When it comes to the topic of second child, I believe that parents who are very supportive of having second child have this idea in their hearts: having one more child is not for anything else, but for themselves in a hundred years, the children can accompany each other and take care of each other. After all, they are blood-connected relatives in this world.
There are many people who oppose this statement. Some experienced people admitted that after their parents die, the original brothers and sisters become relatives, especially after having their own small family and children, they will not have much interactions with each other. When encountering difficulties, the brothers and sisters often perform worse than their friends and neighbors.
So will the relationship between brothers and sisters really fade over time after they become adults?
Not long ago, I found a hot post online.
The poster is a mother whose brother settled in another place. After the college entrance examination, the poster's daughter was admitted to a university in the city where his uncle was located.
I thought that after my daughter went to college, my brother would definitely contact her daughter. After all, since the brother-sister relationship has been here for so many years, my uncle should have some care for her niece, but what makes the poster feel disappointed is that her daughter has been in school for a month and a half and has not even received a call from her uncle. In the article
, the poster lamented that she was actually quite good to her brother's child, but she didn't expect that the other party was very cold to her daughter. It seemed that her child still had to be loved by herself. In the end, she complained that the world was cold and that her brother did not understand the world.
There are many messages below this post, and netizens are roughly divided into two major camps.
Some people think that the uncle's behavior in the article is indeed too indifferent. Generally speaking, when a relative's child comes to his city to go to college, as the host, he should actively express his welcome and care to his child in terms of emotion and reason, not to mention that he is the child of his own sister's family.
But some netizens think that this mother is actually the one who doesn’t understand the world. Although her daughter goes to her brother’s city to go to college, her uncle is the elder of the child after all. As a junior, her daughter should visit her uncle politely first, instead of waiting for her elders to call her.
In addition, some netizens mentioned that after the brothers and sisters get married, they will care about their partner’s ideas in everything. The brother is a brother and sister who is related to him, but the sister-in-law is not, so don’t think that everything is right.
Netizens hotly discussed:
" In my understanding, the child was admitted to a university in the same city, and his uncle asked the child to have a meal at home, take fun, and buy some delicious clothes. These are all right!"
" Think from the perspective of others, since is in the same city as my uncle, why don't you contact my uncle on your own initiative? Parents don't contact me, and the children don't contact me, so you have to complain about my uncle!"
" Shouldn't your daughter visit my uncle? My uncle is an elder!"
" My uncle was a bit too much. After all, the child left home and went to a strange city. As the host, my uncle should also take the initiative to visit the school. "
" My nephew came to Wuhan to study, and I took the initiative to contact him. The elders care about the younger generation, and the younger generation came to visit the door again. This is the way of the world! "
Is it true that I don't know how to connect with the children of relatives?
In real life, many people have had similar questions, that is, when the children of relatives come to their city to go to school or work, should we take the initiative to contact their children?
I believe many people's answers are yes. After all, taking care of the children of relatives is not only a kind of care for the elders, but also deepening the love between brothers and sisters.
But considering that everyone's family situation is different, there is no standard answer to this question. If our children are not cared for by elders in the city where their relatives are located, as parents, there is no need to be too disappointed or angry. Parents can suggest that their children take the initiative to call their elders to greet them, and while reflecting respect, they can also find out the other party's attitude.
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Children are admitted to college and are in the same city as their relatives. Who do you think should contact whom? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!
