naturally wants to have a son, the first child has a son, and the second child naturally wants to have a daughter. Both children are what many parents expect, and they also want their son to have a legacy and their daughters to be caring. In this way, the next generation may have more relatives, help between their children, and can receive spiritual comfort and love when they are old, so their hearts are not wrong and need to be understood.
Some children are difficult to communicate about whether their parents want to have a second child
Will the love of parents for you be diluted because of the second child? We must treat this correctly
I have heard the most funny reason to oppose having a second child before: if you have a second child, your younger brother or sister will separate the family property with him. Yan Zi felt that this was the most unreasonable. First, children have the right to obtain their parents' property, which is beyond doubt and reasonable; second, families who can worry about having a second child will be divided, probably have average family conditions. Since the conditions are average, how many property can be divided? Don’t you work hard and just wait to live with the little bit of your parents’ property
Many children oppose their parents’ second child’s reason. This is the reason why
method suggests
1. Adjust your mindset, correctly understand the matter of having a second child for parents, and put yourself in your shoes and think about your parents’ shoes.
2. You cannot be confused by these originally good things. Study hard, work hard after graduation, earn more money through your own labor, and have your own better career and achievements. In this way, you will not be entangled and sad about your parents' little property.
3. If you feel that your parents secretly gave birth to your second child on your back, and the distrust of you in your heart makes you sad and collapse, you need to take the initiative to strengthen communication with your parents and eliminate doubts and misunderstandings between both parties. This way you can make everyone happy and your family relationship will be more harmonious. (End)
