When the child comes home from school and talks endlessly about the latest happenings in school, when the child is praised and rewarded and is unhappy or wronged, and shares and confides with us, this kind of heart-to-heart communication and collision between each other is the best.
A good parent-child relationship is the most basic and core source of cultivating children's multi-dimensional abilities such as self-confidence, emotional intelligence, expression, and thinking.
However, there are also many parents who rarely communicate with their children and suffer from poor parent-child communication. There are also many parents who like to communicate with their children through accusations and remarks, which leads to a more distant parent-child relationship.
So how should parents communicate effectively with their children?
. Learning to listen is the basis of equal communication. Don’t interrupt your child.
Being a patient listener can help us understand children’s problems and opinions, help clarify facts, and avoid misunderstandings about children. Only parents who are good at listening can become close friends of their children.
2. Unconditional love and acceptance are the conditions for equal communication
We can express our acceptance and love for our children in our mindset and tone, even if you are worried about your child’s confession in your heart. Because if we get angry about it or argue with our children, our children will think that we do not really want to understand their feelings, but only care about how we want our children to think.
3. A kind, respectful and sincere attitude is the background color of equal communication
Even a child under 10 years old can easily distinguish different attitudes, emotions and tone. Respecting children's views and opinions and talking to children calmly can make them feel that they are regarded as equal partners by their parents and can inspire their children's sense of self-esteem.
Don’t limit communication to children’s learning. You can talk about topics that children are interested in or their views on a popular event. I believe that children will be happy to share with you.
4. Managing emotions well is the principle of equal communication
Nowadays, mothers have diverse roles, and it is normal for them to have negative emotions due to stress, but parents should learn to accept their emotions. They can relieve stress through exercise, food, and sleep. Only mothers with stable emotions can open their hearts.
5. Embryonic is a skill for equal communication
Try to experience and feel the emotions of children, understand them, and believe that children will definitely open their hearts.
Parent-child relationship is one of the key factors affecting learning. I hope we can all speak well, control our emotions, and be wise parents.
