I met Beibei’s mother yesterday. Beibei’s mother was in a relaxed state and looked in a good mood. After chatting for a while, I realized that Beibei, who had always made her worried and anxious, suddenly became enlightened. Recently, my mother no longer spent a lot of time on Beibei's study.
I remember when school first started, Beibei was very excited because she came to the new environment. She had a lot of fun every day, and her grades dropped sharply from 90 points to more than 70 points. At that time, Beibei's mother was very anxious and didn't know what to do. Until one time, Beibei got back a test paper that failed, Beibei's mother locked herself in the room and thought for a long time. Every time I do not do well in the exam, criticizing Beibei is not only useless, but his grades are getting worse and worse. Why? The child's condition has become increasingly depressed lately. Beibei's mother decided to put her grades aside first, and the health and happiness of her children are the most important. After
, for a period of time, whether it is homework or exams, my mother will find Beibei’s excellent places and actively encourage and praise it. This makes Beibei feel her mother’s recognition and support. Gradually, Beibei regained her confidence and her grades began to rise bit by bit.
Supporting children means that they can provide more energy to children and help them have more strength to adapt to setbacks in this society. For example, when the child does not do well in the exam and comes back, he is sad and scolds the child because of disappointment. The parents' original intention may be to let the child learn to be responsible for their behavior. However, inappropriate communication makes the child feel that he is too useless, too bad, and too incompetent.
At this time, the best solution is to accompany the child and tell the child that the score is not very important. As long as you have learned it, it’s better to be more serious next time. Then ask your child if there are any difficulties in learning that the mother can help you. Work with your children to find the right learning method, support and encourage them, and at this time, the children will slowly build confidence.
In fact, when a child encounters setbacks, I am not a bad thing, because when a child finds that he can support himself when he encounters setbacks. If he helps himself solve problems again and again, he will feel that he is capable and can achieve the results he wants through hard work, so that the child can move forward continuously with love.
