In modern society, mobile phones have become the "standard configuration" for everyone. Mobile phones no longer have a single communication function, but have multiple functions such as payment and entertainment.
Not to mention that children are prone to addiction to mobile phones, more and more adults have also become members of the "head-down clan".
There is an old Chinese saying that "playing with things is losing your ambition". In the eyes of many parents, anything that has something to do with play is not good for the growth of their children. In the eyes of many parents, playing mobile games is the primary reason why their children are "lost to play with things".
Children like to play with their mobile phones, mainly because they like the game functions on their mobile phones, which has something to do with the children's nature of playing games.
Different parents have different attitudes to children playing mobile games. Haohao's father himself is a practitioner in the mobile game industry. He does not object to the fact that his children play mobile games. He believes that playing games appropriately is educational for children.
, and Haohao's hairdresser Zirui is not so "lucky". Zi Rui's parents are typical "tiger father and tiger mother" and are very strict in discipline on Zi Rui's .
It is purely a fantasy for Zi Rui to get the consent of his parents to play mobile games. Zi Rui is very envious of Haohao because of this. He can only take advantage of traveling with Haohao and spend his own addiction to playing games.
Haohao and Zi Rui are both childhood friends and classmates, and their academic performance is comparable.
After three years of hard study in high school, both older boys were admitted to the school they liked. Both parents hope that their children can improve themselves in their college study and life, but they did not expect that the two children's college performance was very different.
Haohao, who loves to play mobile games, has excellent grades in the class, and is in harmony with the classmates. He has won scholarships every year, and has accumulated a thick stack of award certificates for various competitions.
Compared with Haohao, Zi Rui, who has always been very obedient in the eyes of his parents, performed very mediocrely in college and did not make many friends. is not very enthusiastic about learning, and even wanted to drop out of school and give up his studies.
Two children who originally had similar grades showed completely different learning states in college. What's going on?
In fact, This is related to parents' attitude towards their children playing games . Zi Rui, who has always been banned from playing games, has three problems in college. Zi Rui and Haohao, the performance of the young couple, when they grow up is a good example, which is enough for parents to reflect.
The kid who "can't play games" since childhood and the kids who are not banned have grown up have a significant gap when they grow up
One of the gaps: self-control for games
It turns out that Zi Rui had a new hobby in college, which is to play games. left the parents' restraint , Zi Rui began to play games in "retaliation" , often immersed in the world of games all night, and often didn't care about their studies.
Because Zi Rui has a "compensational mentality" for playing games, and it is a vicious cycle, and it is out of control.
, and Haohao has always been in contact with the game , and after going to college, he only regards games as a kind of relaxation and adjustment.
Gap 2: Social ability
Zi Rui is immersed in the game world, which not only affects his learning, but also his normal social interaction. The roommate in the same dormitory was very dissatisfied with Zi Rui's behavior of playing games all night and made suggestions many times, but Zi Rui ignored it.
When students from other universities actively participate in club activities and make new friends, Zi Rui was immersed in the virtual game world and couldn't extricate himself.
And in the previous experience of playing games, Haohao made many like-minded friends and exercised his social skills. This ability makes him feel happy and comfortable in the life of college students, and has made many new friends.
The third gap: parent-child relationship with parents
In addition to playing games with revenge, Zi Rui's relationship with his parents was also very tense at one time. Zi Rui's parents, who have always been very strict with their son, have found it difficult to communicate with their son since their son went to college.
Without saying a few words, the son would hurriedly find an excuse to hang up the phone. When parents wanted to visit their son in college, Zi Rui showed that was extremely disgusted with .
And Haohao's relationship with his parents has always been very harmonious. He and his parents are like good friends and have many common topics. Such a harmonious and harmonious parent-child relationship has a lot to do with Haohao's parents' "Buddhist" parenting concept.
The difference between the young brothers when they grew up is sad, and it also made a group of parents start to reflect on their parenting concepts
, especially their attitude towards children playing games.In fact, it is the nature of children to be fun and love to play. Parents must not hear playing, but they think of playing things and losing their ambitions. When you hear the game, you will think of some negative words. Want your children to face the game with a correct attitude, and parents use "unluck" methods rather than "blocking".
If your child treats the game correctly, two methods are very "effective". Parents might as well try
✔ Playing middle school
If your child can view the game correctly, parents should abandon some of their inherent "prejudice" against the game.
Dewey believes that for children, playing and learning do not conflict by themselves. Under normal circumstances, children are able to coordinate the relationship between the two.
In fact, the game is not as "evil" as everyone imagines. In the boring learning process, adding games to allow children to "study while playing", can greatly enhance children's enthusiasm for learning. There was no good or bad thing at the beginning, just like a game, just like a game, it depends on how parents view it and how to use it rationally.
✔Three rules
Many parents are afraid of listening to the "game" because they are afraid that their children will be addicted to it and cannot extricate themselves. They thought that instead of putting their children at risk of being addicted to playing games, they would rather brutally ban their children from getting in touch with games.
In fact, parents can make three rules with their children and allow their children to play games, but they do not indulge their children to play games.
written at the end
game for children, is it "arsenic" or "honey"? This has a lot to do with the attitude of parents.
When it comes to playing games, parents blindly prohibit or indulge them, which is not the best way for children to develop. Disciplining children with a relaxed and moderate manner like rubber bands may be a more correct way of education.
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