The second type of violent language is comparative language.
Children who have grown up in a comparative language environment for a long time always like to compare with others. Compare height, wealth, and friends. It is a person who lives in the eyes of others and in the mouth of others.
Everyone is not perfect. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. But many times, parents always compare their children's weaknesses with other children's strengths. When you see other people's children dancing well, let your children learn to dance. When you see other people’s children writing well, let your children learn to write. Parents compare one child with N children, but the more they compare, the less confident the child becomes, which will make the child make up for the inferiority under comparison for the rest of his life. Living is hard and sad.
Some people will pursue superficial success when they are not capable, such as buying famous brands in debt, changing their relationship partners to show their beauty, or expressing their hard work through being busy. As a result, it is increasingly deviating from the direction of happiness.
The comparative language in multiple-child families has caused great harm to children. It can also make the relationship between siblings in multiple families very bad. These are the consequences of the frequent use of comparative language by ignorant parents.
My mother is a teacher. When I was young, I often compared us two little sisters. My sister and I are one year and two months apart. Other relatives and friends in the family will also make comparisons regularly.
Even now we are both almost 50 years old. My mother still often says to her sister: Your sister bought me a piece of clothing. Then the sister would feel guilty, so she bought a necklace for her mother. Mom will tell my sister again that your sister bought me a necklace. So my sister thought about buying more expensive things for her mother. So the sisters kept proving that they were more filial in front of their parents with various performances. Comparison and anger are also permeated inside. As a result, my relationship with my sister was very bad.
