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People are the product of society , so people need to communicate with each other, and people will also influence each other, especially when children do not have much discrimination ability when they are young, they will easily be influenced by their friends.
Why does Meng Mu have to move three times ? It is because you know the environment around your child, as well as the people and things around you, will have a very far-reaching impact on your child!
The ancients said that those who are close to red are red, and those who are close to ink are black!
As parents, they should always pay attention to their children’s circle of friends. If they find that they have these 4 types of good friends around them, they must help their children stay away from them!
These four categories of "good friends" will ruin the child. Parents should help their children stay away from
Category 1: Control the good friends of children
"If you don't give me this thing, I won't play with you"! "Your pen is so beautiful, if you don't play with me, I won't play with you anymore"! The reason why a good friend like
makes friends with your child is to take advantage of your child or to control your child. If your child is out of his control, he will threaten your child! Friends like
will make the child become submissive and will make the child become " pleasing personality " .
As parents, you must remind your children to stay away from these friends.
Parents should chat with their children more often and ask what good friends do you have at school? What did you play with your good friend today?
If your child tells you: Today a classmate told me that if I don’t give him this thing, I won’t play with me.
Parents can firmly tell their children: If he tells you like this, it is threatening you. For such a friend, we can not play with him. Not every student can become our good friends.
Category 2: People who do their best to belittle their children
"Why do you eat so much, you are as fat as a pig"!
"Your shoes are so black and dirty, your family is in a garbage dump!"
"The hair you tied today is so ugly"!
In short, tries its best to belittle the child. A good friend like just steps down your child to make him taller.
Having such good friends is often around the child, which will lead to the child’s inferiority and insecurity, and will lead to the child’s heart feeling that he is very bad. will destroy the child’s self-confidence.
If the child tells you which classmate in the class says he is ugly, or he is fat, you can tell your child that you will stay away from those of them with negative energy in the future, , just don’t play with him.
Category 3: People who treat children as laughing stock
"Your mother doesn't come to pick you up so late, your mother doesn't want you anymore"!
"Your mother is pregnant, and I will definitely not want you if I give birth to a younger brother in the future"!
"Why do you look so black, like black charcoal?"
Always Take out the child’s shortcomings or pain and use it as a laughing stock . Such friends must stay away from it.
Everyone has unknown secrets. He may tell his good friends these secrets. If this good friend has ulterior motives and takes out his secrets and promotes them, will be a great harm to the child.
If your child tells you that he is very unhappy today, my good friend said I am fat and said that my mother doesn’t want me anymore.
Parents First of all, please comfort your child : Mom and dad will always love you, no matter whether you give birth to a younger brother or a younger sister, you will always be the first child of your parents and will always be the baby of your parents.
After sootheing the child's heart, you should tell the child that if your good friend always ridicules you like this, it means that he does not sincerely regard you as a friend, and we will not play with him less in the future.
Category 4: People who encourage children to do bad things or do dangerous things
Look at the teacher confiscated my toys on the desktop, go and help me get them back!
or ask your child to buy toys or food for him during self-study classes. Such a child is encouraging your child to do bad things.
or even do dangerous things, such as taking the child on a high place and saying that he should jump down. If the child dares not jump, he also says that you are a coward , and it is fun to jump down.
Such children are full of scheming and only treat your children as guns.
Parents must give their children vaccinations in advance, do not do dangerous things, and do not do bad things under the instigation of others.
Children's "knowing evil" has not been fully formed, so has a weak ability to distinguish . As parents, they should chat with their children more often.
If you find that your child has these 4 types of good friends, you must keep your child away from them, because they are not real good friends but bad friends and will hurt the child.
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