Hello everyone, I am Hu Junli.
Family education entrepreneur who accompanys mothers to raise their children scientifically.
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This is the 297th study note: Children who accept it will easily be separated from their body and mind and dislike themselves.
is the main text of the study notes.
1. Children who accept it will easily be physically and mentally separated, and they will dislike themselves
If you were a child, you were used to being oppressed by your parents, accept it and lose yourself, even if you were admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, it would be useless.
These good kids are physically and mentally separated, and they are easy to give up, dislike themselves, and fall into depression.
Some parents are still proud of themselves, thinking that their children are very obedient and have good educational methods.
Many senior executives and elite parents are most likely to make this mistake.
Not afraid of children quarrels, not afraid of children crying, and most afraid of children not saying anything, and endure listening to parents silently. This is really terrible.
does not explode in silence, it will perish in silence.
2. Create objective phenomena with a subjective mindset
The four cornerstones of belief in intimacy:
I am loved;
and I am valuable when blessed by the energy of the universe;
and I am favored by nature;
I am rich and healthy I am safe and happy.
You have the ability to determine your subjective mentality.
Use a subjective mindset to create the objective phenomenon you want;
Use a subjective mindset to change the objective phenomenon in the direction you want.
If you believe that you are loved and that you are blessed by the energy of the universe, then You will start to change the way people around you interact with you through this belief.
This is why we believe in these four core beliefs.
The feeling of being loved is actually a sense of happiness, a sense of happiness of "I think I am loved".
So, you need to start from your belief and feelings, first of all, believe that you are loved, so you will trigger all kinds of feelings that arise when you are loved.
often assumes that "I am loved" people, which is more likely to trigger love from others for you.
Because his telepathy receives your belief, this is very important.
So, when your assumptions are different, your mentality is different. The concept of the four cornerstones of beliefs and the same meaning and principle as the seeds in the study notes the day before yesterday.
One sentence summary: Thinking, things will come true.
Belief foundation is not only applicable to intimate relationships, but also to any relationship you have, parent-child, family, workplace, friends, etc., as well as your connection with anything.
Remember one sentence: You are God's darling.
3, remove the concept of error
Make mistakes should not be a reason for long preaching and punishment, but should be regarded as a window for learning.
Don’t we also want to learn from our own mistakes?
In life, we make many mistakes.
We will lose our keys, get lost in a car, have a traffic accident, forget to date, forget to turn off the gas, forget to pay bills, forget to call a friend, put the wrong phone number, curse and scold, lose temper, drink too much, go home too late, eat the wrong thing, watch TV too much...
In other words, we will do countless things wrong, they are all things we hope children don't do;
And this is just because we tell them that those things are "wrong", no matter how young they are!
Why are we so arrogant and criticizing them because they do the things we will do?
Is it because no one monitors or blames us at a higher level?
If we want children to learn from their mistakes, we have to remove the concept of "error" so that children can know:
No matter what kind of trouble they cause, they are still good children without any imposed guilt or accusations.
Only when children are protected from fear can they get the teaching they deserve.
