For children who are active and active in , it is not easy for them to to calm down and read . Therefore, most parents have hit a wall on their children's reading guidance problem.
Especially when children have their own preferences and preferences for , parents force their children to read often sneer .
So, when the child asks parents angrily "Why do you need to read" , how should smart parents deal with it?
Neighbor Sister Wang bought a lot of books from online . As soon as the book arrived home, she took photos and posted them on WeChat Moments, bluntly saying that she wanted to help her children develop good reading habits . But not long after, Sister Wang posted a message on in anger and complained, " is really the emperor, the eunuch is in a hurry! It seems that my child is not a good source of study at all! "
It turns out that after receiving the book, Sister Wang turned on " Chicken Baby " mode . Every day after the child took , Sister Wang would urge her child to go to . But gradually, Sister Wang discovered that the child was not interested in reading . On several occasions, Sister Wang even caught the child playing with mobile behind the book.
Sister Wang was very angry about this, but the child didn't understand her mother's furiousness . "Mom, why do I want to study? I don't like reading at all. I like playing games! Don't force me to study! " After hearing my son's words, Sister Wang was even more angry at . " You will lose your future if you don't study now. Our family is just an ordinary family. If you don't like studying, you can't even find a job when you grow up. "
After a long discussion, Sister Wang felt that she had educated her very well , but her son, who had just entered elementary school, did not understand her mother's painstaking efforts. The child was angrily pounding his neck and said, "HTM1 reading is not fun at all. If you ask me to study, I will tear all the books! ." Facing the child's "threat" Sister Wang was speechless. She was so hot that she couldn't help but beat the child up.
Seeing the child sitting at the desk unwillingly , Sister Wang felt that was very frustrated . "It's too difficult to manage children nowadays. I have to force them to study in ! If my parents bought me a new book when I was young, I would feel as happy as the New Year! The competition is so fierce now, I am afraid that this child will have no big prospects. ."
"Why do you need to study?" The most real confusion in children should be seen by parents
For children whose mind is not yet mature , their 's goal and purpose of reading are not clear. When they cannot have enough to get a happy body test from and cannot benefit from , they will feel confused about . When parents force their children to read more and more , it is easy for children to become bored and resistant to when lacks the target support .
"Why do you need to read?" Behind this question is the child's confusion about and reading . They don't understand what they can get from reading, and of course this "obtainment" is most of the time expected by as "short-term" and "visible" . Therefore, when parents motivate their children with "ambition" goals such as "reading is promising" and "reading helps find a job", it is difficult for them to touch the pain points of their children's needs and pain points .
When children ask "Why do you want to read", their parents' answers may affect their life
In the process of establishing in the children's three views, their 's understanding of the world gradually deepens into , which makes them begin to have new views on everything around them . At the same time, the guidance of parents has a very big impact on their concepts and views on the formation of .
So, when children ask "Why do you need to study", the response given by parents is likely to be directly related to their likes, dislikes, attitudes and enthusiasm for reading .
. Like reading is a gift of for children. Reading can help children open their eyes and , and can help them have the opportunity to try and experience different life experiences in . In addition to this, reading also affects children's growth pattern, ideal pursuit, future planning, and even affects their family relationships, parent-child emotions, etc.
When the child asks about his or her reading confusion, the parents’ questions are actually an opportunity to gain the dominance of education . If parents can touch their children, then this will leave an indelible mark on their future growth. Of course, the more touched, the earlier parents have the more initiative, , and children will be more willing to cooperate in execution.
should parents guide their children’s confusion in their reading?
. Let children find reading "fun"
For children, activities that can get instant happiness can greatly mobilize their enthusiasm for action . Therefore, if you want your children to like reading, parents can start by helping them feel the instant happiness of in the book. Especially for younger children, blindly pursues the profoundness of knowledge, which is not as good as experiencing simple and vivid content, , which can gain their favor.
At the same time, parents should pay more attention to observing their children's preferences. chooses reading books based on their preferences, so that it is easier to get their emotional resonance and response to .
. Help children find "reading goals"
When children have certain purpose for reading , their internal driving force of will be stimulated . For example, when children try to find answers to questions from books, they tend to be more focused. Therefore, if you want to change your children's disgust and resistance to reading, the successful search and determination of 's "reading goals" can help parents take a "shortcut" to educate and guide.
. Guide children to get a "sense of accomplishment"
sense of accomplishment can motivate children to spontaneously carry out repetitive activities. When children can get a sense of accomplishment after reading, their emotional satisfaction will support them to overcome the "hardship" of reading .
Parents can try to create more opportunities for for their children to perform , so that children can get praise from the outside world in a short period of time. This instant sense of accomplishment of seems a bit "superficial", but it can effectively stimulate children's motivation .
The purpose of reading is not to turn your children into a reading machine. When parents cultivate their children's reading habits, they should also know how to integrate them into their lives, and under the dual influence of internalization and externalization, they should absorb knowledge content and accumulate experience. Reading that is forced to do is far less beneficial than spontaneous reading. Establishing a virtuous cycle is the secret of education.
Conclusion:
Educator said that the focus of reading guidance is to make people feel the joy, value and sense of accomplishment of reading. For children, the process of cultivating reading habits is a "slow" process. The more anxious the parents are, the easier it is for them to give up easily. Only by guiding them step by step can we help children form a healthy model of "reading-thinking".
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