[Author: Qian Qi] Original: Article 103 I have recently gained some insights in dealing with family affairs. We often have too deep affection for our family, but if we have too much affection, we will lose our minds. But to really solve the problem, you have to rely on reason, be

[Author: Qian Qi] Original: Article 103

Recently, I have gained some insights in dealing with family affairs.

We often use too much affection for our family, but if we have too much affection, we will lose our minds.

It’s really up to you to solve the problem to be rational, because just having a relationship and talking about it all over the place, the result is that things still have to be solved, and the problems will be delayed more and more.

But if you solve the problem too selflessly, do things too much according to the rules, and don’t care about the feelings at all, it will hurt your feelings again.

It is easy to be sad, but it is difficult to cultivate your mind. Therefore, unless it is absolutely necessary, don’t hurt people’s hearts and break up relationships.

So is there a better solution? Actually, there are.

That is, emotions must be spoken, reason must be spoken.

But to be well explained, some skills are needed. It is to be able to take care of the other person's emotions and solve the problem properly, which requires so-called wisdom.

But skills are actually not important. What is important about is still the goal.

Because as long as your goal is clear, I want both of them, then you will come up with a solution no matter what.

From this, I thought of education for my children? Is love important? Or is training important?

Some families love their children, and they are afraid of melting when they hold them in their mouths, and they are afraid of falling off when they hold them in their hands.

Some families focus on training. They run half a horse at the age of 5, eat pumpkin every day, practice in summer, practice in winter, and some even need to adapt to life in the wild for many years at the age of 4.

In fact, there is nothing right or wrong with this. It is like emotion and reason, emotion and reason, emotion and thing are the same.

, that one cannot be missing, and that one cannot be added.

If you love too much, you will become spoiled and you will raise your children into waste.

training is too ruthless and too much, making the heart hurt, the child's heart becomes cold and numb, and it becomes a machine.

So, the best thing is to center.

is: I love you, I have to let you know. But we must also make clear the truth and matters.

is: I love you, you are my baby. But you must learn to abide by and do the rules and things.

This is the most correct way to open it.