text/Hao Pregnant Sister
Yesterday, someone in the mother group asked this question: After pregnancy, can pregnant women attend other people's weddings? During National Day, my husband's cousin got married. Since it was really boring to be alone at home, I went to the wedding with my big belly.
When I arrived at the gift table, I met my husband's aunt when I was preparing to give the gift. She glanced at my stomach and asked politely, "Xx is here too. It's time to give birth in a few months, right?"
I really didn't see that she was unhappy at the time, and felt that this was a polite word of greeting. So, I replied casually, "There are two or three months left", and then followed my husband and walked into the house.
After a while, my husband's aunt called me, saying that she would explain something to me. I thought I was asking for help, but I didn't take it seriously.
As a result, my husband came over quickly and whispered, "Our aunt said pregnant women cannot go to the wedding room, don't go in later. Don't go to see it when the wedding is held. I will call you again when the meal begins."
I was really angry and embarrassed when I heard this. I wouldn't go there if I had known it.
As usual, the friends in the group actively expressed their opinions:
" There is a family in our village where a pregnant woman sat on the wedding bed. Then the daughter-in-law never got pregnant and then had an IVF. Although she was superstitious, if it really happened, it was difficult to explain. "
" We don't avoid pregnant women from attending weddings, but pregnant women should not enter the newlyweds' rooms. This is something we all know. As for banquets, they can be attended. "
" When I was pregnant, I didn't go to my friend when I got married. Because the old man at home said that going was not good for my baby and not good for the bride. "
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It is not difficult to see that there are many places where pregnant women are taboo for attending weddings. The reason is that it will conflict, which is not good for pregnant women and brides (the bride's blessing will be taken away, and it will not be easy to get pregnant after marriage; pregnant women may also have miscarriages).
To be honest, this statement does not have any scientific basis, it is just a custom.
However, there is a saying that goes to the local customs. Especially for weddings like marriage, Chinese people will not only look at a good day in advance, but also have some explanations when the bride gets off the car.
So, if there is such a priority in the local area, try not to go. After all, even if you don’t believe it, maybe others are taboo.
At that time, you think you are going to send blessings. But others will think that you are not looking at me, which is to make things worse. Maybe they don’t say it, but they are unhappy.
And if something really happens later, for example, if the bride is unable to get pregnant for a long time, she will blame you without any doubt. Of course, if a pregnant woman has some abnormal situations, she will definitely be confused.
In addition to this, more importantly, the wedding scene must be particularly lively. First, there are many people and noisy people, and there will be children running around, which may knock down pregnant mothers; second, there are many people who smoke and drink, and the poor air will increase the discomfort and risk of infection of pregnant mothers.
So, if the relationship is average, it is better not to go. After all, when you get there, there may not even be anyone who knows you and can speak.
Finally, I want to say that in the era of the epidemic, pregnant mothers, as a special group, should pay special attention and try not to go to places where crowds gather. Otherwise, if you are unfortunately infected by the virus, it will be a kind of harm to yourself and your children.
Senior nanny, psychological counselor, author of original parenting comics articles,
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