Recently, I saw such a video online.
In Guangzhou, Guangdong, a 63-year-old mother kneels on the ground and cries. Standing opposite her was her 37-year-old son.
"I have raised you to the age of 30. What else do you want me? Can't you go out and find a job?"
Watching the mother crying in front of him, the son walked away with a numb look on his face and coldly walked away.
It seems like there is a stranger in front of you.
After a while, the man seemed to have thought of something and said very "Buddhist":
"I think people come to this world to enjoy their appetite. I am not satisfied yet."
When I heard this, netizens looked at each other. Question mark:
"Is it serious to be so arrogant in my 30s?"
"The first time I saw such a shameless son."
The most sad ending of education is this. The son feels at ease and the mother compromises.
This kind mother never expected that her son, who had fought for half her life, would become a "eyed wolf" that backfired.
Not only does he think he has "see through the world", he only eats, sleeps, and is dazed at home every day, but even if he goes out occasionally, he still has to decide the time based on the "time".
Even if his father was laid off and his family's living expenses were only maintained by his mother, he remained indifferent.
Video Finally, the mother tried hard to persuade her son to go out to find a job. The son only felt noisy and even drove his mother out of the house and locked her outside the door.
Mother knocked on the door outside, and only one sentence came from the room:
"Planning is for people, and success is for heaven. Our lives have been planned by God, we just need to be content with everything."
This hard-to-speaking ending revealed the hard-to-speaking sadness that many Chinese parents can't say: holding away a heart of loyalty and returning to a chill.
According to statistics from the China Center for Aging Research: More than 65% of families in my country have the phenomenon of "old and young".
Among them, about 30% of young people have the ability to make money, but they still have to spend some or all of their living expenses for them.
They all have their own high-sounding reasons.
Compared with this, parents are hard to speak and suffer, and they seem helpless and helpless.
fancy "broken old people"
Someone asked on Zhihu: Who are the "broken old people "?
Blogger @官网 tells what she saw and heard.
She found that most of the people in the "parents" have not lost their ability to work, but they still choose to parasitize them on their parents.
They usually have short-term work experience. Because they are unwilling to integrate into social life, they "retired from the workplace in their youth and middle-aged people for various reasons.
For example, some of them feel that they are socially afraid and anxious, and they cannot get along well with their colleagues after work, so they simply don’t go to work.
Some people think that "moving bricks" is too tiring, so it is better to enjoy life in advance.
There are many people, because is very good at ease and can't help but do "indecent" work, so they lie at home with confidence waiting for the opportunity.
In short, they feel that their birth is a wishful choice of their parents, and their parents should also be responsible for their lives.
These young people who cannot survive independently use extreme speech and extraordinary behavior to conceal their cowardice.
In the popular drama "The Lost Child", 36-year-old Yuan Wu wears leather shoes every day and pretends to go to work, but after he goes out, he walks to the chess and card room with ease.
When I came back in the evening, my father asked again at the dining table: "Can you become a regular next month?"
Yuan Wu buried his head in the meal and said, "Yes."
My father didn't know that it was a lie that it was Yuan Wu who didn't pay a salary during the probation period and was reborn next month. He just wanted to use these words to deceive Hua's father's pension.
That night, my father lay on the recliner and rested and never woke up again.
The moment when he found out that his father passed away, Yuan Wu's first reaction was to cry, and then he thought of calling 120.
Suddenly he realized that once he called, he would have to bear the rescue fee and death burial fee. Once his father disappeared from the pension system, he would not be able to get his father's pension in the future.
So, Yuan Wu decided to let his father "live". He sealed his father's body with a fish tank, hid his father in the bathroom, and then continued to embezzle his father's pension... There was no drop of blood in the plot above, but it made people creepy.
It is a way of survival for children, but for parents, it is like a knife stabbing in their hearts.
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hollowed out parents
There is such a case in the program "Mutual Help".
5-year-old Aunt Zhang's family has a son and a daughter. Aunt Zhang's wife left early, and she raised her two children alone.
Last year, Aunt Zhang reached the age of retirement and thought she could enjoy her old age, but she didn't know that neither of her two children would worry.
Both children are in their 30s and have already started a family and work in other places.
Recently, two children often take their families to run home once a week. Moreover, as soon as I came back, I cried about how difficult it was and how hard it was for my work.
