Everyone should have heard of the concept of "money view", but many parents do not take it seriously.
American Child Psychology Experts have suggested that in family education, parents should focus on cultivating their children's view of money, so that children can stand up and face life calmly in their future life.
Let children understand the concept of money and treat money correctly. This is something that parents should do as soon as possible.
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"Mom, is this expensive?" Your answer may affect the child's life
This holiday, the whole family went out for a trip. When passing by a souvenir shop, a little girl looked at the Hanfu in the window. Seeing this, the clerk enthusiastically asked the little girl to try it.
The result of the girl's effect after wearing it was amazing, and she asked her mother if she could buy it.
When the mother asked about the price, it was obviously a bit beyond expectations. The girl looked at her mother's face and asked carefully: "Mom, is this too expensive?"
Perhaps because of her face, she did not directly answer her daughter's question, but chose to call the child aside, "This dress can be worth the living expenses of our family for half a month. You and your brother have to spend money to go to school. Dad usually works so hard to make money alone. This dress..."
Hearing this, the girl already understood what her mother meant, so she had to take off her clothes and took her mother's hand in disappointment and walked out of the store.
Watching me, I felt very uncomfortable.
I remembered that when I was young, my family was not very good. My mother always taught us "My parents have worked hard to make money, but the family really has no money, you have to save some money". As a result, I have to be particularly sensitive to spending money since I was a child.
Every time I pay the tuition, I always dare not ask my mother for money. I always feel guilty. After going out to work, I still feel "deprived" in using money, which even affects social interaction. It took me a long time after marriage, and with my husband's company, I slowly get out of the predicament and heal the shadow of my childhood.
This shows that parents sometimes really need to be more cautious when answering their children’s questions about money and material things. Your wrong answers may affect your child's life.
Compared with material poverty, spiritual "poverty" is more terrible
1. Children raised by "crying poor" have difficulty having a pattern and foresight
crying poor education is an educational method used by many parents for their children.
Some are because the family is really in trouble, while others are because parents hope that their children can learn to save money, so they hope to make their children understand their parents’ hard work by "crying poor".
However, children raised by "crying poor" often have difficulty having a pattern and foresight.
Writer Edgar Bledsoe said: "If a child treats himself as a poor person from an early age, he will be a "poor person" for the rest of his life.
Because the seeds of "poverty" have been planted in the hearts of children, their thinking has been limited. In the future, when they want to do anything, they will use the amount of money to measure the value of this matter.
In the long run, they will lose a lot of opportunities, and they will also make children potential "poor people". Even if they have money in the future, they will not dare to invest in themselves, and the room for improvement will be much smaller than others.
2. Children raised by "crying poor" always have a "sense of scarcity" in their hearts
The embarrassment caused by lack of money in childhood is like a shackle, trapping children in place, making them always have a "sense of scarcity" in their hearts.
I saw a video before. A girl lived with her grandparents in her childhood. The old man was used to being poor all his life and often talked about the difficulty of making money in front of her granddaughter.
Even if her family is already a well-off family, her parents often transfer a lot of living expenses to the elderly every month, but the elderly are still reluctant to use it.
Every time a girl sees a beautiful skirt and wants her grandma to buy it, she will be despised by her grandma for being too expensive, and then she will take her to the market to choose "cheap and practical" styles. However, most of the clothes are old and girls often laugh at them when they go to school.
The childhood experience made the girl feel "lack". After she made money to support her family, she bought a cabinet of beautiful clothes, trying to fill her vacant heart and make up for her childhood regrets.
But the final destination of those clothes is still the wardrobe. The girl dares not wear those brightly colored and trendy clothes out. She feels that as long as her clothes have some color, she will accept the strange eyes of the public and feel uncomfortable.
The regrets created in childhood are sometimes difficult to heal in the rest of your life.
Parents’ “crying poor” is on the surface to help their children establish a frugal concept of money, but in fact it is stifling more possibilities in the future. Therefore, under limited conditions, it is not wrong to properly satisfy their children’s desire to spend money and let them learn to spend money on meaningful things.
Further reading: How to cultivate children's correct "money concept"
1. Establish children's healthy attitude towards money
First of all, let children understand how money comes from, what are its uses, and what value it is.
Secondly, let the child understand that although money can buy some things, it is not omnipotent. So we should be calm in our view of money, not regard making money as the whole of our life, and not sacrifice our health, conscience and feelings for money.
Let children have a healthy cognitive attitude towards money, so that they can face and use money more rationally in the future.
2. Guide children to learn the right habit of spending money
Make money is not easy, and cherish it.
Parents can teach their children that every penny they spend now is the hard work of their parents, but don’t emphasize or exaggerate this matter. More importantly, guide their children to “you’re doing and gain are proportional.”
If you want to have a good life, you have to rely on your own hands and work hard in exchange for it.
When you do not have this ability, you need to develop the right habit of spending money with the permission of your parents and spend money on meaningful things, rather than comparing for the sake of face.
