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Early childhood education method founded by Montessori was popular all over the world in the 20th century. The well-known Amazon founder Jeff Bezos and Microsoft founder Bill Gates are both former "montessori children".
In recent years, Montessori education has also begun to be popular in China, and more and more parents are beginning to understand this new educational concept.
In his philosophy, cramming education is not feasible. should form the foundation for a child's sound personality through specific forms such as basic life ability exercises, five senses exercises, and intelligent exercises.
developed a Montessori classroom under this concept. It is like a prototype of a society, allowing children to naturally feel and learn in it, thereby achieving the purpose of self-construction and mental development.
So in the minds of many people, Montessori education is a special Montessori classroom environment. There are many so-called Montessori teaching aids. Every time I go to class, I may not see what my children have learned, but the price is very expensive.
Moreover, Montessori schools are a minority after all.
So, if children don’t go to Montessori school, can’t their children receive Montessori education?
If you want to solve this problem, parents can start on family education . In fact, our family is a natural educational environment. The people at home are the objects of children's learning, and the things at home are the teaching aids for children's sense development.
Several principles of Montessorius education, parents need to master:
Principle 1: Children-centered
Every child has a unique development rhythm.
My daughter is about the same age as my neighbor's daughter. When our child was 9 months old, he could stand up on the sofa. When his neighbor's child was more than 10 months old, he still liked to crawl on the ground.
During that time, the neighbor was very depressed, and she was afraid that the child would walk later than others. So I always help my child and force him to leave. After a while, the child still had no intention of walking by himself, so the neighbor gave up.
But I didn’t expect that not long after, the child suddenly walked with the table. Slowly, he could walk a few steps without supporting the things, and he became more and more stable.
As parents, we should learn to slow ourselves down, and also slow down and relax our children. Accept your child from the bottom of your heart, rather than force him to satisfy his utilitarian desire to achieve success.
Every child has a unique personality and temperament.
Many parents are paranoid that a certain personality is not needed and accepted by society, and feel anxious and out of control over it, and they try their best to change their children.
Why do you always cultivate a perfect child in the eyes of others according to the social norms that they hope?
There is a study on the differences in children's personality, which classifies children into three categories: difficult-to-raise, easy-to-raise, and slow-temperature. Among them, the two types of children with difficulty and slow fever always make parents feel very troubled.
difficult-to-raise baby
difficult-to-raise baby is also called a high-demand baby. This type of baby always has various conditions. He likes to sleep in a hug, and always fails to cooperate with his meals. He is emotionally changeable. Many parents are tortured to the point of being impatient, crazy, and exhausted.
Parents who are difficult to raise babies can do this:
. Take your children outdoors more often to help them consume physical energy and vigorous energy.
. When children calm down, guide them to focus on doing what they are interested in.
. Help children develop regular living habits, and do not change significantly often at home environment and personnel.
. The family activity plan should be informed to the child in advance.
Slow-heating baby
Slow-heating baby is what we often call shy or introverted baby.This type of children have a certain fear of social interaction and are easily frightened. When there are many people, they will feel anxious and uneasy. After entering a new environment, they will need to be familiar with each other for a long time before they can get involved.
We must know that introversion is not a disadvantage.
Parents of slow-heating babies can do this:
. Allow children to receive appropriate external stimulation and gradually help them overcome social fears. If parents always stand by and protect themselves carefully, or if they give too much stimulation at once, it will backfire.
. When you are in a strange environment, you do not require your child to integrate quickly. Give him enough time to adapt and become familiar with him. When the child relaxes, he will guide him to communicate and interact with others until he is integrated.
. The process of cultivating children's independent social interaction is also the process of parents slowly withdrawing. But at the beginning, don’t quit too thoroughly. Stand where the child can see it when he turns back and give him courage and strength.
Principle 2: Education that does not "teach"
If you want to be a Montessori parents, how to observe your family well.
Someone said, isn’t observation simple?
Yes, it was originally a very simple thing.
But few parents are willing to concentrate on doing it.
Because many people have lost the habit and ability to observe and reflect.
If you want to observe your child carefully and get to know him again, then you can try this:
When observing, put down your phone, turn off the TV, temporarily forget your work worries and pressures, focus on your eyes, calm down and get along with your children, and get to know your children from a new perspective.
Principle 3: Rich textbooks and teaching aids
Create a child-friendly Montessori family environment.
In addition to observation, environmental design is also an important aspect of Montessori education.
html Before the age of 13, the child spent most of his time at home, so the family environment also had a great impact on the child.
What is a child-friendly environment? It is to adapt to the independent development of children.
If possible, Decorate a free area for your child at home . Parents should not interrupt their children's spontaneous exploration by themselves, and no longer hinder their children's independent development in the name of love.
Buy children some toys to exercise their sensory and hands-on abilities.
In this free area, there are no safety hazards and no excessive interference from adults. Children can try everything the way they like and experience the pleasure of independence.
Maybe, many people think Montessori education is far away, but this is actually a kind of educational thinking, allowing us to break the existing ideological barriers, re-understand and accept children, follow the laws of children's development, and let them grow naturally and grow up happily.