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Aunt Zhang heard the child crying and took out his savings to subsidize them. After a while, it cost more than 200,000 yuan to buy a house and a car for two children.
The more than 200,000 yuan is the pension saved by Aunt Zhang and all the assets she used to support her elderly care.
This spring, Aunt Zhang suddenly fell ill and needed to be hospitalized for treatment. As a result, not only did the two children not find anyone, but they also refused to leave the hospitalization fee.
The old man spent all his life savings without regrets, just for his children to live a better life. As a result, when she needs support, her children become "hands-off bosses".
As outsiders, we have no way to judge; but as children, such behavior is really despicable.
Sadly, Aunt Zhang's situation is not an isolated case.
In addition to refusing to support their parents after adulthood, Some children even "can't grow up" in their entire lives.
7-year-old Li Mingliang has been "other people's children" since he was a child. After graduating from 985 university, he studied for a doctorate all the way.
After returning from studying, Li Mingliang's performance surprised everyone.
He locks himself in the room every day and only comes out after eating.
At the beginning, my family thought the child had just returned and wanted to take a break for a while, so they didn't bother him.
But Li Mingliang spent two years like this.
In order to support him in his studies, the house was dilapidated and his house was dilapidated. Even the bed where his father slept was given to him by others.
In order to support Li Mingliang, his elderly parents had to go out to work as small workers to make money, and even his married sister had to use money to help the family.
Li Mingliang, who was in his prime, felt no guilt at all and enjoyed the efforts of his family with peace of mind.
The opposite of the child standing is the kneeling parents.
Parents spend their entire lives working for their children, regardless of costs. The result of blindly paying is to raise a "giant baby" in his 30s.
Liu Zongyuan wrote in "Hanliu 1 Tree, Guo Lucao ": "Although you say love it, you actually harm it; although you say worry about it, you actually hate it."
Love children is the instinct of parents, but if you love "overstep the line", it is actually harming the children.
The more spoiled the child, the less restrained the child, the less grateful he is. If this continues, the child will be like an unrestrained tree, with branches and deviating from the direction.
What is the fault of the giant baby?
It is not difficult to find that there are more and more "broken parents" in our generation.
talked about the specific reasons. Some people said: "This generation of parents spoiled their children too much. They gave them whatever they wanted when they were young, so children formed the concept of being taken for granted."
In fact, most post-90s have the awareness of taking responsibility, but lack the courage to fight.
They call their parents when they encounter setbacks in society. The parents feel sorry for their children and send money without saying a word. The children gradually develop psychological dependence. It is natural to link
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I watched a satirical short film "Giant Baby".
The short film begins. The giant baby just needs to stretch and shout "Mom", and his mother will come to help him put on his clothes; when he is hungry, he will shout "Mom", and his mother will wash the fruit and feed him; if he wants toys, he will shout "Mom", and his mother will buy them immediately.
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But one day, the mother could no longer meet the needs of the giant baby.
At this time, the giant baby fell in love with the new VR glasses on TV again. Unable to bear the baby's sadness, the mother took out a kidney from her body.
The giant baby got the new toy and had a lot of fun, but he didn't notice that the mother beside him was already lying in a pool of blood.
Finally, the giant baby got into his mother's stomach and became a baby again.
spanking a child is like killing a child. If parents do everything for their children, it is equivalent to being themselves for them.
In life, the birth of the "beasted family" is very similar to the process of feeding "giant babies" in the animation short film.
Children are overprotected by their parents. They are afraid of melting when they hold them in their mouths, and they are afraid of breaking when they hold them in their hands...
For a long time, children gradually lose the ability to survive independently. Only by "living their parents" can they survive.
Gibron wrote in "Children": "What you can give them is your love, but not your thoughts; what you can protect is their bodies, but not their souls."
Love that crosses boundaries and loses principles will only make children lose it.
Parents learn to let go so that their children will not rely on it.
As a young man, taking advantage of his great years to explore the world and discover himself as much as possible is the state of life.
Life is a journey of pursuit, and only by taking action can one get rid of confusion.
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Online writer Wang Erduo said:
"The so-called leniency of the elders is not that society abandons them, but that they abandon themselves."
As parents, you must understand:
Education has warmth and "system". We cannot accompany our children for a lifetime, but we can give them independent souls and abundant thoughts.
For children, you must understand more:
True maturity is never without "independence".
The two-way rush of parents and children is the best nutrient to nourish each other.
together.
