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Feifei is a lively and cute little girl, but she looks depressed after school that day.
Mom saw something wrong with Feifei, and after patiently asking, she realized that Feifei was criticized by the teacher at school.
She held her mother's hand and said, "Mom, the teacher criticized me, and I felt so sad. I don't want to go to school tomorrow."
Seeing Feifei like this, my mother felt very worried, but she didn't know how to guide Feifei.
Children are inevitably criticized by teachers in school.
The children's reactions in the face of criticism from teachers are also different:
Some children start to avoid going to school in the face of criticism and become unwilling to go to school;
Some children feel angry when facing criticism, they will make trouble in school and fight against teachers;
Some children feel wronged in the face of criticism, cry all day long, and have no intention of doing other things;
Some children feel wronged in the face of criticism, cry all day long, and have no intention of doing other things;
Some children have adopted extreme methods such as self-harm and suicide to deal with it, which is really regrettable...
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After children are criticized by teachers, they may develop the following mentality:
1. Feeling denied
After being criticized, children are prone to feeling denied.
In their opinion, the teacher criticizes not his own behavior, but denies himself.
This will not only make them feel sad and wronged, but also feel angry and act against the teacher.
2. Losing self-confidence
After being criticized, children's self-confidence is easily hit.
Some children are very concerned about the evaluations of the outside world. Once others criticize themselves and say they are bad, they will infinitely amplify their shortcomings.
In this case, children are prone to inferiority complex, doubt themselves, think they are bad, think they can’t do anything, and can’t do anything well.
3. Losing a sense of security
After a child is criticized by the teacher, he may feel embarrassed and unable to raise his head, thinking that others will laugh at him behind his back.
Other children may also reduce contact with children and affect their interpersonal relationships when they see their children being criticized by their teachers.
In this way, children will feel insecure at school and will become disliked to go to school.
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How should parents guide their children after their children are criticized by the teacher? There are three ways to try.
1. Relieve the emotions of children
The child is naturally uncomfortable when criticized by the teacher, and it is inevitable that various emotions will arise, such as feeling ashamed, wronged, angry, etc.
These are very normal reactions. Parents can first let their children vent their emotions and provide emotional guidance to their children.
For example, let the child take a deep breath, inhale hard, exhale slowly, and relieve the excitement.
Wait until the child calms down and then discuss what happened.
2. Guide children to view criticism correctly
After the child calms down, parents can patiently listen to their children telling the whole story.
If the teacher’s criticism misunderstands the child, you can explain the whole story to the teacher.
If the teacher’s criticism is correct, it can guide the child to view criticism correctly.
can tell children that criticism is a kind of feedback. While it brings pressure, it also expresses expectations for progress.
It is just a means to tell yourself what can be improved, rather than a complete denial of yourself.
If you can learn from it and make positive changes, you will become better.
3. Cultivate children's self-confidence
Criticism will bring a lot of pressure to children's hearts.
Facing the same pressure, confident children will maintain a positive attitude and not be discouraged by temporary criticism;
children who are not confident will maintain a negative attitude, believing that criticism means they are incompetent, and thus feel frustrated and lost.
Therefore, parents can praise their children more in their daily lives, affirm their efforts and efforts, and cultivate their self-confidence.
In this way, children will respond to criticism in a more positive way.
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written at the end
Children's growth is inseparable from the education of parents.
Only by using the right methods and correct guidance can parents make their children go further and further on the road of growth.
