Everyone was tired of having fun on weekends, so it was always very busy on Monday. In addition, it was just beginning to fall and it was dawn. So the Bebe family got up late on Monday morning. So my mother decided to have breakfast outside.
They came to a bun shop and ordered a small bun for Beibei. He was about to be late to school, and his father kept urging: "Eat quickly, you will be late soon. The boy eats slowly, stuffs it in one bite, and swallows the soup." Beibei was about to stuff the bun into his mouth, but his mother took it and said to Beibei, "Don't listen to your dad's nonsense. You have to chew it carefully and swallow it slowly when you eat. A bite of the bun should be divided into at least two bites. Take one bite first, swallow it before taking a second bite." Beibei looked at his father and mother, but didn't know what to do. It's not okay to bite the bun in his mouth, and it's not okay to swallow it.
This is the inconsistent way of education for parents. The disadvantages are very obvious for both children and parents.
First of all, for children, it is impossible to judge which of the parents is more correct. Over time, the child will form the dual personality . Slowly, in order to achieve one's own goals, they say whatever they see. On the other hand, there is always one side who often wins quarrels between parents, and the other side is tolerant. Over time, the tolerant side will lose the respect of the child, and even the authority in front of the child will be challenged, making it more difficult for the child to discipline him in the future. In addition, due to inconsistent education, children's inner self-rightness and what is right and wrong can easily cause confusion.
Therefore, for the healthy growth of children and for the harmony of husband and wife, we should strive to achieve consistency in education for children. Even if one party does not agree with the other party’s educational methods, try not to blame the other party in front of the child.
To achieve consistency in education, we need to strengthen our own cultivation, learn to control and adjust our emotions. When there is inconsistency in education, remind yourself to "bear, endure, and endure". Occasional improper education will not harm the child. Let go of the anxiety in your heart and discuss it calmly with the other party when the child goes to bed or is not at home.
