The new year is here, and there is a very representative question on the hot list:
There are too many uncertainties in the future. When parents have limited knowledge, what kind of underlying abilities can enable children to better face the future?
I don’t want to mention any mysterious and mysterious things such as metacognition, so I will mention four: a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, the ability to transfer learning, a spirit of diligence and self-discipline, and good interpersonal communication skills .
Positive and optimistic attitude towards life
I have been watching the speeches of many big Vs in the past two days. Without exception, everyone mentioned the various difficulties in 2022, and without exception they all mentioned facing difficulties. For example, Luo Pang mentioned the story of electric cars; Wu Xiaobo mentioned Su Dongpo.
There are really only all kinds of uncertainties in the future. In the past few years, , Omicron, and have really turned life into pieces. All plans cannot keep up with the changes. We are facing diseases, partings... The economy seems to have been declining due to various factors. Many people will forget that 2019 is the best era in recent times.
But for ordinary people, life still has to go on. I don’t advocate that children should lie flat from the beginning. If they don’t have dreams, motivation, and the courage to move forward when they are young, when they grow old many years later, it will seem like there is nothing worth remembering in life.
Therefore, the first item is to "still be able to love life after facing the truth of life." Although I don't agree with Su Dongpo's attitude towards love, I think his positive and optimistic attitude is really worth learning from children.
Ability to learn and transfer
In the past few years, I have been worried about the elderly.
The biggest impact is on the elderly, because many people do not know how to use smartphones to buy food and medicine, or even how to ask for help. Of course this requires everyone's efforts, but I think there are also personal factors.
are also old people. My parents are far away in Hubei. They are proficient in using mobile phones to detect nucleic acid and can shop online. Even in the early years in Shanghai, they were proficient in using mobile phones to hail taxis, take their children to the hospital for medical treatment, and record their lives in beautiful articles. Sometimes, I admire them very much, and I hope and believe that when I get older, I can live like them.
The topic has gone too far. In this era, artificial intelligence will replace many things, and computers can do many things. The good work you do today may not be enough for you tomorrow. Therefore, I think children need more ability to learn and transfer.
Luo Fat mentioned the news about a female architect who changed her career to become a wedding planner. She has worked at Vanke for many years. Because she loves wedding planning from the bottom of her heart, she also incorporates many elements of architecture into her marriage. For example, an African style was built in a factory building. I think this is the ability to learn and transfer - to organically combine your past experience into a new industry to make yourself unique.
Diligent and self-disciplined spirit
When people reach middle age, they have met more and more people and seen more and more things. I found that there are many smart people, but there are really not many people who are diligent, self-disciplined and willing to persevere.
It is easy to be creative, but to implement the idea, there are countless steps that need to be confirmed and countless materials that need to be prepared. Why am I lamenting the dazzling Chinese elements in the opening ceremony of the Beijing Olympic Games? Behind that is the spirit of Zhang Yimou striving for excellence.
The Beijing Olympics is a big event, let’s talk about small things. I am currently taking my child to learn musical instruments, and I am very confused about whether he should learn piano or not. I have seen many children give up halfway through the course.
I have a junior sister who is known as "the judge who plays the harp best". However, she has actually done very well in many aspects. She has a well-known father who teaches in the philosophy department of a university, and his articles and professional promotions are also very good. She has passed Grade 10 piano since childhood and is also very good at dancing.Behind the perfection of
is actually persistence day after day. I see her friends all the time. She has been working hard for her hobby for a long time. Many times, it’s not time to fight for qualifications, but hard work and persistence.
Good interpersonal communication skills
In our country, it is not necessarily said that being a human being is more important than doing things, at least being a human being is important.
I hope that my children will have good character, not cheat others, and be able to recognize those who cheat. Children have different personalities, and they may not all be lively and generous, but they must be able to communicate effectively with others.
I am an introvert myself, but I have gotten better over the years because of work. I personally feel that my abilities are acceptable, but I have also made many detours. Sometimes, you have to say soft things when you need to say them, and be strong when you need to be strong.
A few days ago, my parents felt unwell in Hubei and had no antipyretics. Their long-time friend drove up to deliver the medicine to them. After I found out, the aunt who delivered the medicine happened to have the cell phone and sent a text message of thanks. My aunt was very excited and told my parents. My parents are also very happy.
Later I thought about why everyone had such a big reaction. To me, this is just a normal act of gratitude for a distant daughter who failed to fulfill her responsibilities; to that aunt, it was a recognition of her behavior; to my parents, it was a continuation of their daughter's care and their gratitude to their friends.
Children need to have many abilities. But I think, with these four things, not to mention it is very good, at least there is no problem in life.
Thanks to Luo Pang for these pictures. I am not pursuing him. I just think that these seemingly "correct nonsense" are long-standing wisdom. mutual encouragement.
